How do I bring up the question of marriage to my boyfriend casually?
(We are both still fairly young)
2007-11-14 04:56:10 · 14 answers · asked by E-net User 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
"So where do you see us in, say 10 years"
2007-11-14 04:59:43 · answer #1 · answered by Gregory F 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It depends on how young you are, and how long you have been together. It's not an unreasonable thing to know where the relationship is heading. If the guy has no intention of marrying you, then you deserve to know that, rather than waste your good years on a dead end.
On the other hand, it does take some of the element of surprise and spontaneity out of any proposal he might actually make. It might make him feel pressured, or that you want to get married right now.
I would say, as a general rule, if you have been together for more than 2 years and you don't have a ring on your finger, you would be entitled to know what is going on.
2007-11-14 13:18:35 · answer #2 · answered by helly 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You say you are young. So, why should you behave like some helpless damsel. awaiting her prince? Guys are sometimes clueless, blind and stupid. I base that statement on 58 years of being a guy. I'm sure you've dropped hints. I'm sure he's had plenty of chance to catch on- but he hasn't. Soooo, forget waiting. Today, a woman doesn't need to let the guy call the shots. Heck, give your guy a memory he'll never forget. Take him to a nice restaurant. After dinner, perhaps with a decent wine- get down on one knee, present the engagement ring you've gotten, and ask him to make you the happiest woman on earth by putting the ring on your finger. If the shock doesn't kill him, you two may have fifty years to remember and laugh about this. Good luck. And by the way, as I said, we guys aren't real great at catching on. So, give him time to learn about toilet seats and not throwing clothes on the floor. LOL EDIT My answer assumes that fairly young means twenties, not teens. For teens- wait until until you are at least twenty. At LEAST.
2007-11-14 13:38:19 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
how young is fairly young? how long have you been dating?
there's really not an easy way to bring it up but it is something ou feel like you should know so just say something casual like "what do you think of marriage?" "do you believe in marriage?" "why do you think marriages last or don't last?"
2007-11-14 13:07:10 · answer #4 · answered by laura1977 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Has he ever given you a reason that you would believe that he wants to settle down?
How young are you?
If the subject has never been spoken of than take it very slow.
If you already talk about marriage but not about you to together and it was some one else that was getting married how did he feel about that?
Or- you can forget everything and just ask him.
2007-11-14 13:04:48 · answer #5 · answered by CrazyH 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are under 20 do not even talk about it. If you are say between the ages of 21-25 tell him you would like to discuss your future as a couple and just see what he has to say. Maybe ask him where he sees this relationship going in the next 5yrs?.
2007-11-14 13:11:55 · answer #6 · answered by Livinrawguy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if your fairly young why bring it up getting married young is so hard I did it and I'm still with my husband I love him but It was tough
2007-11-14 13:00:29 · answer #7 · answered by sarah W 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ask him where he sees himself 5 years from now or however long. See if he mentions marriage or not. If that doesn't work you might want to hint that you do see it.
2007-11-14 13:00:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2007-11-14 13:57:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't mention marriage. Ask him why he wants to date you; and what's the point of dating to him.
2007-11-14 13:11:49 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't!!!!!!!!!!!!!!Let it happen on its on no one want to be forced to talk about marriage especially at a young age.
2007-11-14 13:05:51 · answer #11 · answered by hmmm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋