My Fiance believes it is wrong. I have to agree with her.
But in theory, it sounds like a good idea, because it would permit us to see if the marriage would work. We would see how we would interact in real life.
But if this is sinful, I do not want any part of it.
What do you think?
2007-11-14 13:09:21 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If the both of you are Christians, how is it you don't know that God is in charge of everything? How is it that you think in such a negative way about a marriage? As a Christian, where is your faith in your God? Who is teaching you about God? If you just put god in first place, I don't know how that marriage can't work.
There's no wonder there's that famous saying: The holy things are given to those that are holy only.
If you pray to God, He's going to give you the answer. Oh, please get to know GOD.
2007-11-14 13:19:41 · answer #1 · answered by Mother of three 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The Bible doesn't specifically say anything about "cohabitation"...so I would guess that technically, it's only a sin if you're having sex (fornicating), but there are reasons that many Christians would probably want to avoid living together at all even if it theoretically wouldn't involve sex. One is obviously that the couple would be subjected to a lot of temptation when they are living together, and the other is that the Bible says to avoid the appearance of evil. Most people are just going to assume that a couple is sexually active if they are living together, so the couple could still be setting a bad example for Christians.
2016-09-23 20:00:03 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Imagine if you lived in separate rooms, or slept in separate beds. There is nothing morally wrong with living together before marriage. If it is a sin, it's your own affair whether you decide to live together or not.
However, if you intend to marry, I don't think there's anything wrong with living separately until then. That is, if nothing's stopping you anyhow, living together might only complicate things, and it isn't necessary.
If your relationship has gone on more than a year, you've doubtless run into most of the problems you're going to except for those everyday little things like whether or not you leave the toilet seat down, who does the dishes and when, whether or not you can leave your clothes on the floor, etc.
2007-11-14 13:22:28 · answer #3 · answered by rozefyre86 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Ya know...co-habitation does not equivocate fornication. But, speaking from experience I can tell you that it invites temptation and maybe even a sense of comfort with the status quo. Even more you might want to go over the tenants of your particular faith again. If you want to live according to the Bible (and aint a thing at all wrong with that), then you would not want to place your future Proverds 31 woman into a bad situation. Be sure of your intentions, don't be the tempter or the tempted, live your life right, and forget what people think about what you do for yourself.
2007-11-14 13:37:27 · answer #4 · answered by marcavelli0569 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your first instinct is right.
Living together will put in temptation's way.
Living together before marriage will show the "appearance of evil". We should not be a stumbling block to others, and not even give hints that you may be sleeping together. No matter you may not actually have sex, do you think you can convince everyone else? As a Christian, you SHOULD care about others. I know many will say, as long as you know your heart, who cares what others think. But since you've put it out there, you are a Christian. You need to do what is right for the good of others, too.
2007-11-14 13:34:51 · answer #5 · answered by Linni 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I think that it is wrong to put yourself into a tempting situation that could lead to fornication, something that is expressly forbidden. We are told in God's Word to flee from evil. You have a very great responsibility to not take advantage of your fiancee's vulnerability. She is right in not wanting to co-habit with you before marriage; what kind of witness would that be to your non-Christian friends? It really does not matter what I or anyone else thinks, what truly matters is what God's Word says.
2007-11-14 13:27:08 · answer #6 · answered by Mawia 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
It is biblically wrong and therefore morally wrong, anyone who says otherwise is not a true Christian, just a poser. If you are going to get married, do it right.
2007-11-14 13:23:28 · answer #7 · answered by Layne M 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I am in the same boat as you. I am a strong christian, but My fiance and I live together. It tears at my soul everyday that I am living in sin. But his family Lives in Russia and mine lives on the east coast of the USA. We couldn't afford to live in 2 seperate homes, and with no family near we didn't have a choice.
2007-11-14 14:04:06 · answer #8 · answered by Bride2Be 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Sounds like you spend too much time worrying about what 'God' may or may not think, and whether what you're doing is 'wrong' or not, to actually enjoy living with the person you want to spend the rest of your life with! Take God out of this relationship and you might start enjoying your life instead of worrying about eternal damnation for the ungodly crime of........oooooohhh living with someone!!! Two's company!
2007-11-14 13:25:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Morally no, but Biblically, who cares?
Do you know who put the Bible together??
A bunch of people at a council that was formed by Constantine, a ruler who converted to Christianity after he says God helped him win a war.
So I don't think you should stress yourself about anything the Bible says.
2007-11-14 13:20:52 · answer #10 · answered by sapphireleech@sbcglobal.net 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋