My hubby is always out and leaves me on my own every evening for 5 or 6 hours, I am recently bereved as my dad passed away just few months ago. And I am alone with just the telly, I've told him many a times I'm not happy with him going out every night, but it falls on deaf ears. What shall I do? His friend has more influence on him than I do. Also my hubby knows I cant stand his friend, when I go out he is constantly on the phone to him. I come in after a shift working and he doesnt even ask how my day has been. Hes just on the phone chatting to this friend for ages. His friend works my hubby doesnt. His friends life is sorted my husband is doing nothing to find work. I work pay bills sort out the house. He sleeps late and wakes up one in the afternoon. Then he goes on the internet thats his life. We might be going for ivf I had a appointment but he cancelled it because hes saying we cant afford it. I feel he is ruining my life and I just hate him at the moment help guys
2007-11-14 05:10:18 · 40 answers · asked by nicecupofteanicecupofcoffee 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
break up with him. that's a ridiculous situation. no offense but he sounds like a total loser, and you sound like you're too good for him but don't realize it. the sooner you leave, the sooner you can get over him and get into a relationship that is better for you. honestly, he doesn't even sound like he cares about you, which is pretty cruel of him.
2007-11-14 05:13:39 · answer #1 · answered by sir_mix_occasionally 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
IVF it is invetro fertilization if so and you do not have any kids with this guy. I would tell you this call a friend when your at work someone you can stay with for a few days. Then tonight when the hubby goes out pack up as much of his stuff as you can and put it on the front lawn leave a note on the door saying because of your disrespecting ways and your laziness I can no longer stay in this empty marriage. Go stay with one of friends until you can find a place of your own.
P.S.Tell him this I'm done talking to the brick wall I have been trying to communicate with you but you don't listen. I feel like I'm married to a child I have told you numerous times I hate the people you hang out with and that is all that you do. You sleep in and then you do not even have enough respect to clean the house and look for a job. If I wanted to marry a slacker I could have just bought a cat and married it.
Your a pathetic excuse for a man so now I must find a real man that can treat me with the respect that I deserve and maybe someone that has the balls to give me a child.
2007-11-14 05:28:28 · answer #2 · answered by Livinrawguy 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try separating for a while and if it doesnt improve you might as well get a divorce. Im assuming you are not stretching the truth or coloring this to get that answer. Just understand that it is not a door you can close especially if you have children. It is a turn in the road and you have to be willing to take what comes. I sounds like you dont have a lot of choice. Some men change and they grow up when they get older but you are risking the time out of your life, and he may find someone else. So it is your choice, remember it may not be over for a long time, especially if there are kids. Grampa B
2007-11-14 05:23:37 · answer #3 · answered by Grampa B 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
That's def not a good sign of a healthy relationship...
Do something to spice it up a bit... Plan an evening for the two of you with something you both like.
Maybe have a nice romantic dinner ready when he gets home and just take his phone and throw it somewhere....
Wear some naughty lingerie also! That should catch his eye and get his attention!!
Whatever you do, you must have a serious talk with him and let him know how neglected you are feeling and that you cannot go on like this!
Good Luck hun!!!
2007-11-14 05:17:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to get a job or else..give him a time limit to find a job.. also, check into the possibility that he may be having an affair since he goes out every evening..either way, i would not stand for the kind of life he is living..if he wants a mother to take care of him, tell him to move back home with his mommy..if nothing works, maybe try counseling, or get a divorce
2007-11-14 05:16:28 · answer #5 · answered by eliza l 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well first of all don't go for IVF if he doesn't even hold down his share of bills etc. What will you do when you're on maternity leave? Who will pay the bills? I say leave is sorry a** and find someone who will treat you like you should be treated. You shouldn't have to support him and his nights out. You deserve better.
2007-11-14 05:17:19 · answer #6 · answered by prettylady 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Has he always been this way? Or is he just depressed right now?
Was he this way when you married him? So you knew what you were getting into?
If he was always this way, then well, you knew who he was and you will need to deal with him. You must have married him for a reason.
If this is new, or if this is something that he slowly settled into, you should tell him how you feel. Definitely, don't have a kid now with him. He doesn't want one anyway. Decide if you love him. If not, move on.
2007-11-15 04:51:06 · answer #7 · answered by brando4755 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why doesn't your husband have a job? How long have you been supporting him like this? Whatever you do, DO NOT have a child with this loser. Get rid of him, ASAP! It sounds like he is using you for money and a place to live. Don't give him any more money!! It sounds like he really is ruining your life, but you can't be taken advantage of without allowing it. So take control if your life, starting now. Don't wait!!! Good luck...
2007-11-14 05:15:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its time to leave him! If he doesnt even work and the only thing that he works at is spending time away from you its time to let go. He sounds very irresponsible and yes please wait on the ivf you dont want to have a child with someone like that.
2007-11-14 05:17:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I Really sympathize with you.........I just read an article in the newspaper yesterday about a common failing in relationships..."Communication between partners"..its a shame people don't recognize the most wonderful thing about relationships is "Sharing" thoughts ideas, spiced with some laughter.......and your hubby leaves you..5-6 hours each night to "Communicate" with his friends and not you???.............Shame on him!!
2007-11-14 05:19:20 · answer #10 · answered by Richard G 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋