2007-11-14 04:18:01 · 23 answers · asked by Sasha 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Tell them they are ridiculous and then tell their parents.
2007-11-14 04:20:40 · answer #1 · answered by Melissa 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Tell them that there is more to life than having a baby. Once you have a bay, you cannot do the things you want to do when you want to.
At 18, you can get into some clubs and a lot of people are going out. You can't go out because their is a baby and they need to find a sitter.
Their are no good jobs that 17 year old can get to support the baby. Most jobs offer at that age are min wage jobs. A baby cost a lot. diapers, baby items, daycare, formula, doctor appointments, etc. It can cost up to $10,000 the first year alone.
Babies are not all what it is cracked up to be. Crying all night, chronic illnesses, and other issues that can happen. Raising a baby takes up a lot of your time. No staying out all night with friends, no partying, no extra money for yourself. The list goes on.
Kids should be kids. There is so much to life to see. Having a baby limits you, especially when you are young.
2007-11-14 04:26:39 · answer #2 · answered by hot47qt 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well I would ask them about their plan.
1. Where are you going to live?
2. Do you have the finances to support another human life?
3. How are you going to work with a newborn?
4. What about college?
5. What happens if the baby is sick or gets hurt?
6. Do you have emergency funds set aside in case you lose your job?
7. Who will watch the baby?
8. How will you handle not being able to go out when all your friends are going out to have fun?
Babies are cute but they are very expensive and so much work. This is not a commitment that you make one day and then 2 months after you do it you realize it is not for you. It is at the minimum an 18 year commitment and if they want to devote the next 18 years to doing this they need to be prepared to do this and not be reliant upon their own parents to support them and the new baby.
2007-11-14 04:45:27 · answer #3 · answered by MsItSeams 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would ask the WHY & tell them that all of their freedom will be lost after that baby is born & their baby would be their first priority. They'll have to work around the baby's schedule. What if they wanna go somewhere & don't have a babysitter?? No avaerage 17 y/o lives. They'll have to grow up quicker. Explain all of that to them & ask them r they sure that this is what they really want. I have a friend that had her first at 17 & really hated to c me & my other friends go places & she couldn't b/c of the baby. Now she's 20 & has 3 kids & still can't have a life. Good luck!!!!
2007-11-14 04:37:07 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Take them to get on birth control. Tell them they have their whole lives to have babies. It is a 24 / 7 job. It is also the job you better not fail at because you could wreck another human being's life. Babies are a ton of work. It takes emotional, mental and financial responsibility to raise one. There will be no more fun, no more going out with friends, you will grow up in a big hurry. Tell them to live their lives, do some things they want to do. Get out on their own (away from parents), get an education, travel, enjoy yourself!!! Then you will be ready to make the sacrifices you need to have children.
2007-11-14 04:24:01 · answer #5 · answered by andmic510 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should tell your friend to rethink this decision. Can it be done...sure, but its a lot of work even for an adult. I am a college grad and I have a good job, but its still difficult to make ends meet with a baby. Your friend may just be going through a phase. It seems like fun to have a baby, but once you have to pay $1000.00 a month for child care, $200 a month for formula and diapers (etc.)...the stuff isn't that fun anymore. Its great having a child, but its not something you want to do on a whim.
2007-11-14 04:29:12 · answer #6 · answered by tangyterp83 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honestly all I can say is that age is nothing but a number..being a parent is really about being responsible, mature, and willing to give up your whole life for that child..some teens are just going through a phase and aren't ready. Being a parent is no joke, its really hard and can get stressful..but for me, I'm 17, married, working a great job and 6 weeks pregnant. Its all about the person.
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2015-01-25 05:21:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have a serious talk with them. I got pregnant when I was 18 and I wouldn't recommend it to anyone. It is a lot of work. You need to point out to them that partying and hanging out with friends is over. My fiance and I are now 20 and 21 and we very rarely hang out or party. They have to have money for diapers and formula and clothes. I don't care who they are no 17 year old is financially, physically, or mentally ready for a child.
2007-11-14 04:22:01 · answer #9 · answered by Kmott 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It might seem harsh, but get better friends. Friends who have more going for them than just wanting to have babies. There's nothing wrong with having babies, but its best for the baby if they have a mother in a secure position where they can raise them without as much hardship. They don't realize what they are signing up for.
2007-11-14 04:23:37 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You have multiple friends wanting to get pregnant?
Tell them you will NOT be babysitting, you'll have some serious partying to do for the next five years instead.
2007-11-14 04:23:33 · answer #11 · answered by helene 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋