I make $10 an hour and i pay $495 a month now. it will go up to $600 a month as soon as she adds him on her medical plan. how am i supposed to live????
2007-11-14 04:14:55 · 17 answers · asked by happydude 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You have to petition the courts for a modification of child support. If the child support was based on your current salary nothing will change. If you make less now than you did when it was established it should go down. But let me ask you what state you live in because $495 a month on a $10 an hr. job is incorrect. The amount of support is based off what you and her make monthly combined. I am only ordered $465 a month and my ex makes $15.75 an hour so if I were you I would google the child support calculator for your state. Do you know what she makes? You need to find out now so you can figure out what you are really suppose to be paying cause if what you say is true then someone is lying to you or cannot add one.
2007-11-14 08:04:12 · answer #1 · answered by fantasy gal 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No matter what, it is going to be based on a formula that goes up depending on the number of kids you have. If she is paying the medical insurance, then you need to pay at least half of that, if not all of it.
You can try to get your case re-evaluated but you may have little luck. Just like your ex needs to make it work somehow for the good of the kids, you need to make it work too. If you get a second job to meet the payments, she could take you to court to get 20% of the second income as well. The children would be entitled to it.
I think your best choice is to find other ways to make ends meet. Change out your car for an older model (if relevant), stop eating out as much, get rid of your home Internet, whatever. You have a responsibility as a parent and that includes supporting your children any way you can.
2007-11-14 04:26:50 · answer #2 · answered by Keep on Truckin' 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Consider a second job. That's what I almost had to do - even though it would up my income, and therefore my support payments. But I couldn't find a regular job that worked around the hours of my first job, and I found I didn't have much of a talent for running a second business from my home. So I sucked it in, paid my CS and went into debt.
Child support is based on what each parent makes, and how much time each parent has the child. In California, there is a standard program, called the Dissomaster that calculates how much each parent should pay.
Some options to consider:
1. If you think the calculation is wrong, see if there is some kind of Family Law help - my courthouse has a facilitator that I can consult for free. They may be able to run through the numbers for you.
2. If your income went down significantly, you can ask for a re-evaluation of the support.
Two households are a lot more expensive to run than one. But in my case it was worth it to get me and the kids away from their pothead dad.
2007-11-14 04:29:07 · answer #3 · answered by stenobrachius 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
It is a pickle indeed. Although a lot of people are totally baggin on you, it is also understood that it is not always the "man's" fault for divorce.
Many times, it is the woman who flaked out of the marriage, but the way the twisted system works, the woman usually ends up with both the child and the money in support. It is an ongoing battle.
What you may want to do, is depending on your state, check on a Petition for Support Modification. They will set a court date and re-evaluate your total living. If you can prove without a doubt that it doesn't add up, it is possible that they will modify it.
It won't hurt your case to press forward on that.
2007-11-14 04:35:20 · answer #4 · answered by splashdesign238 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Wow I would say you need to support your child and what ever the courts say. You could always put the child on your health benefits??? My ex only makes $10 an hour and pays $82 a week that is it and I cover all other expenses such as health ins., co pays, everything. What state do you live in?
2007-11-14 04:34:29 · answer #5 · answered by Barbara S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Petition the court to change your payments. If you had a more stable career when the decision was brought down and took a lower-paying job to get lower child support, they will probably rule against you. However, if you always had this job, and the initial ruling was unreasonable, you may get lucky. Don't count on having your payments lowered, and look for a second or better-paying job.
2007-11-14 04:21:52 · answer #6 · answered by themorigan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
welcome to the divorce world. the standard of living takes a HUGE dive for both sides initially. but it'll level out eventually.
but to your problem....i have a question, why do you have to pay more if she's providing medical for him? aren't you supposed to be providing that for him, not her?
most lawyers and court systems look into the whole living expense factors before they have either party agreeing to the terms. so you need to just learn how to budget and get by somehow. unless you want to pay a lot of expenses and get a judge to re-adjust things.
2007-11-14 04:27:50 · answer #7 · answered by celticbuddha 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My kids dad and I came upon an agreement. I knew he was struggling so I agreed to go to court and lower his payment. Only the judge didn't agree and said what he was paying was fine and she didn't lower it. Sooo....I don't know if it's possible.
2007-11-14 04:26:06 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go back to court. Get the order modified to reduce your payments
2007-11-16 05:19:20 · answer #9 · answered by JoannaB3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In the U.K.they take 20% of the fathers earnings no matter what his outgoings or salary are.
2007-11-14 04:20:07 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋