I am attracted to men and not women, but the idea of acting on this attraction sickens me. I would rather die than have a sexual relationship or encounter with another man. What are the chances I can overcome my attratctions?
2007-11-14 11:04:17 · 24 answers · asked by Frenchboi 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
e^(pi*i) + 1
Less than any positive epsilon
The additive identity
Non-positive, non-negative
In other words, zero. Your attractions will always persist. You are culturally conditioned to believe it is sick.
You aren't the first gay person to feel this way at first. But you need to give yourself some time to get used to the idea.
I am sure there will be some guy out there in the world who you will fall for, and he will fall for you back. And then you will realize it isn't a bad thing.
2007-11-14 12:52:57 · answer #1 · answered by J Bareil 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
The chances are extremely low that the attraction will ever go away. And then the chance of being attracted to women is probably even less, I don't know if it's impossible, but it's highly unlikely and would more than likely cause heavy mental strain and possibly damage. It's been tried before - conclusively any therapy or "prayer" treatments are ineffective and denying and self-loathing slowly break down your mind.
What's holding you back? Religion? Society in general? You need to do what makes you happy in this one life we have, and I don't see why you're not even going to give your attraction to men a chance. There are a lot of great guys out there and giving up on love is probably one of the saddest things you can do in life.
Let down those walls, those inhibitions and give it a try. Be smart and make smart choices, and you'll be fine. Love is too precious to simply forsake because of pressure from a relgion or society.
2007-11-14 19:16:28 · answer #2 · answered by The Smile Man 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
None... A very simple question like that needs only a simple answer... None... No chances whatsoever... You are physically and sexually attracted to men... And no feelings for women... Then that just wraps it up... You can not overcome attractions because that's the way you are... If you don't want to have sexual relationships with men, try a platonic level of a relationship. See if you find it good to have that kind of relationship. If it escalates to a higher level, then you decide if you want to continue with it or not...
2007-11-15 00:08:45 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
No, you can't "turn straight". First, deal with WHY you are sickened by the thought of man-to-man sex. Something in your upbringing or religion has conditioned you to feel "sickened." That is wrong, and best overcome on your own or with a counsellor. You really don't want to die instead of exploring your sexuality. Men can have truly loving and interesting relationships or just plain "dating", if they work at it, just like str8's. It is true that gay/bit and str8 men tend to have alot of one-night stands, but you don't have to do that. Trust me, follow your heart with your attraction to males and you'll be fine.
2007-11-14 19:18:27 · answer #4 · answered by unfinished_adolescent 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You can only hide them, but the more you hide it, the more obvious it is that you are, to be quite honest. You can never remove your feelings-- you can only ignore them. I would focus your energy on something not so counter-productive: Accepting yourself. You already recognize your sexuality, why not just be open about it?
Take the [just as difficult, but actually realistic] path of recognizing your feelings. Fulfilling a part of you. If you were meant to be with guys-- so be it, don't try and change it, go with it, enjoy it. Live a happy life! The change you need is your outlook on how great it is to embrace your sexuality for what it is-- not trying to change it! Good luck, and I give this advice honestly, with some experience with what you're going through, and it's the best I could suggest.
2007-11-14 19:10:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think for everyone, you have one main sex you're attracted to, but rarely, every now and then you might find yourself head over heels for a certain individual of the other sex. I think this is referred to as Bisexual leaning towards gay. Just wait and if you meet a girl you truly love, go for it! However, if you never do don't put yourself through the anguish. If you find yourself in a gay relationship the other guy has probably had the same problems as you and can be really supportive.
2007-11-14 19:22:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm not sure I even believe you... If you were attracted to men... the way I'm attracted to men... you certainly wouldn't "rather die" than have a sexual encounter with a man... you might "rather die" that anybody found OUT about it... so.... I'm gonna guess you're a troll... and move on....
2007-11-14 19:22:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's a shame that society has made you feel this bad about yourself. Personally, I know that I would never be able to turn straight - and the track record for other people who've tried it isn't that good either.
Please find a counsellor or therapist, someone you can talk with to help you come to terms with who you are.
2007-11-14 19:14:23 · answer #8 · answered by thatgaybloke 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you were truly attracted to men, you wouldn't be sickened by it. Chances are you're straight, maybe you're just finding yourself. If you are gay, don't fret--there's nothing wrong with it. We're normal people just like everyone else.
2007-11-14 19:33:20 · answer #9 · answered by That Gay Guy for Da Ben Dan 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I hate to tell you this, but the chances are pretty much zero.
Your brain's pleasure center knows what pleases it sexually, and it can't be fooled. Sure, you can delude yourself and others if you wish by living a sham external life, but you won't be fooling your brain.
You'll be far, far happier in life if you choose to do the one thing which IS in your power, which is ACCEPT YOURSELF AS WHO YOU ARE.
It's hard as hell to do, I know, but it's really the only realistic choice you have for happiness.
2007-11-14 19:28:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋