How do I know what my talents are? How do YOU know what yours are?

Question

Everyone has talents... so I've heard. How do I know what mine are? People have told me that everyone's good at something, but I've been considering that for a while and I honestly can't think of anything. Nothing. I'm just "OK" at everything, and that's really frustrating. I'm also the middle child, which doesn't help since I'm not the 'first' of anything and I'm never the 'last'. Name anything and I'll probably be able to tell you why I'm not bad at it but I'm also not good at it. I'm sorry if I'm rambling but this has been bothering me for years and I would LOVE to discover my own talents, or whatever I'm good at. How do you know what you're good at? Does everyone REALLY have talent? I don't think I do!

Ten points if you can relate to me and help, I would really really appreciate it! Thanks!

Sorry for any confusion...? I'm not asking you to tell me what my talents are... Just how to realize what they are. Or how you went about doing that.

Answer 1

I understand what you mean and how you are feeling because I am not very good at anything in particular. I'm a jack of all trades, master of none. That is not always a bad thing.

Talent is something you can do and enjoy doing. Some people are talented for being contortionists, while others are able to swallow fire or long sharp swords.

Find something you enjoy doing and keep practising until you do it extremely well - to the point where you can make money by performing using your talent. It could be music, sport, writing, dancing, caring for children/babies etc.

Good luck!!

Answer 2

I think you're being caught up by the assumption that 'everyone has talents' from a fantasy perspective. We are not all born with talent...which is the inborn ability to do something superior to others. We're all good at something. Some of us at communication, some at caring, some in the arts, some at patience, etc. Lots of things that we're just 'fair' at get better as we practice. For example, I was an immature teacher years ago, and now I'm a skilled teacher. I think that you might focus more on your personal self esteem than on something that is either born in you or not. In order to build your self esteem, learn to love who and what you are. Do your best at everything you do. If you serve hamburgers, be the best server. If you clean rooms, make them sparkle. Being a GREAT person is a MUCH better thing to aspire to be rather than someone with talent. Good luck!

Answer 3

Well, I've actually said that all of my life as well. I'm currently attending college and am a pre-med student. However, I'm only doing this and studying these subjects that I'm not very interested in because it's the only thing I feel that I can accomplish. I see my friends who are music majors as well as bio majors who hope to get into medical school and wonder why I can't have that one thing I enjoy doing on the side. For example, one of them is amazing at playing the piano. The other is great at sports. I used to love drawing as a child and was actually very good at it and would win little contests at school, but that eventually went away as I got older. Also, in high school, I would normally get the highest grades on things and be praised for that. Ever since then though, I can't think of one thing that I'm really good at or "the best" at. In college, there are many smart people and many that get better grades. It's way harder to compete and I don't even have that drive to compete anymore. Instead, I just do the best for myself. The one thing I think you should do is not compare yourself to other people. It's more about what you enjoy doing, not what you're really good at that can get you attention. If you love cooking and you're good at it, do it. Don't worry about cooking up the best dish. If you're interested in learning something like an instrument, do it for yourself as a hobby. Don't focus your attention on finding that one talent that you're GREAT at that will make you known. It's all about doing it for yourself, for your enjoyment. In the end, all of that praise won't get you anywhere. It's the contentment in your hear that will really count. Good luck!

Answer 4

Watch Mr. Holland's Opus. There's a character in the movie that I think you will relate to, and you will be interested to see how things turn out for her.

Anxiety is the enemy of self-discovery. You must be relaxed to fully experience life around you, and develop your talents. So just be the best you that you can, identify your role models (they will give you some idea of your talent(s), as we tend to gravitate toward role models who share our qualities), and live your life in a way that makes you proud. Your gifts will emerge, and you will begin to use them in a natural way.

Be mindful of your health. Get enough rest, eat healthily, avoid junk food. All these will help you to develop yourself in a way that pleases you.

I really DO think you have a talent. Discovering it is part of the fun. And if it emerges later in life, that's okay too. You will have had a very exciting journey, and that is sometimes more worthwhile than the talent itself.

Good luck. :-)

Answer 5

actually, NOT everyone has talent. I have NONE. but I notice that in other people talent is something that comes easily and naturally that you don't have to stop and think about doing. something you really love doing and have been told your good at it is a good sign. do you sing or play an instrument without making everyone tell you to shut up? do you speak, read and write any languages as easily as english? what subjects do you get straight a's in?
what really irritates the living crap out of me is when i see real talent in other people and they don't do anything with it.

Answer 6

Lisa May,some has been given a 'talent' or two, some are considered 'multi-talented! How to tell which 'talent' you have?..just ask yourself this question: what is it, that you would like to do and enjoy it, even without compensation? As a young girl,I would be asked by my family to sing or dance, and I would gladly perform what I was asked to do even,instantly 'invent' the word for a song!Inmy early adult life,
16 years and above, I started singing...then now compose
songs...then I love to cook, sew and design womens clothes,
etc. Write down what you want to do most!

Answer 7

Well, there are things I really like to do, so I spend a lot of time doing them, and guess what, I'm good at them. They are my talents, and it took a while for me to realise that. Do you find that people come to ask for help doing something beause you are good at it? Or things you do well just because you spend so much time doing them that you find them easy and enjoyable? Try everything. You'll never know if you could be good at something if you never try it. So keep trying everything. There is always something new to learn, and it can be great fun. Good luck !!

Answer 8

I can relate - I feel the same way sometimes! The best advice I ever received about this was to think about what you LIKE to do and go in to something in that field. For instance, if you like animals: vet tech or humane society volunteer worker or pet store clerk... If you like nature, game warden or park ranger... So think about what it is that you most enjoy doing - when you are passionate about something you tend to apply that interest to what you can learn and actually earn a degree or get in to a job doing it :)

Answer 9

Talent isn't just something that is given in mid-air. Yes, there is such thing as talent, but it REALLY comes from HARD-WORK. Hard-work beats Talent. Talent is something you do on the ordinary, but don't realize it until someone points it out. For me, my "talent" came from hard-work. You should work hard for something that YOU want to do, not what someone else wants you to do. If your really looking for a "talent" out of midair, just brainstorm of ideas: origami, running, holding your breath, etc.

Answer 10

LISTEN lots of people are good at sports that i would love to play but i can't. people can sing and dance and i can't. so you have to really dissect yourself. I'm good at math. many people don't pride themselves over that but i do. i can play the violin good, piano good, and the clarinet very well. BUT I'm a middle child and my older sister can sing, dance, and has a natural gift for the piano. SO if you see what i'm saying you're probably good at something.

HOPE THIS HELPS