I'm in the 11th grade. Ok, in our class the teacher sometimes lets us listen to our personal music while doing work, and this kid who's ALWAYS begging for my iPod asked can he listen to it, and I was like, "Not right now", and he kept begging, and then I finally said "No". And the reason why I didn't let him listen to it was because in our class we have a lot of kids who can't "get" things like that, and I was affraid that if some kids saw HIM with my iPods they were going to want to see it, then some other kids would want to see it. And I know thats how some people's things get "missing" because of multiple kids wanting to hold something of someone's.
Please don't say "You shouldn't have brought it" because it helps he focus better, and I get my work done quicker.
So do you guys think I was mean?
Thanks.
2007-11-14 07:46:56 · 46 answers · asked by B-Rad 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
No you wasn't mean--you did the right thing, because that how I lost this really cool mp3 player. I can't really remember what the name of it, but I let somone else use it---I mean like--okay he's a senior, but shorter then me-maybe like 5'7 or 5'8 and we were real cool though, but the majority of the situation is that I ask him when are you goanna bring my stuff and kept saying tomorrow several times everyday and today I still haven't got it back--in suring the time he kept saying that he had in school and never had the time to go to his locker in so when he told me that I was PISS THE HELL OFF!!!!!!!!!
P.S. In he haven't show his face at school to--he had my stuff over 2 and half month now.
In hope you get this, because I know alot of yahoo answer people is answering your question about now.
2007-11-14 08:02:52 · answer #1 · answered by R-Jay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you were not being mean. Of course you cannot expect the kids who asked to see it that way, either. You should have just told him that if you let him see it then you will be expected to let everyone see it and how can you listen to it then? Tell them they can check it out in the stores, this one is yours. It is a little mean, but in high school you are not required to share everything like in preschool! You do not have one to use AND one to share - just the one. Just let him know that in the class with him making a fuss like that, you were being put on the spot and it was rude for him to carry on like that. If he wanted to try something of yours he would have to wait until it was a better time and see if you felt like letting him try it. If he is always asking to listen to it, then he is wanting you to share it with him and unless he is your younger brother (and even if he is!) you can say "no" because it is your private property. He sounds like a 7th grader, not an 11th grader.
2007-11-14 07:55:56 · answer #2 · answered by Amy R 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not so much mean but maybe a little harsh. You seem like you are a nice person because you appear to understand that there are underprivileged kids in your class. It sounds like you feel bad about it. You're mature enough to be able to apologize to him for being less than kind... if that's the way you feel.
2007-11-14 07:53:11 · answer #3 · answered by ≤ Flattery Operated © 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you were not mean. I would only allow true FRIENDS to hold an iPod - those things cost BUCKS and if it got lost you could get in trouble, etc. In fact, that's what you should say is you'll get in trouble if you let people play with it.
A true friend would not steal your iPod, so learn who those people are and ONLY loan your stuff to people who could BUY YOU A NEW ONE IF THEY LOST IT. That is my policy as far as loaning power tools, computer stuff, etc.
2007-11-14 07:51:02 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No because im in the 11th grade and its like if you give one person gum all of a sudden your whole packs gone because everyone wants a piece. if your listening to your ipod you shouldnt have to let someone else listen to it because its yours.
2007-11-14 07:53:15 · answer #5 · answered by T_Wool37 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I use my iPod in class and it does help me get on more, but I always keep it hidden and have wire going up my sleeve to stop people moaning they want to see it and what not.. it actually works if you are sly :P So just try and hide it and don't get it out to keep changing songs, keep it on shuffle. Then you wont have to worry if your being mean or not.
2007-11-14 07:53:28 · answer #6 · answered by MrJ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That wasn't mean at all. You were just holding on to your belongings. Its ok to say "no" once and a while but if you do it too much people might get angry. I understand that you didnt want your iPod stollen, which is very responsible.
2007-11-14 07:52:28 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you were being mean, just honest... I know how it feels to have things go "missing" for various reasons, and truthfully, if you don't feel comfortable loaning your iPod, then you have to do what feels right for you. As long as you weren't nasty when you told him no.... A lot of times in life you have to stick up for what you believe in, and that's okay... :)
2007-11-14 07:51:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you weren't being mean. He was being rude by persisting. You were establishing a boundary which he wasn't willing to honor. Sometimes people need a little abruptness to know they've crossed the line. Good for you.
2007-11-14 07:52:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
naw bro, u did wat u had to do. And yah i understand, now-a-days people are getting there things stolen like that. One of my friends left her ipod on her desk to go up to the teacher for a question, next time she came back, it was gone! keep eye on ur ipod and dont be showing it off, because people can get jumped if a "wrong" person see's it.
2007-11-14 07:52:19 · answer #10 · answered by soccer player WoOt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋