Is abortion wrong when you have no money to support you or the child?

Question

Im 18 years old and im 11 weeks pregnant. Ive made the doctor (abortion) appointment already but now I dont think I wanna go threw with it. I dont have a job to support the baby the father does and he still in my life supporting what ever my decision is. Im still living with my mother and she doesnt know. I dont know how she will react to it. I cry alot because im upset it my fault for getting in the situation anyway but I would rather not go threw with killing apart of me. It makes me sick.

There fore I dont know what to do keep my baby and hope for the best. Or abort it and regret it. Im not working because I plan to start school in January.
HELP IM SO CONFUSED!

OH YEAH IM NOT FLAT BROKE ITS JUST THAT MY FAMILY IS PAYING FOR SCHOOL AND THINGS. I REALLY DONT WANNA DO THE WHOLE ADOPTION THING. I KNOW IT SEEMS VERY SELFISH. I JUST DONT WANT MY BABY TO GROW UP THINKING THAT I DIDNT LOVE IT OR CARE ABOUT ITS WELL BEING.

ALSO THANX FOR THE ADVICE! IM REALLY TAKING EVERYTHING EVERBODY SAYS IN CONSIDERATION.

Answer 1

If you are not comfortable with an abortion do not get one. You have the majority of your pregnancy left to decide if you are to keep or give for adoption. Abortion is clearly a wrong choice for you given how you feel.

Answer 2

Well I say Do Not abort your baby. I am 18, I just turned 18 in August. I had a baby girl in February of this year. Aracely is now 9 months old. Guess what!? I am 5 months pregnant with another baby girl. I am due in March of 2008. Aracely will just have turned one year old. I am a full time college student and also unemployed. My baby's daddy is also in the picture and is employed. I was only 16 when I became pregnant. There was no question about it I was to have my baby. My mother told me when I was 13 that if I ever had an abortion she would disown me. My entire family has been supportive. Aracely is the most wonderful thing in my life. Think about it.. If you go to Women Infants and Children at your human services offices they will help. All you have to worry about is diapers really. There are programs out there that help. I got a free crib for watching like 4 pregnancy videos. A baby shower can bring you clothes for the baby. I know it sounds like a lot but I am very much against abortion. I see abortion pictures on the streets and on line I start to cry. Have you informed yourself about what they do to your baby. Your little one has a heartbeat. Tell your mom. My mom has actually been the best supporter next to my man. You are an adult and your child is not at fault for this. If god gives life why should we take it away? I know it is your decision but you shouldn't let little things get to you. There is help out there and abortion is not the way to go. I am happy and my daughter has done nothing but make my life happier and she's perfect. If you have your baby you will see what I mean. Let me know what you decide.

Answer 3

When abortion was not safe(some) women died having them. When medicine was not what it is today and babies were carried to full term (some) women died having them. When some women didn't talk to their mothers (some) babies died waiting to be born. I know it is your choice, but I have a friend who had a child and then cancer at 19, she had to have a hysterectomy. No more children were to be born to her. I have children and though abortion was available and I was not yet married when I became pregnant I could not be half the woman I am without the influence of these daughters. There was some sacrifice and a lesser lifestyle because all my extra income was spent on them, but you will live with your choice every day of your life. Make sure it is the right one. I now have 3 sons-in-law and so far 6 grandchildren. I never really considered it an option. If it makes you sick?????

Answer 4

If you don't want to do it, then don't do it. If you are already feeling guilty and crying and can't handle it, then you REALLY are going to have a tough time dealing with it after it's done. I think you would be suprised at how supportive your mother would be. Also there are many many programs available to help you get the things you need for baby. WIC can help you buy formula and milk. There other government programs to help you, food stamps, welfare. Some people will tell you that living on welfare is trashy and evil becuase you are using the taxpayer's money, but as long as you are not abusing it, i don't see anything wrong with getting some help. You seem like you want to have a life, and go to school and do good for yourself, you just need some help to get there. Also, if you are going to college, there are grants for mothers and teen mothers to help you out with that. No one is going to let you and your baby starve or die. You said your boyfriend is behind your decision, so it seems like you have a good support system. I would talk to a counselor before you make such a big decision. It sounds like you don't want to , don't do it just becuase you think you can't afford it. We thought the same thing when i got pregnant, but talking to many many people, they say you are never going to be ready for a baby, and you will always find money to buy the things you need. People spend so much unnecessary money on babies now adays, they have to have a gazillion toys, brand new crib, stroller, high chair, clothes. Some people buy a new car to accomidate. You don't NEED all these things, you really don't! Get a hand me down crib and shop the sales for baby clothes. Garage sales rock for baby stuff. Your baby doesn't need 8 million toys.

You sound like you've already decided that you don't want an abortion, so i wouldn't force yourself to have one. Keep it! or give it to a family that can't have kids. Good luck with what ever you decide and if you need to talk just email me!

Answer 5

It's good that you are realizing that you will regret the abortion in the long run because the majority of women who get them do end up regretting them- I'm glad you realized that before you went through with it. You really need to tell your mom because you might be surprised with how she reacts in the end. She may be very supportive and it will help you make the decision of keeping the child or putting him/her up for adoption. It sounds like the father is a great man since he is being so supportive. Hun, if you already know you are going to regret the abortion then I wouldn't go through with it and consider adoption. First things first though, you need to tell your mom.
Also, you mentioned starting school- many women have babies and still attend school. There are numerous colleges who offer night classes and online degrees so it can work around your schedule.
Good luck!

Answer 6

I'm sorry but the word abortion is slang for murder. If you will be scared about your child thinking you didn't love him imagine how you will feel knowing you brutally killed an innocent unborn child? There are plenty of parents out there who would love to give your child a loving home. If all else fails there is what they call 'open adoption' where you can still have contact with your child and the family that adopts him. Anything is better than killing a baby.

Answer 7

You shouldn't go through with the abortion if you already feel like you will regret it. It is a decision that is made for life and you have to be able to deal w/that decision for the rest of your life. It sounds like the dad is very supportive of you and you need to tell your mom. You are her daughter and she will more than likely be supportive of you also and help you raise the baby. If not adoption is always a solution.

Answer 8

Abortion is ALWAYS wrong - murder is murder. I don't want to sound accusatory, but you will never forgive yourself if you go through with it! As hard being pregnant may be, let the baby live, and give it up for adoption when it is born. He/she will have a chance at life with a loving family, so will be able to rest easy knowing you did the right thing.
Abortion carries a lot of emotional loads with it, including, guilt, regret, and even depression. All the hardship you go through during your pregnancy will be worthwhile in the end, because you will know that you saved the life of a human being. Who knows? Your child may affect hundreds of lives someday! (As an example, my youth pastor's parents were not married, but his mother chose to let him live. He has been all over the world preaching the Gospel and has affected so many lives for the better, and been a very important person in so many lives, including my own. Imagine how different things would have been if his mother had chosen to abort him!)
Also, as hard as it may be, tell your mother sooner rather than later. You don't want it forced out of you because she heard it from someone else or because she noticed you 'looked different'; then there will be some mistrust that will be hard to overcome. But above all, know that God let this happen for a reason, and He has something amazing planned that will come out of it! Don't lose hope! You can email me through my profile page if you ever need to talk or anything. :)
God bless you, and your unborn child!

Answer 9

Honestly, there are a lot of programs out there for women in your situation. You can get free childcare if you are within a certain income range, food stamps, and a lot of other benefits from the government. There are also probably lots of scholarships programs for women in your situation. If you really feel this bad about having an abortion, you will definitely regret it afterwards since you already regret it and you haven't done it yet! It will be hard for you to do school with a baby, but it isn't impossible. I am pregnant with my third child and am still in college, and am doing fine. I am 2 semesters from getting my RN.

So, do your research about programs in your area that can help you. They are out there if you look.

Answer 10

i dont think that abortion is the right thing to do and i am strongly against it.my husband is the only one working and supporting us right now and we r making it just fine it is hard at times but we r doing it,with a baby on the way (i am 36 weeks pregnant).besides that i know plenty of girls that r pregnant or that have kids and go to school.you dont even know how your mom will feel believe me having a baby changes everyones thoughts and she may be happy and be willing to help you guys.and even though you dont want to do the adoption thing thats better than having your babys brains sucked out cuz thats what they do and the very thought of that just makes me sick.even though you r just 11 weeks your baby has a heartbeat and its actually very soothing just to hear that and that baby does not have a choice u do.my mom was 15 when she got pregnant with my brother and 17 with me and she did just fine and u can too.believe me pregnancy is a gift from god,having a little baby growing inside you,depending on u and growing to love u.its just amazing.just really think about it before u choose abortion.good luck

Answer 11

You are asking if it is "wrong".

This is one of the hottest, most debated topics in the world. You will get nothing but answers from all over the spectrum, and not only that, by posting this question on this site, you will get some real nasty ones too.

I hope that you do weigh all of your options.

I do want to share my personal thought with you:

I saw my baby at 8 weeks and it was moving, bobbing up and down, and it's heart was beating all strong and stuff. That is 8 weeks. If you are 11 weeks, if you only had the opportunity to go get an ultrasound and see your baby, it would change you in so many ways.

That however is only my opinion, and should give you my personal answer to your question.