Do you think if people cannot even afford to buy baby formula then do they need to be having babies?

Question

If you know you cannot afford things such as formula should you be having a baby?
Not everyone can breastfeed, and if they do not have the money to buy formula and they do not get assistance from the goverment then really do you think they should be having kids?

I am not being rude, i am curious to know why people do not think before they have kids because you have to have money to raise them.
You all make it sound like everything is free in life and it isn't.

I am not saying anyone should starve, you all are not even understanding the question.

Ok let me try to get you all to understand this question in a different way: If you have no place to live do you think you should be having a kid?

Ok let me try to get you all to understand this question in a different way: If you have no place to live do you think you should be having a kid?

I am not discrimanating against anyone, i am trying to prove a point, i guess that cannot be done on here.

Nevermind, no one gets the question

Answer 1

oh man, don't even get me started on this one....... I hate when I see families on the brink of poverty with 6+ kids. Those parents have doomed their kids to a childhood of poverty. If they had just one child, their economic situation would be better and they would be able to offer more to their kids if they had fewer children. Or none at all! Its irresponsible to make a human being and force them to live in such a way that they have to combat hunger or poor living conditions. If you can't afford to care for a child, then you shouldn't have one until you can. Its selfish.

Answer 2

I think what you are trying to say is that people should use birth control to prevent having babies they are ill prepared to support.Some people will put their own spin on this and make out you are saying poor people should not have children but that is not what you are saying.It is difficult raising children today and trying to meet their needs even on a good income.Most parents want to give their children decent housing , food,clothing, medical care, extra activities etc.Unfortunately many people do not take any responsibility for their actions and hope society will help raise their children.

Answer 3

Depends!! Its one thing to have a child with no money,and work your butt off to do whatever it takes to make a life for that child. But unfortunatley there are people who do nothing to make an effort. My cousin for example. She has 4 kids, no money with the first but had 3 more. And she has been on welfare for 14 years, not even trying to give her children a life. She would rather be out drinking instead of using that money for her kids. The youngest is 3. Thats what I dont agree with. People like me on the other hand, its diiferent. For me my son wasnt planned. At the time I couldnt afford formula, diapers, etc. But I worked my butt off until my water broke. 8-10 hours a day everyday with no break. And Ill be honest, in the beginning I needed help,state help. But I worked my butt off to provide for my son, make a life for him and give him everything he needed and Im damn proud of myself for where Ive gotten. Mistakes happen,and Im not saying having my son was a mistake, it was irresponsible, but what matters is what you do to change it. If you are putting all your effort into it and doing what you have to to make a life for that child, then thats a good Mother. But people who rely on state aid, I agree should not have children. People would look down on me because of it, but those were the people who had not even a clue on what I was actually doing to make it better.

Answer 4

ok, let's look at the bigger issues like clothes, shoes, the necessites needed to raise a child. let's suppose that everyone had access to free formula and no one had to worry about it. people still couldn't afford to feed and clothe their children. last year, i saw four children wearing summer clothes in the winter when they had no business wearing them out the house. my point is if you can't afford the children that you have, you have the responsibility to not create more children that you can't financially afford. my husband and i go without so they can have things and that's with the both of us. what about single parents? you can't tell me kids have everything thah they need because that just isn't possible. what about their education? what about social activities? what about the time you spend at home with them? and you can't do that if you are always working. people need to start thinking about that before they have so many children they don't know what to do.

Answer 5

baby formula is EXTREMELY expensive and you have to understand that becoming a parent is expensive by itself. the government helps with programs like WIC, the money is going to be spent somewhere, so why not on the people of america that just need a little help. it's not like they're paying for all the formula it's just supplemental. babies eat a lot you'll still have to buy more if they're on formula alone.

Answer 6

People need to be educated about what is involved with having a baby b4 they have one. If they are informed first then they may think twice.Once a baby has arrived & there's not enough money to support it then that poor child is going to suffer. Just look at those unlucky children in 3rd world countries! Education is the best policy. Unless the child is born from a crime(need I spell that one out),then the best thing is to put the child up for adoption.That way the child stands a better chance in life.

Answer 7

Um, even with **** government pay, you can afford baby formula in the West....
And that's a very discriminatory thing to say, especially for Third World countries.

Answer 8

I understand your question and frustration. My SIL has five kids and can't provide for them. She works full time and her oldest (11yrs.) takes care of the children along with help from her mom. Anyway, she and her kids got real used to pretty much begging us to give them my one and only sons clothes that doesn't fit him anymore. We don't see them often and when we do that is all they want. Even my MIL asks my husband if he has shoes for his loser bro. (40) that still lives with her. I am sad about their situation but she just kept on popping out one kid after another. I know the clothes doesn't fit him anymore but what I usually do is sell it to a gently used clothing store and give the money to my son to save up for what he wants.

Answer 9

Idealy, they would breastfeed but if not, should society just let them starve? You can't nor do you have the right to decide whether ot not someone should have children. I think ignorant people shouldn't have babies :)

Answer 10

If you are genuinely curious about this, I suggest reading "Promises I Can Keep: Why Poor Women Put Motherhood Before Marriage."

http://books.google.ca/books?id=xnGAwzqXAaEC&dq=promises+i+can+keep&pg=PP1&ots=vourwRyFCD&sig=hdEvrY_nJRxYFKdLFBkErFw8ThQ&prev=http://www.google.ca/search%3Fsourceid%3Dnavclient%26ie%3DUTF-8%26rls%3DRNWE,RNWE:2006-26,RNWE:en%26q%3Dpromises%2Bi%2Bcan%2Bkeep&sa=X&oi=print&ct=title&cad=one-book-with-thumbnail#PPP1,M1

As well as William Julius Wilson (see esp "When Work Disappears: The World of the New Urban Poor"), and Jason DeParle's "American Dream: Three Women, Ten Kids, and a Nation's Drive to End Welfare," & Sharon Hays' "Flat Broke with Children: Women in the Age of Welfare Reform."

Yahoo! Answers Pregnancy & Parenting got me curious about that sort of thing, and those books offered some good answers. They were also enjoyable reads.

If, on the other hand, you didn't _really_ want to THINK about what you're asking and just wanted to tsk-tsk the poor on-line -- never mind. But if you want to know why it happens, check out the books. You can find at least excerpts of most of them on the web, I think.