What do you say to someone who is talking behind your back???

Question

Well, ther is a big group of people that i hang around with...and one of them is talking about me saying that i talk about my friends it doesn't make sense because i don't talk about people and people are starting to believe it! so how do i find who is talking about me or what should i do about it?? because im losing my friends because of it!!! Help

Answer 1

I'd turn around so they are facing me when they speak!!!

Answer 2

ONLY YOUR TRUE FRIENDS WILL TELL YOU ABOUT THE BACK STABBERS.A lot of people have this trouble and,as you say, it can be very disturbing.I have no trouble with this because both my wife and myself are loners,we dont need other people,i have only met 5 people who have ever earned my respect as human beings and friends and we have been for many years.All the others are just acquaintances and never get close enough to us to do any damage.The only people who talk behing your back are usually jealous of you and try and pull you down.The people who listen to them are just as untrustworthy and bad.The only problem with confronting someone is that you may be wrong,then you would look a paranoid fool,be careful what you do love,good luck-.

Answer 3

Get the whole group together and then draw out the person who is accusing you. Begin with: "I heard you were telling these people and others that I talk about them. So I'm here now; say what you are whispering behind my back and also tell me when and where I was doing what you said".

Answer 4

Tell everyone that thinks that you are talking about them that, the kind of person that you are is you had something to say about someone that you would say it to there face and not behind there back. And if people dont beleive you then you need to find some new friends that dont belive everything that they here.....

Answer 5

then asked ur friends, if they really r u friend, they'll b truthful, the same thing just happesn 2 me recently 2. anyway, just asked them some random question, & b like, what would u do if ur friend talks about u behind ur back, if they r the 1 that talks about u, u can tell that they r a little guilty, u can c it in their face, if they choose not 2 answer, or just ignores it or something. if u cant tell then they're not the 1. or pick 1 of ur closet , most loyalty friend, & asked them if any body been saying bad things about u behind ur back...
GOOD LUCK:)

Answer 6

The same thing just happened to me two days ago; i confronted my friend and told her i sure as heck didn't appreciate her talking about me because i haven't done anything but be good to her. If that doesn't work, try talking to her about it to find out what the problem is.

Answer 7

The exact same thing happened to me, and we kicked the girl out, but DONT do that becuase you will feel like such a b!tch afterwards- tell all the friends you are losing that it isnt true, and maybe confront her- but not all at the same time becuase thats mean as well

Answer 8

I would confront the person who is accusing you of talking about other people and ask them why they telling people that. I also advise to try to find someother friends. Life is to short to deal with people acting this way.

Answer 9

It is probably out of Jealousy. Whenever you get hurt from behind your back, it means that your'e in front. It also means that those behind you don't have the courage to face you. They probably deserve to stay behind you.
REMEMBER!!:
When someone points a finger at you and talks about you, they usually forget that there are 3 fingers pointing back at them.
As to your question : You don't say anything to them. They don't deserve your attention

Answer 10

I would so call that person a hipercrit or however you spell that word lol. She is saying that you talk about your friends when she is the one talking about you which your her friend..so yeah you should explain the to her that shes the one talking about her friends which is you.

Answer 11

1st mistake is hangin around of group of people. 2nd mistake is believing that only 1 person is talking behind your back. Tell them face to face how you feel and don't bite your tongue. Let em have it!