relationship issues,this is about the BDSM/slave/Master relationships...?

Question

hello my Sir and I have been living this lifestyle for almost 2 years now.. We use to live in las vegas LIFESTYLE cap. of the world pretty much.. and we had alot of friends who could help us with new ideas.. But we moves to BFE PA and theres nothing here... My Sir is into more of A Master role but as in the Mind not so much service... but all we do is seem to fight more and more every day... I want to go more into the lifestyle like befor but i cant find my intersub most of the time.. What do I do! Please help me if you can...! please no posts from ppl who DONT understand the lifestyle.. thanks

Answer 1

Often fighting in a relationship is not specifically over the lifestyle or even over what the fight seems to be about. It may be over many small thing that are nagging either or both of you or perhaps over the move and/or dissatisfaction with the new location. A slave/Master relationship is ultimately about trust, and that is built on good communication. I'd plan a quiet evening and talk through whatever issues you need to.

Then you may need to encourage your Master to use you, perhaps by wearing a collar whenever you can or begging him (in the appropriate position) to discipline you.

Good Luck!

Answer 2

Well... first let me say, you can't force being a sub. I am a switch, and certain people I just cannot serve or dom. It takes chemistry and feeling to make a good relationship. I've gone through many slaves where it just didn't work out. My current one loves me because I have a devilishly creative mind. I am always thinking of new positions and predicaments to put her in. But then, I enjoy being creative if I can

If you two are fighting then perhaps you are more of a switch or a dom than a sub. Perhaps you should explore those sides, preferably with him, but if that isn't possible, then seek another person. Perhaps that will give you perspective on your relationship with him. Otherwise, you may become a Dom. I know several people who switched from one role to another and they couldn't be happier.

Myself, at first I thought I was a Dom, but I kept asking my slaves to tie me up, so then I became a sub. However, while as a sub, I kept longing for power. It was then, that I decided to become a switch.

So... even I didn't know what I was at first, explore the other aspects and see if they are a better fit. Don't force a relationship

Answer 3

A relationship built on sex alone is doomed
Be yourself, stand up for yourself, dont hurt each other.
Pain Sex to you cant me used in battle because you like it.
So you go to the emotional hurt zone.

Maybe get out of it or seek consul from a shrink