...aload of people avoiding me and calling me names because they'd rather believe him then me(there's only my friends I hang about with all the time that believe I'm not a transexual(by the way I have nothing against transexuals, I'm just not one)). What can I do?
The only reason he's doing it is because I hang about with girls all the time and I talk about things girls talk about alot of the time, which isn't my fualt, I just think girls have a wider range of conversation and I enjoy hanging about with girls and the reason aload of people believe him is the fact that I hang about with aload of girls.
What can I do about this?
2007-11-14 07:01:42 · 15 answers · asked by Lily R 6 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
By the way I'm a straight guy.
2007-11-14 07:02:10 · update #1
First off, I'm surprised he isn't telling everyone you're gay. Everyone knows what gay means, after all.
Second, this is the kind of crap that happens to gender-variant people in high school. You know who your friends are; stick to them like glue. Someday you'll be able to leave that place.
Third, you're luckier than I was. I had only one friend, and he dumped me because I was so unpopular. Everyone else called me names that make "transsexual" seem polite.
2007-11-15 10:07:54 · answer #1 · answered by GirlInside 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Methinks he is jealous. Your best bet, is to ride it out with a lot of confidence. His aim is to try and make you so uncomfortable around your female friends, that you stop hanging with them. He clearly does not know what a transexual is, or that it is illegal to undergo the (five years in therapy) process to be one before you are 18. It is really important that you just laugh it off, and encourage your friends to do the same. Firstly, if he and others, see that he is not getting to you, there will be little value in pursuing it, secondly, you are an intelligent guy and I am sure that you can laugh it off and make him look like the narrow-minded, jealous and bigotted idiot that he is. Firstly by pointing out that he clearly doesn't know what a transexual is, and secondly by pointing out that it is him and not you who has the obsession with him. Honestly, ride it out, appear supremely confident and never, ever let them see they get to you, doesn't matter if you come home and scream, cry, rage or anything, so long as they don't see it. It will stop, it may take a little time, but you have the strength of character to see it through, just smile indulgently when he or others make comments and shake your head a bit, as though you pity them, which you should, really, because they are pretty sad.
2007-11-14 17:39:25 · answer #2 · answered by Tefi 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You know whether you are a transsexual. If this guy is saying things about you that you know are not true, then he is lying. That pretty much undermines anything he says.
If you protest too loudly and people get wind of the fact this is upsetting you, the crueller ones will just say it more so wind you up. If you can, ignore them.
You should ask him why he feels it’s important to label you as a transsexual. Perhaps he has gender identity issues of his own and is just transferring them onto you.
Tell him you are secure enough with your own sexuality not to have to worry about what he thinks. He’s probably jealous because you have better rapport with females than he does – and even though I don’t know that to be a fact, he sounds like a jerk and I bet most girls pick up on that pretty quickly. I bet that girls like you way more than they like him and you’ll have way more success dating.
2007-11-14 15:14:17 · answer #3 · answered by thatgaybloke 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe next time you could state something a long the lines of, "well buddy....at least I had something to lose!"
I'm sure he'll get the message and make him look the fool in front of his so-called mates.
.....or simply expect a bloody nose - you know the situation better than I do. :o)
I wouldn't worry about it - clearly the girls have more of an interest in you than him....again, this is something else you could use against him at some point to make him look the fool.
2007-11-14 18:16:05 · answer #4 · answered by Leu 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ignore the whole thing the more you react the worse it becomes. Just carry on as though it was not happening and he will get tired of doing it when it gets no reaction and anyone else who may be interested will forget
2007-11-14 18:15:35 · answer #5 · answered by Maid Angela 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go tell the principal or headmaster or whatever. That type of behavior needs to be curbed. Or you could get even by spreading a rumor that you saw him naked in the locker room and he has equipment the size of tube of chapstick.
2007-11-14 15:07:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Turn the tables, wonder out loud whether it's him thats transexual and thats why he's spreading rumours about you, if you dont want to play his games tell a teacher that will put a stop to it.
2007-11-14 15:17:19 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go and tell everyone he is spreading this rumor because the other day in the locker room he hit on you and you told him you were straight.
2007-11-14 15:09:26 · answer #8 · answered by centwatson 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
What's wrong with hanging around with girls? From reading your question, I can only guess that the guy is jelous of you becasue you have female friends, and I can only guess he doesn't.
2007-11-14 15:09:21 · answer #9 · answered by Ben N 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
How long has this been going on?
Report him then just ignore him.
He'll soon get the message and get a life of his own
2007-11-15 05:55:38 · answer #10 · answered by StretfordEnder 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋