He has no friends. I have some female friends. We have no friends as a couple. We have been out to dinner twice with other couples and entertained once in twenty years of marriage. It didn't matter when the kids were little because we were busy and all that. Now that the kids are older, I'm lonely as hell.
I enjoy the company of men as much and sometimes more than women. I'm more comfortable around men than I am women. I'd like to befriend a man who is involved in a group my son is in. I see him once a week and whenever we get on the phone we talk longer than is necessary. I think he's funny and interesting.
Can I have a friendship with a divorced man? Nothing romantic here - we're not the other's type and I'm not looking. Please don't suggest I invite him over. My husband is intimidated by this man (he's really smart) and my husband does not like to have company anyway. Thanks.
2007-11-14 12:15:07 · 6 answers · asked by my kids spy on me 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
no, it's not okay...before you know it one thing could lead to another.
my husband had many female "friends" and he said that if they call him for some "help" he would help them out with advice and all that...
2007-11-14 13:15:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Although I understand where you are coming from, I do believe that if you did befriend this individual, your marriage would suffer. You say your husband is intimidated by this man, there is already an issue...
If you love your husband, talk to him. What are his interests. Do you guys like anything collectively. A sport, dancing, any hobbies you are both interested in. When you do find something you both like, get on the net and find out if there is any clubs you can both attend which are local. That should give you a chance to socialise with like-minded people.
If he isn't interested in doing anything, be straight up with him, tell him you love him but are bored as hell, and if he isn't prepared to nurture your relationship, you found a pal in your sons friends father, or whatever he is, and your going to invite him over for dinner.
Shouldn't take hubby long to pull up his socks and make an effort to nuture your relationship..
Good luck!!!
2007-11-14 12:54:58 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like a carbon copy of my husband and I. However, we have not been married quite as long, and we don't have children. I befriended my co-workers, and would talk with them, but I wouldn't do it when I was spending time with my husband. Ultimately this became a huge issue, and to make a long story short, it made us realize we had different needs and could not fulfill each other's needs.
You are looking to others to fulfill that need to socialize, and that is a huge red flag that should make you both realize your relationship needs some TLC. Go to counseling and work on making a closer connection instead of seeking out new friends right away.
2007-11-14 12:36:04 · answer #3 · answered by I do 26.2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well the only problem you have is a husband who is unsocialable. And to ahve friends over would be impossible with him around. It's al right to ahve friends(men or women) as long it's just friendship. But knowing th at prune of a husband you ahve he will make comething big of you ahving a man friend. SO be carefull and enjoy all your friends
2007-11-14 12:28:03 · answer #4 · answered by Always ready for anything 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be careful that you don't have an emotional affair with this guy.
But as long as your husband knows everything, it should be OK. You are in trouble the moment that you feel like you have to lie or hide anything.
Why doesn't your husband have any friends? Maybe he needs some counseling. Everybody has buddies that they bowl with, play cards with, or just pal around. It is unhealthy to have no one of the same sex to confide in (same for you).
2007-11-14 12:23:26 · answer #5 · answered by Randy G 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why would you want to? especially if you man feels uncomfortable. my husband and i have no friends and we like it like that. all we got is each other and our kids. and really, that's all we need.
2007-11-14 12:42:27 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋