Been together for 7mos. There is this girl that had wanted to go out with him before we met. She is married with 2 kids and lives in a different state. In the past 2wks she has been calling for dumb things to talk to him. One was if he had talked to a mutual friend of them. Other was that she was gonna send him pics of her kids and some kind of fund raiser they are doing. He tells me that right before we met she was gonna come visit him and see if things worked out between them and if they would of she was gonna leave hubby and come live down here w/kids. He says there has never been anything between them. That he has always told her that he would never have anything with her. I think there is something there he is not telling me. I trust him but dont see the reason behind them talking. He had a pic of her in his rm but he took it down. but still has pic of kids.Do you think Im been jealous and incosiderate? I dont know if I should tell him to stop talking to her or not?
2007-11-14 04:43:36 · 9 answers · asked by cherrie j 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
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You already posted this question. Did you not like the honest answers that you received then?
If you want valid advice, you don't simply hold out until someone finally writes what you want to read.
2007-11-14 04:57:07 · answer #1 · answered by DJ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would just tell her the next time she calls that you his GF and that she need bother to call anymore. That she needs to concern herself with her hubby and her kids that this guy is off limits. You are not being jealous you are just watching out for your feelings and so you do not get hurt.
I would also tell your BF to end all communication with this girl or it is over between you and him. If he fights you on this just dump him you deserve better.
God Bless and Best of Luck
Really if this guy is truly your BF he will do anything to make you happy. If he is a jerk he will tell you to stay out of it and that he will do what he want's and you can't tell him not to stop talking to this other girl. Needless to say if he says the latter then it is time to say later jacka ss
2007-11-14 13:02:27 · answer #2 · answered by Livinrawguy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is really ruthless but i'd suggest finding out the husband's email or phone number and sending him a surprise. then make a quick exit right out of the whole mess.
at this point it doesn't matter what your boyfriend does in the situation, this woman is bottom line attempting to have an affair and she needs to be confronted on it. if she's that unhappy and needs out of the marriage, using your boyfriend as a scapegoat for that is just going to make a huge mess for a lot of people.
2007-11-14 12:52:35 · answer #3 · answered by celticbuddha 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is possible to talk to members of the opposite gender and be friends. It is also possible to bond with children and want to keep some of the bond even if the adults aren't in a romantic relationship. So instead of persuing a POSSIBLE relationship with her, he chose to HAVE a relationship with you. Give the guy a break, if he had wanted her he would have been with her.
So bottom line, my answer to your question is yes, you are being inconsiderate and out of line with this.
2007-11-14 13:08:43 · answer #4 · answered by Rebecca W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to stop worrieng about it and lay it to rest! I think from your story it sounds like he thinks they are just friends...otherwise she would have come visit back then! Maybe she just has no one else to talk to and she is unhappy... As long as he love you... Don't destroy your feelings and your relationship for "what if's" or for jealousy! Since she is out of state - don't worry... And by telling him not to talk to her - all you prove is that you don't trust him and that you want to be controlling - and that's not a good foundation for any relationship!
2007-11-14 12:51:06 · answer #5 · answered by Me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she was coming down to see if things would work between them then obviously he wanted to see if they would. Now I see no reason why you should be jealous if they are just friends and are having friendly conversation. You should talk to him about how you feel.
2007-11-14 12:53:05 · answer #6 · answered by prettylady 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Communicate your feelings with him and see if he seems to care.If he doesn't and just blows you off i would suspect something might be going on.If you don't talk to him first and jump to conclusions.Then it might be all for nothing.Communication works best.
2007-11-14 13:01:02 · answer #7 · answered by lollypop 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should tell him that ur not comfortable with it, but dont freak out on him. if it continues, talk to her and tell her you are not comfortable with it, and ask her to stop calling. she really has no business calling another man anyway.
2007-11-14 12:57:45 · answer #8 · answered by Rachel L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should confront him and ask him to use his computer spellcheck on everything you write down....
2007-11-14 13:04:59 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋