I am looking for someone (another female) that might have something that I have to talk with...
I was married for 5 years to a man then divorced, then married him again (with many rules - in my favor)... Our
second marriage has been already 6 years. When we were divorced it was for two years...
We divorced because he 'got bored' with me, and found another woman (he cheated). He figured that he didn't know how good he had it with me, so he asked me to take him back after about a year.
my rules:
we have an 'open' relationship (he chose to have me only, but I get to have 'my friends').
we be 'nice' to each other.
we be honest with each other.
well, I do love him. I also have two lovers, that he knows (part of my agreement is that he knows 'my friends' and accept it).
There is a lot of details here, but, just with my words, believe me, all IS good. It's almost like being married to three good men (there are no children or other women involved).
NO MEN!!!
2007-11-14 14:02:42 · 10 answers · asked by Julie M 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
there's no need to write me any negative stuff people...
as for the "what if my husband found another woman?" he attempted to, and if he does find ONE for him, I am willing to share him, or he can go with her.
I am MORE financially stable than he, so money is NOT an issue for me. I am quite attractive, so, there's no issue there either.
Right now, he & I are great friends, beyond what most people would/could understand.
When he divorced me, I 'played the field'. During then, I learn how good of a catch I am, and what I can get and who I can get. In my case, I had two that I adored and was willing to share me.
As for these other guys, they both know each other and my husband. That is an agreement. Fortunately, none of them are *******. I, fortunately picked two 'right' guys.
If at the least we are like best friends (if YOU can imagine this with three other of the oposite sex).
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2007-11-14 17:08:31 · update #1
becca, I do understand your "one-man philosophy"... I hope you do understand the fact that one person CAN love more than just one.
In my case I love three men, and get to have sex with all of them.
anyway, I hope to find a woman like myself that can share her life with me. I don't mean to sound stupid, but I have a GREAT life, when it comes to my men. Is this a control thing, like somebody said, NOT at ALL... but, at the same time, a person should learn and push their own limits to learn about oneself. I have, and life is better because of that.
2007-11-14 17:13:20 · update #2
.. and he agreed to this!! Well, he deserves it.
2007-11-14 14:16:04 · answer #1 · answered by Parth 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey Julie M,
You just answered one of my questions regarding fantasizing about a heavy erotic one night with another man. Reading this makes me a little jealous of you! LOL
On a serious note, this is a very different arrangement you've got going here. Really- how can this man sit around and KNOW you've got other things going and not doing anything of his own on his spare time? Your story is very interesting.
2007-11-14 14:30:13 · answer #2 · answered by cuban_wahine 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is there a question there? That's weird - why would you remarry a man that cheated on you once. I get all your "rules" I just don't agree with them. What's the point of being married if you don't want to be completely with one man?
2007-11-14 14:13:48 · answer #3 · answered by bryn 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i cannot believe this!!
I am a married woman, and to me love means one person.
I bet this is hurting your hubby a lot; it should otherwise this is not anything.
You may think that you are getting a bargain out of this, but you aren't.
I would rather have one man that satisfies all my needs enough so that I do not need anyone else.
2007-11-14 14:30:23 · answer #4 · answered by Becca 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are in high heaven right now...because your husband chooses to have just you...for now anyways....wonder how you will feel if one day he decides to take another FEMALE lover???
2007-11-14 14:13:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess whatever works for you.....but you sound like you are a control freak and full of yourself. Thank goodness you have not reproduced.
2007-11-14 14:15:59 · answer #6 · answered by my kids spy on me 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I dont think I could do that.....it sounds like a good punishment though.
2007-11-14 14:07:48 · answer #7 · answered by Rein 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Jewel and Pure are great. There is also ALFRED SUNG forever, if you can find it.
2016-05-23 05:21:52 · answer #8 · answered by renetta 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u go gurl, get ur freak on--glad u said there was no kids! question though, would u be mad if he found another woman in addition to u?
2007-11-14 14:10:08 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Your man is an idiot.
2007-11-14 14:35:30 · answer #10 · answered by John 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋