Do abusive boyfriends get their girlfriends pregnant on purpose?

Question

http://nwlc.blogs.com/womenstake/2007/10/safety-trumps-s.html

excerpt:
Safety trumps safe sex for teens in abusive relationships
Jill Morrison, Senior Counsel
National Women’s Law Center

This is one of the more disturbing headlines I’ve read lately. “Teen Girls Report Abusive Boyfriends Try to Get Them Pregnant”

My first instinct was to ask where young men are learning these tools to oppress and degrade, but on quick reflection, the real question is where are they not learning them? From judges, to legislators, to pharmacists and hospitals that impose their beliefs on others, to the protestors outside of the now-delayed clinic in Aurora, Illinois – it would be impossible for a young man, especially one with the proclivity to abuse, to not recognize the power that comes with forced procreation.

Do you think, in some cases, men purposely get women pregant? (it's contrary to the belief that women are the guilty ones, isn't it?)

Answer 1

I had an ex do this to me.
I had an abortion then left him. I'm never going to let any man do that to me again.

Answer 2

I agree that it does contradict the woman being at fault but only to a certain extent....
I know what a tough situation an abusive relationship can be but the woman almost always has the choice to leave! And they can also choose to take birth control (whether in hiding or not) to prevent bringing a child into the mess!
I think it is VERY possible though that men would get a woman pregnant on purpose!
Abusive people in general try to find ways to keep a connection with their victims!

Sad!

Answer 3

On one hand, the guys should realize that getting the girl pregnant might force them to be together just for the sake of the child. On the other hand, maybe that's exactly what they want. They might not want the girl to be with anyone else at all. The guys might rape the girls without protection. That could easily do the trick.

The bottom line is that girls in abusive relationships should LEAVE. No guy has the right to control them.

Answer 4

It can happen. How common it really is, I don't know. I'm guessing it's not really very common. I do know that a friend of mine's boyfriend (now ex-boyfriend), deliberately gave her a sexually transmitted disease. Then he made a big production of going around and telling all of their friends (esp. male friends) that she had this condition. He admitted later on that he thought this would "ensure" that she would not (or could not) then "leave him for someone else." (He thought this would make her "untouchable" or "undesirable" to others, thus ensuring he would "always have her.") Pretty sick, but true story.

Answer 5

Here is is a delightful example underscoring that this is indeed true; ah yes, I remember it well...

"Tremblay v. Daigle [1989] 2 S.C.R. 530, was a decision of the Supreme Court of Canada in which it was found that a fetus has no legal status in Canada as a person, either in Canadian common law or in Quebec civil law. This, in turn, meant that men, while claiming to be protecting fetal rights, cannot acquire injunctions to stop their partners from obtaining abortions in Canada...

Tremblay v. Daigle thus began with two Quebec individuals named Chantal Daigle and Jean-Guy Tremblay, who were involved in a sexual relationship in 1988 and 1989, with Daigle becoming pregnant in 1989. Tremblay, however, beat Daigle, despite being aware of her pregnancy, and afterwards the relationship came to an end and Daigle developed an interest in obtaining an abortion. Among other things, Daigle cited a desire to raise children in peaceful and stable circumstances, an interest in never seeing Tremblay again, and concern for her own psychological health. In response, Tremblay sought an injunction to halt the abortion, claiming to be protecting the fetus's right to life...

a fetus is not a person under common law. The Court also declined to address the question of fetal rights under the Canadian Charter of Rights and Freedoms, noting that the Charter applies to government; it has no force in legal disputes between private citizens, which was the case in Tremblay v. Daigle.

Finally, the Court ruled that there was no precedent for men's rights to protect their "potential progeny."

Aftermath

In 2000, Jean-Guy Tremblay was convicted of two counts of assault in the violent beating of his former girlfriend and her close friend which had taken place the year before in Calgary. He was sentenced to five years in prison plus a ten-year supervision order. Tremblay took his fight against the supervision order to the Supreme Court, but the Court decided against hearing his appeal in 2005. At the time it was revealed that he had been convicted of 14 attacks on women, most of whom were his former girlfriends. In 2004, the National Parole Board declined to name him a dangerous offender.[4]"

I remember when Tremblay (an obvious narcissist, du-uh) was in pursuit of modelling jobs! Nothing like exploiting one's "stardom", hey?

What an IDIOT.

Answer 6

You are making assumptions. Abusive relationships by definition are harmful. Even as women use sex as a weapon, so too do men. Teenagers are no more intelligent and are just as wicked in their devices and ways as adults. It varies from one case to another. In most cases teenagers don't fully understand what procreation means. They know the information, but do not truly understand it. In other cases, they understand but do not care. In abusive relationships, it's about power, control, and low self-esteem. Abusers are often as much victims as their victims. Though they won't admit it, the abusers usually have low self-esteem and seek easy targets who also have low self-esteem.
There is no logic to abuse. There is only vague understanding.

Answer 7

Yes, I have had a personal experience with this type of thing. I truly believe that some controlling men do this. I believe they do it for the security of being able to be with their partner forever because of the child. And it is very hard to get out of a controlling/abusive relationship. its not as easy as "just leaving him".

Answer 8

It happens the other way as well. You have a lot of teen girls in the pregnancy and TTC sections asking when to have sex to make sure they get pregnant- cause they are in LUVVVVVVVVVVVVVVV. They know the relationship will last cause they are bring a child into it.

Answer 9

The number one complaint of women is that men don’t listen. When a woman is talking, listen to what she is saying. Read here http://AttractAnyWoman.emuy.info/?QA47
Don’t watch her mouth and wonder what it would feel like to kiss her. Don’t stare at her chest and imagine what she looks like naked. Really listen to what she is saying then give an intelligent response, preferably on the same subject.

Answer 10

This I believe happens in some cases. It gives the man the control he needs and protects his trophy from others. Unfortunately this is true in too many cases

Answer 11

I grew up in a rather depraved little mining town, so if there is one thing I know very well, it's the mind of a scumbag.

And unfortunately, the answer would have to be yes.