There is this guy at work that nobody likes. I feel really bad for him but he brings it upon himself. He's cocky, thinks he doesn't have to do as much work because his dad owns a tiny bit of the business.
We are all polite to him and don't put him down etc.
Does he deserve to be disliked? It's his and only his fault that he is disliked. It's not like we dislike him because we think he's not worthy of our friendship, he just thinks he's t.s.
2007-11-14 12:53:27 · 34 answers · asked by Miss Blue & Riley too. 6 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
He does have friends!! We're just very diff from the people he hangs out with.
2007-11-14 12:57:24 · update #1
he even blatantly ignores my boss (and his boss') requests to do things. Just because he's his dad owns a bit, he isn't my boss no, he's the same age as I am and has been here for a helluva lot less than me.
2007-11-14 12:59:46 · update #2
No one deserves to be disliked for who they are; but, in truth, most of us don't dislike people for who they are. We dislike them because of what they say and do. Your coworker is lazy and a bit of a loudmouth...and that's really why everyone dislikes him. He's a spoiled brat who's unlikely to change until enough people decide to tell him to stop acting like a jerk.
2007-11-15 03:53:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Of course, all people are not created equal. Some are smart, some are dumb, some are likeable and some are not.
All people deserve the opportunity to prove their equality, but inevitably some fall short of that.
In this case, he's a cocky AS$ who thinks he's above everyone else because of his Dad. Unless his Dad is really wealthy, he'll eventually get a really rude awakening called life, and find himself alone and without many friends and without a lot to call his own.
Pretending to be nice to him could be a wise move from a job standpoint, but ultimately does everyone a disservice as it doesn't allow him to see how things really are, and possibly make changes.
2007-11-14 12:56:52 · answer #2 · answered by whiskeyman510 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hmm...I would think that he would deserve it because he brings it all upon himself. You guys tried to be friendly and held out your hand in friendship. He just didn't appreciate that. If he's gonna be like that, even though u've already tried to be friendly, don't bother about him. He's just not worth it. If he learned to be nicer and less cocky, and tries to become friends, then forgive him. Everyone deserves a second chance, and if he changes for the better, give him another try! : )
2007-11-14 12:59:39 · answer #3 · answered by hibiscusm 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
We're normal human, who has emotion and we're born to be that way.
Forcing yourself to like someone that you don't like is not going to work. Let it be. If you dislike him, don't tell him that you don't like him. Play it cool, act normal when you're around him, say hi or bye but just don't start a conversation. If he starts a conversation then just make excuses and walk away. Because you'll never know when you need him. I'm sorry, it might sounds evil but it's life.
It's okay to dislike someone, just don't show it. Showing it only bring you the disadvantage. Think for yourself. Life is a movie and you're the main character.
Light... camera... action... act!
2007-11-14 12:58:39 · answer #4 · answered by bigmama 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
look- i had the same problem with this girl
she was a total *****
she was rude to everyone
even the people who were nice to her
she even slapped people who tried to be nice to her
later we found out that she had a LOT of problems at home
of course her attitude didnt change
but ours did
he may deserve to be disliked
it depends on a lot of things though
make sure he doesnt need anything else to go through before though
im pretty sure the guy doesnt need that too
but my suggestion- just do what u r doing now but try to avoid him w/lo being obvious
2007-11-14 13:01:00 · answer #5 · answered by Sam 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe its time someone lets his DAD know about this. There are to many DAD's giving their idiot kids a chance, when the kid ends up driving the company into the friggin ground due to incompetance. Moreover, the kids typically do act like this idiot.
Why do you feel bad for him??? Tha's the only strange part of your question.
2007-11-14 12:59:53 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, of course! People bring things on themselves sometimes. He sounds like a person who doesnt really care what others say about him, and while thats commendable in some respects, and circumstances, in this one, its not an altogether good thing. If he wants to be liked, then he should change.
2007-11-14 12:57:18 · answer #7 · answered by ♥♫i luv♥♫juicy fruit♥♫gum 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like he's created his own atmosphere and doesn't care whether or not he's liked.
If he was socially inept and trying, it would be different.
Sounds to me like he wants to be superior, so that's his problem.
Deserving to be disliked? Is that like asking for contempt? I don't think anyone wants to be treated with contempt.
Be polite, civil and leave him alone. If he wants friends, he'll try.
2007-11-14 13:08:58 · answer #8 · answered by muppetkiller_2000 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you cant change how people think of him if hes cocky or whatever. no point in trying to be friends with him if hes not going to appreciate it. but as for the question, no i dont think anyone DESERVES to be disliked, some people just are
2007-11-14 12:59:54 · answer #9 · answered by ☆♥..Kt South☆ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes he deserves to be dislikes. It sounds like he's asking for it. Who cares if his dad ownes a little bit of the company, HE can't fire you.
2007-11-14 12:57:01 · answer #10 · answered by total_gemini32 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋