of the day that he married his wife and they began a new life and also the anniversery that i officially said good bye to my old life and my first love and all my dreams...le left me at the end of october and married her today a yr ago i dont realy feel sad but i feel like i shouldnt forget it either....im friends with both him and his wife
2007-11-14 03:05:36 · 16 answers · asked by love 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
we were never married but we were supposed to be married a couple days before he left me
2007-11-14 03:11:51 · update #1
Move on! I admire you for being so generous with your friendship to the happy couple but could it be because you are unwilling to let go of the past? I think it would be best for you to move on, why mark a day that actually was very negative for you? Put your self first and lets hope that soon you are celebrating a more positive anniversary!
2007-11-14 03:11:42 · answer #1 · answered by Hencor72 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You do not have to let go of the memories that you two shared and since all youguys are friends it sounds like a fairly healthy relationship. That is, if you can distinguish between true friendship and merely not being able to let him go. Is your friendship with his wife just an excuse to remain in his life as well. From how you worded your question it is pretty obvious that you still have deep love for this man and your feelings about the break up and about his new marriage are a painful subject for you. I am not sure what your question is but I would give you the advice to just remain cautious and do not let your heart overide your head. Don't allow the old feelings that you once felt for him resurface because you are so bothered by this anniversary. I would not acknowledge the anniversary unless one of them did, which would be inappropriate on their part...almost like rubbing it in your face. You should not get them a gift or anything like that UNLESS you are really truly happy for them. As far as you and this man........DON'T CRY BECAUSE IT IS OVER...SMILE BECAUSE IT HAPPENED! Good luck and remember time does heal almost all wounds. You will get over this completely one day. You will!
2007-11-14 03:28:32 · answer #2 · answered by whatshername 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you do feel sad about it. Let it go, my dear. Don't sit around wishing you were his new wife. He'll probably leave her the same way he left you. Move on. And whatever you do, don't bring up the "anniversary" to him. Besides it's no longer an anniversary for you to remember - because it's over.
2007-11-14 03:14:45 · answer #3 · answered by gatsgrl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Um well if you are still friends with them you are equating the anniversary of them embarking on their own hopes and dreams with the demise of your own.
I would think you should minimize your contact with them. You are clinging on to a dream that cannot come true.
I don't know why your marriage ended but I wish you good luck. Get out there and live your life.
2007-11-14 03:09:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yeah I think you should eliminate them from your life altogether. If today was your last day on earth, would you be satisfied to wallow in pity? Or pick up and do what you want to do? go out and have some fun with friends, girl.
2007-11-14 03:19:01 · answer #5 · answered by Cassandra C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ur feeling some type of way and u haven't let ur feelings for ur x go. i think u need 2 b friends w/ him and the wife at a distance b/c ur haven't truly moved on like he has w/ ur life. u should 4get the past w/ him and look forward 2 the future. by the sound of it, he was cheating on u w/ his current wife if the dates ur showing r correct. I would DEFINETLY let it go.
2007-11-14 03:11:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u have reservations about saying something, then say nothing at all...it's not like they're you're best friends or anything (right??)...plus you have a delicate situation--the guy left u a yr ago. I'm sure there would not be any hard feelings if u didn't say anything...less awkwardness too!
2007-11-14 03:10:42 · answer #7 · answered by Neenie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why in the world would you be friends with them? I wouldn't be giving them a second thought. You need to get on with your life. Unless they sent you a birthday card I would not waste anymore time on this.
Why would you be celebrating his breaking of a vow to you?
2007-11-14 03:11:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
She ought to comprehend what she has finished and needs you decrease back or she is attempting to shop you on the decrease back burner incase her and the hot guy do no longer artwork out. i'd textual content her and tell her too little too overdue. good success
2016-10-24 05:31:58 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Baggage.
2007-11-14 03:09:03 · answer #10 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋