I am a 16 year old girl. i am not a lesbian not in a little bit of way.I do not find men attactive i do not see what woman see in them. I hear woman talking about men like they are so good looking and stuff. And i just don't get it i do not see what they see.
I know when i was younger boys and my stepdad and his freinds used to call me ugly. And i am ugly. I do not know if that is some reason why i do not find men attracive or not.
Do you have the same problem as me?
2007-11-14 12:01:07 · 24 answers · asked by Sheb 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Maybe your a little late in the game because your mind is occupied else where. There will that guy that will catch you off guard.
2007-11-14 12:06:24 · answer #1 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are 16, and you want to have all the answers already? What adventures would be left for the rest of your life?
The word "ugly" is way, way over-used. You may in fact not be all that pretty. I've always been fat, which means mostly being treated rather badly by boys and sometimes even men. But the older a man gets, the more he realizes that there's more important things about a woman than what she looks like. So if you want to get to know something about men, talk to an older brother, or uncle, or even your dad, if he is willing to talk to you.
A lot of the other girls might indeed wonder what everyone is going on so about, but they do it too in order to "fit in." Some people never develop a particularly high sex drive, and that's OK. Just go ahead and be yourself (I know, everyone says that but nobody tells you how to go about it), enjoy being 16 and not all goofy about boys, and take your time. Maybe you will develop better relationships because you waited until you had some maturity to make decisions about what you want.
Since you clearly consider yourself no great prize in terms of looks, you may indeed need to get to know men for reasons that don't have to do with looks, and make friends with them without that pressure. What a man looks like is so much less important than what he acts like anyway.
Enjoy!
2007-11-14 12:12:47 · answer #2 · answered by auntb93 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Damn, first of all just because someone says you're ugly doesn't make it true!! Don't believe it! Everyone is beautiful in different ways.
Anyway, maybe you haven't developed feelings of attraction yet. Everyone develops in a different way, so don't be alarmed. I'm a guy and I ALWAYS knew I was attracted to other guys since I as long as I can remember. When I was about 18 I started developing feelings for women as well and realized I was bisexual. But to be honest I never have any crazy uncontrollable feelings for either gender, so sometimes I wonder if I'm asexual lol..
Just because you're not like most doesn't mean you're not normal, you're just different. So love yourself and just wait and see how your personality takes shape as you grow up.
2007-11-14 12:08:45 · answer #3 · answered by sexy one 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The question is, do you find women attractive at all? (It doesn't matter if you are a lesbian.)
It could be something that happened to you in the past, like abuse of some sort.
Or, you might have not finished with your puberty.
I don't think it has anything to do with your parent telling you you are ugly. That's mean though and verbal abuse so , well I guess it might have something to do with it.
2007-11-14 12:35:13 · answer #4 · answered by juliettavirgo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look just because people say you're ugly doesn't make it true. beauty is in the eye of the beholder meaning that someone does find you attractive just you haven't them yet. and yes verbal abuse (being called ugly repeatedly) can cause a person not to like their abuser and all other people similar to their abuser.
NOTE: i am not a psychiatrist or anything so i may be wrong.
my suggestion for you would be to speak with your school's counselor about this issue. he or she should be able to help find a group that deals with these issues and stuff like that.
hope that helps.
2007-11-14 12:07:13 · answer #5 · answered by aerothen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah...
I mean I'm in high school, and there's like a ton of guys there, but none of them are REALLY cute to me. I just don't feel that attraction. Your just not boy crazy yet like other girls, and that's a good thing. It takes time. And don't call yourself ugly because that's bad for your self-esteem. There's probably way uglier people out there than you. But what makes them shine is their self-confidence in themselves. So even if your really ugly, you could still be beautiful to someone. Just remember that.
2007-11-14 12:06:40 · answer #6 · answered by arenagymnast44 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are created by God. He made you beautiful and one-of-a-kind. You are a beautiful 16 year old young woman. You don't even have to think about boys yet if you don't want to. Maybe you would rather think about your education, or how to excel in women's sports,,,,something like that. Don't worry about not being attracted to boys. Enjoy your time as a young teen ager. You will be a grown up woman before you know it. Plenty of time to think about boys then.
2007-11-14 12:06:35 · answer #7 · answered by mgs4Real 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have a guy friend that wasn't attracted to guys or girls until he was 21 or so. Not everyone likes people, don't worry. There are more important things to worry about anyway.
I'm sorry your family said you are ugly. That's horrible.
2007-11-14 12:05:53 · answer #8 · answered by Angelica124 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No I don't have the same problem as you. If a girl does not find men attractive then maybe she will find women attractive.
2007-11-14 12:04:56 · answer #9 · answered by ♥Šωèé†íé♥ 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
umm...no.
I dont find men attractive. Quite frankly, I dont ever want to be penetrated by a man. I find women the fairer sex completely.
I feel like you , yes.
2007-11-14 12:09:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋