What can I do?I have been married for almost 7 years,and my husband change,he doesn't kiss anymore and he is not romantic anymore.I am 25 and he is 43 what can I do to spice things up in this marriage.
2007-11-14 14:17:07 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Also I forgot to mention that he is my first and last love,and was a virgin when I met him,because I made a vow to myself to only have sex till I was married.
2007-11-14 14:37:15 · update #1
A long term realationship is always changing over the years. Have you tried talking to him finding out what he may think about or just walking up to he and kissing him passionately can help. I know how you feel I have been with my other half for 14 years and something have change in are life but we learned along time ago to take time for are self’s as a couple. Do you have kids too? This could be some of it you both see each other as mom and dad and not the healthy active couple you used to be. Try role playing or maybe just a week away from home or over night for no reason at all but to be a couple. With a long term realationship comes some great benefits and fall back. One bennie is that you know you can do anything with the person and everyone changes maybe things that used to excide him once is not what excides him now., Again this can be a down side too if you get to comfortable with each other too you will start taking each other for granite and not try as much as you used to. Do something out of the norm for him and see how he reacts to it like maybe wait for him to go to bed then come out of the bathroom in a cheerleaders outfit and take it were ever it goes role playing is funny and can add some spice to any life. Yes it is silly but maybe he will notice that you are still the same girl he feels in love with and married. Plus at 43 he may just be stressed at work or having uummmm...problems in the area too. Has he started talking any new drugs from the doctor? High blood pressure meds and other drugs can lower anybodies sex drive. A good book to get is Light his firer by Ellen Kreidman it will give you allot of great ideas and also have you and him ever talked about or play any games like sexy dice or just a game of strip poker check out in stores like Spencer’s or adult book stores too. Most of all start talking together and see what will help each of you to have a more understanding realationship. Good luck.
2007-11-14 14:37:32 · answer #1 · answered by lovesongangel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may be cheating, so keep an eye out.
I wonder if he's suffering from something that makes him impotent. Maybe he needs to see the dr.
Otherwise...
Crawl into bed naked and be waiting for him. Smell good, fresh breath, lots of new ideas for games to play. Touch him suggestively all day long. Come up behind him and kiss his neck.
Men are men. Unless they have no urge, a naked body is all the invitation they need.
TX Mom
2007-11-14 14:41:28 · answer #2 · answered by TX Mom 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You stated your problem in the question. He's 43, and you're still in your prime. These are the most active years of your life (besides teenage years), and because of his age, he's slowing you down. He's in the years of his life where he doesn't want to do much and isn't that into much activity. Well, certainly not as much as a 25-year-old. He can't keep up with you!
If you're unhappy, why are you sticking around? You're wasting away a big chunk of your life with someone that you're not happy with. It's time to move on.
2007-11-14 14:30:49 · answer #3 · answered by Abby 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Use your imagination an and his credit card.
But ultimately you will only stave off the inevitable for a short amount of time.
Get used to it. This is what happens when you marry your daddy.
Good luck.
2007-11-14 14:29:22 · answer #4 · answered by box of rain 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should ask him what is wants from you. Then if it is reasonable then submit to his request. You try plannig something romantic to let him know that you are mature as his. You pick up were he left off! Lingerie under a coat when he get off works ever time!
2007-11-14 14:22:00 · answer #5 · answered by noluvfee 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you should know almost everything that he is into and then use that to start out with then you can start with a foot rub then a back rub and then just countinuslly take it slow and they will come around and then there is the possibility that there is really something that is bothering him and that could cause all this
2007-11-14 14:55:51 · answer #6 · answered by lucasgirlbaby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you like kisses, kiss him and he'll kiss you back. If you like romantic things, do romantic things for him. The obvious answer would also be to talk to your husband about this.
2007-11-14 14:21:29 · answer #7 · answered by some female 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him about your concerns. It could be medical - would he be open to seeing a doctor? He may also need viagra if he is less than interested in you sexually.
2007-11-14 14:46:02 · answer #8 · answered by SigGirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If getting naked regularly doesn't work then he either has a medical problem or a girlfriend.
2007-11-14 14:21:58 · answer #9 · answered by jeff b 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you being 25 should had already spiced things up...geeez
2007-11-14 14:29:54 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋