This other girl and me have been best friends until I moved away some time when I was in middle school. We're still GREAT friends. She's very nice, and has TONS of friends in school. And I mean TONS, and TONS. She's sooo popular (in a good way)...She has over almost 700 friends on facebook, and she's just so outgoing and talkative.
Me on the other hand...I'm quiet and shy, and while I do have friends and I talk to the people in my class, I don't talk to EVERYONE (the way she does), and I don't have a ton of friends. I have 100 something friends on facebook. I would like to talk to more people, though.
And I feel bad because I'm so quiet and shy. I mean, I still have a great time with my friends, but I just dont mix with a whole lot of people--the way she does. And it seems as if I can't change.
how can I stop feeling so bad about myself just be happy?
2007-11-14 14:30:10 · 12 answers · asked by pixiestix 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
You should stop comparing yourself to her. You need to be yourself. If you tend to be quiet and shy there is a reason for that. everybody cannot be loud and aggressive this world needs quieter type of people too.
2007-11-14 14:35:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It comes with time. Here's something that might make u feel better. U don't know me, but I'm shyer, and quieter than u. I think I've got three friends on facebook. I've got like ten or eleven friends on here. But i've got like thirty contacts or so. I've got a handful of friends in the real world too. See, ur not all that quiet. I'm sure there are more quiet people out there than me too. U've just gotta know that there's always better and worse, and what u think might be better or worse may not be at all. Atleast u can talk to all ur friends. How can she do that and do well in school? That's a lot of ppl to keep in constant contact with! U know, as soon as ur happy with urself, others will sense ur positive vibe and come to u...so u might even be popular as soon as u make urself one of ur friends.
2007-11-14 22:47:00 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tons of friend meaning tons of problem. You are totally normal. Some persons like to talk such as Mr. Bush. Some are like POP. Both are popular in their own way.
Do not feel bad. have few number of friend instead of tons - 700. If you have 7 friend quality type, that's more than enough.
2007-11-14 22:38:26 · answer #3 · answered by JH 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because you don't have as many friends as your friend or even as many as other people you know, it doesn't mean that there's anything wrong. The fact is, you DO have friends and they like you. Sometimes, it is difficult for others to know how to approach someone who is shy because some don't realize that that person is shy, so they just think it is something else. It's ok though. Those people who do make the effort to get to know you get the benefit of becoming your friend and I'm sure they are glad of that. They like you and think that you are a worthy friend. So, be happy! : )
2007-11-14 22:37:38 · answer #4 · answered by randmthots 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being quiet and shy doesn't mean that you can't have many friends...
It's just your friend liked to socialize with other people...
It is good to have few friends who are true and are always there to stand by your side than to have many friends but not true and real friends..
If you like to have lots of friends..
you can always start with a smile...
and when you became friends try to find his/her likes and more about him/her... and who knows you can have a thousand friends in facebook!!
And remember...
Everyone is unique in their own special way!
Hope this helps!!
=)
2007-11-14 22:40:46 · answer #5 · answered by .haLLiez. 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't compare yourself to your friend. You two obviously have different personalities. Be happy with who you are. I know how it is to have a super outgoing, popular friend, it's a little annoying to be in their shadow, but just be greatful that you have the friends that you have. Life is not a popularity contest. It is better to have a few great friends than tons of fake friends!!
2007-11-14 22:36:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
100 friends on Facebook damn... you ARE popular lol I have less then 20.
Anyway you just need to accept that while some people need to be the life of the party (your friend). Others naturally like to pick and choose their friends.
There is a benifit to this shy behaviour... And that is your friends are far less likely to backstab you... of course if they do it hurts a ton more.
2007-11-14 22:35:03 · answer #7 · answered by Chris B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't base your friends on the # of friends u have on fb. people just add anyone to be their friend on fb, so who cares if u dun got lots of fb friends! maybe u can start adding people u know too btu aren't really great friends with. friends should be counted by QUALITY NOT QUANTITY. u may have soo many friends in the world, but who said that they'd all be there for you when u need them? some people could just be fake. as long as u got friends that u know u can count on u r lucky already. there are lots of people in the world who can even call anyone as their friend. you're lucky that u even have friends. not everyone clicks with everyone but that's ok. later in life u'd meet more people. so appreciate the ones that u have!
2007-11-14 22:36:18 · answer #8 · answered by bubblejumm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
simple its email right? you can change and since they dont' see you just start right now and start meeting new people ad them to your book and make small talk and stuff you'll get the way you are better liked and it will come your way. there are so many in this world and so much to learn look at it that way take care.
2007-11-18 22:32:14 · answer #9 · answered by Tsunami 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
at least ur not like me, i only have 21 friends on myspace, n i dont talk to anyone in my school except for about 5 people or less!
2007-11-14 22:33:25 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋