I am attracted to men and not women, but the idea of acting on this attraction sickens me. I would rather die than have a sexual relationship or encounter with another man. What are the chances I can overcome my attratctions?
2007-11-14 11:04:50 · 11 answers · asked by Frenchboi 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
You can suppress your attractions, you can pretend to be straight. But you will only be unhappy with the life you will have and may end up hurting others in ther future (should you get married and have kids).
You need to turn to someone that you trust completely, that will not judge you, and will hold your confidence. Then talk to them and get to the root of what you are feeling.
You need to be happy with who you are. You have to live your life so don't listen to what anyone else tells you that you need to be happy. Only you know that.
It's hard, but you have to be you and be happy with you.
2007-11-14 11:15:19 · answer #1 · answered by mikedmags 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you're serious, your chances are very good. You're not alone in what you are feeling. There is an organization for men just like you, and they have helped others and can help you and they have chapters all over the world.
Exodus International has helped men that are attracted to other men but desire a life with women make that possible. You should check them out. They're not all preachy and anti-gay, they believe that if you think you're gay, that's okay. But if you not okay with the thought of being gay, they want to help you. They can help you affirm your desire to be and live as a straight man. They're at least worth checking out, they have countless success stories.
http://www.exodus.to/
2007-11-14 19:29:04 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have you ever seen the movie Clockwork Orange. If not, outside of that type of treatment, I'd say your stuck with your situation and need to learn how to live with it. I'm not gay but I'm gonna say that if you are disgusted by acting on your urges either A you aren't 100% gay or B. you're gonna be very miserable running away from your desires your whole life. You should follow what feels natural to you. You'll follow the right path for you in the end by opening your mind to what comes naturally and not suppressing your ideas.
2007-11-14 19:13:30 · answer #3 · answered by charles g 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are only attracted to men, then you are gay. You can't be forced to be sexually attracted to women. That's not how it works. You need to accept yourself for who you are. It will take time, but you will be much happier being comfortable with yourself than living a life where you try to suppress your attractions. There are all kinds of websites and message boards out there dedicated to people in situations like you. Perhaps you should investigate a bit. Best of luck.
2007-11-14 19:28:24 · answer #4 · answered by BCW 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
PLEASE don't force yourself to marry a woman--let alone have children. I don't know how to answer your Qu, but it's a new social atmosphere with a better understanding that there are not clear-cut heterosexuals! I think that the latest research has come up with data that it depends upon the mother's amount of testosterone vs. estrogen at the time on concepttion!! We all have both!! NOWADAYS, homosexualism is a FACT and please don't force yourself to be something that you are NOT!! MOVE to a geographical area that is more accepting of differences!!! GO to a GOOD therapist and explore your beliefs and feelings!! It sounds like you may be in a very conservative geographical area.
2007-11-14 20:51:07 · answer #5 · answered by Martell 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are sickened by the idea of being with a guy, then I am not so assured that you are gay. It is perfectly normal for a person to question their sexual identity, especially in the teen/tween years. If you are sickened by the idea of being with a guy I am just not so sure that you are homosexual. You may want to revisit this idea.
2007-11-14 19:14:39 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Seriously, talk about this with a professional therapist.
I am not sure you know what you are.
You are very conflicted. You have to decide how to live your life. It is important for you to approach love with genuine affection for the object of your attraction. It would be cruel to hook up with someone before you are at peace with yourself.
C. :)!!
2007-11-14 19:13:54 · answer #7 · answered by Charlie Kicksass 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that if you are disgusted by the thought of being gay, then your not gay. How can you be attracted to guys if you're disgusted by the thought of touching them? Maybe you're asexual...
2007-11-14 19:13:15 · answer #8 · answered by juljul145 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If you are gay, you are gay. It's genetic so you can't change. Maybe you should see a counselor or psychologist who can help you accept who you are.
2007-11-14 19:19:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2007-11-14 19:12:21 · answer #10 · answered by Living In Fast Forward 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋