I think my friend and I are growing farther apart. We've been friends since eighth grade [almost seven years]. So yeah I don't know how to tell her that I do not want to be friends with her anymore.
2007-11-14 12:53:48 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I think part of maturity is not actually saying you don't want to be friends anymore, it's just allowing the friendship to move away through natural causes. I have no idea how often you still socialise with this person but you kind of cut that part of it down, usually if friends are growing apart naturally this just happens anyway. But why ditch it completely. Once you are much older you will really appreciate that you have stayed connected somehow, even if it's just once a year catching up for dinner or whatever, in all reality once you are in your 30's like me this is as often as you get to see many friends anyway! Don't say "I don't want to be your friend anymore" because its quite childish and unnecessary. Instead, make yourself less available, if she is constantly pestering you to do things. If she isn't constantly pestering then just leave it, just don't ring, don't catch up but remember her for times like birthday and christmas with a call and a card. If you don't have much in common anymore, when you do see her, do something that is neutral for both of you, such as go to a movie where you don't have to talk as much. She may be feeling the same way but I think friendship that has spanned over so long is worth holding on to even if it lacks the insensity and love that it once did. Just allow yourself to move away without being unkind, bringing distance and time into the friendship and rather than being a close friend she may just be a friend whom you catch up with occasionally, to remember the good times and to just see how the other one is doing.
Good luck.
2007-11-14 14:38:22 · answer #1 · answered by T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you have not talked for a few months it is probably time to let it go. You do not need to say anything just let the contact become less and less often. Who knows what life twists and turns may happen. You might not see her for several years and then life will recross your paths in a decade and anything could happen. If it is as you say she probably feels the same but your interests and hers are changing ... Do make more friends and be courtious unless she has done something really bad and offensive to cause you to change you view of her.
2007-11-14 20:58:01 · answer #2 · answered by ??IMAGINE ?? 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Say nothing...it doesn't sound like a feud in any way, rather just two people who are drifting apart due to new priorities in life. Just let those "boats" continue taking new directions on the ocean of life...someday, both of you may again end up having a friendship in some way.
2007-11-14 21:11:55 · answer #3 · answered by Zombie Birdhouse 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't be so quick to burn your bridges with her. Just because you aren't as close, this doesn't mean you have to end the friendship. Your relationship with her doesn't have to be all or nothing. I know you might be hurt that the friendship isn't the same but people change. Move on with your life, focus on other friendships and slowly let things go naturally. There's no need to make an enemy of her.
2007-11-14 20:58:22 · answer #4 · answered by Jasmine808 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
tell her the same way she would tell you.
if you are drifting apart leave it alone .it will take care of itself..
if you have been friends this long,, i believe that you have to examine why you do not want to be friends,,,,,
2007-11-14 21:02:29 · answer #5 · answered by RED WHITE AND BLUE 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋