I ask this because I have a concern. I often pop to this section because it's here where troubled teens ask their questions. The world would be a better place if they felt they could ask someone in their family, or a trusted adult, but clearly sometimes they can't. And when they get here, what do they get, but a huge lists of "ask your Mummy, if you're asking that, you're too young to be here."
And then we as adults have the temerity to get their question removed because *we* don't like it for some reason.
My take on this, is that if a youngster is old enough to ask the question, they are old enough to be given a civilized answer that treats them with respect.
I don't think we should be so quick to congratulate ourselves on getting what we think are inappropriate questions removed.
All we've done then, is maybe leave a troubled youngster even more in the dark. So think next time. They are asking us because they feel there is no one else they can.
2007-11-14 07:57:30 · 17 answers · asked by DavinaOpines 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Agreed! I will tell them if they are too young to be engaging in an activity, but I also provide facts and encouragement.
If they can't ask here, where can they ask? Right?
2007-11-14 08:01:11 · answer #1 · answered by 0 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
While I agree with most of what is said, I would have added the statement that SERIOUS questions should be answered graciously, even if it seems an inappropriate question for someone of a certain age. It's been stated by others already that a lot of "kids" (or perhaps just incredibly immature adults) come on here and ask stupid, provoking questions to get attention or kill time. Those I ignore entirely or report (if they violate the community guidelines).
I would also have argued that kids shouldn't be asking total strangers questions about parenting - they SHOULD be asking their own parents/grandparents. But not everyone has that kind of support at home - that's why they come online and ask total strangers. Perhaps they do have that support, but they're embarassed to ask. While I wouldn't want my own daugher or son to feel like they couldn't ask me anything, I can't MAKE them come to me.
I would appreciate people online treating my childrens' questions with respect, and if I see an honest question from someone in need, I'll do the same.
Wow. It felt really good to say that. LOL
2007-11-14 16:32:47 · answer #2 · answered by Love My Hubby - Hate His Mom 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Amen, well said! As a mother myself I certainly have an interest in the well being of any child in trouble. I will watch for these questions and answer to the best of my ability.
Thank you for presenting this issue. A star for you!
2007-11-14 16:00:08 · answer #3 · answered by KyLoveChick 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Yes. I ummm, wait, what was your question?
If you are trying to ask if we should just tell people what they want to hear, instead of answering honestly with something that might actually help, well then I disagree. If they just want somebody to agree with an invalid point of view or a misconception based on an unjustified rationalization, they can get that from anybody, but it's not going to do anything but hurt them and prevent them from seeing the Truth of the matter.
2007-11-14 16:20:53 · answer #4 · answered by 99% Tater says: TAX THE RICH! 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Oh for Heaven's sake. You can stop with the "holier than thou" attitude. Most of the young kids that come on here asking ridiculous questions are only looking for attention. You can seperate the serious questions from the "I was bored and needed something to do for a couple of hours" questions. They ask to get attention and to get a rise out of the people on here. Do you not see the questions they post?? Most of them are chalked full of incorrect grammar and spelling which would lead one to believe the child isn't of age. I will not treat a 12 year old that is having unprotected sex with her boyfriend because she "loves" him with respect. Absolutely not.
2007-11-14 16:02:08 · answer #5 · answered by N and A's Momma 7 · 6⤊ 2⤋
I agree, but many of the parents on here wouldn't want their own child asking strangers personal questions online. We are in the "pregnancy and parenting" category. These children need good parenting, and if they aren't getting it at home, then they should be.
Although they are not our children, as GOOD parents, we should direct them where we would want our own kids directed, to US.
What if you answered your daughter's question, not realizing it was your daughter?
2007-11-14 16:03:00 · answer #6 · answered by Malina 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I agree very strongly with what you have said above. We all have a responsibility but unfortunately people don't always react responsible and you have shown a clear example of that be saying people say are you too young etc.
2007-11-14 16:02:30 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Yes, we all have responsibilties because we all have to do something if it's not chores then its school attendance, so we all have responsiblities for something it doesn't have to be big as in paying the rent/morgage. It can be the little stuff like doing your homework.... Responsiblities show a sign of maturity.
2007-11-14 16:27:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I agree that we all have a since of responsibility, but some have more than others.
I believe the more responsible you are, the more respect you'll get. Keep that in mind.
2007-11-14 18:27:20 · answer #9 · answered by ~A Musician's Dream~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree. However there are many questionsn on here which are obviously jokes like "I m therrteen yeres old and i think that my litel sissterrrree is hoawt. Wuathr do I dooe?" But again i do completely agree with you.
2007-11-14 16:24:22 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋