i told a man at my work that i'm very attracted to that i just want to be friends as i'm not divorced from my husband yet only seperated. I told him i respect my marriage even though i don't want to be with my husband. He came over to my house one day actually the first time i meet him outside of work and he was all over me it was so bad i had to ask him to leave. We hadn't even gone on a date. Since then he has texted me and called which i don't answer when he comes in the break room i get up and leave. Another co worker everyday asks me why i don't like him anymore hmm..? anyways i just found out my husband who is the military just went to a strip club and paid alot also he rents hotel rooms on his weekend passes as i see from our bank account. Well i got away from this guy because i was afraid of cheating with him as he is very hot. should i talk to him now since my husband probably is cheating or should i wait and be the better person.
2007-11-14 02:52:01 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Wait and be the better person! You should not seek out a relationship with anyone just to "get back" or "get revenge" for what your husband did.
In addition, this co-worker is not respecting you and what you had previously told him (about waiting till your divorce). If he did respect you, he would not have been "all over you" when he came to your house. It sounds like he's only after one thing and if that's what you are looking for, then you should call your co-worker after your divorce. However, if you are looking for a guy that will respect you, your co-worker doesn't sound like the guy.
2007-11-14 02:59:44 · answer #1 · answered by junebug 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A little over a half hour ago you asked a question about whether or not you should divorce your husband since he was going to strip clubs. No you are all of a sudden separated and awaiting a divorce and have met another man? It sounds like you have no idea what is going on. What was the other man doing at your house? If you previous question is to be believed, then you weren't doing anything wrong, but this question says that you have had a man to your house while married. I am very confused and have no ieda what to tell you other than to get your story straight.
2007-11-14 11:08:57 · answer #2 · answered by Curious 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to wait.
And when you are finished 'waiting' - choose another guy. This guy wants only one thing, and I don't need to tell you what that is. He actually sounds a lot like your husband - so if you are attracted to that type of man you need to FIND OUT WHY before you pick another one!
Just get through your divorce and take a break from dating for awhile - you'll need the time to recover from what you are going through. Trust me, I've been there.
Just concentrate on your kids and you for now - the guys will always be there when you go back to dating.
I promise...
2007-11-14 13:58:51 · answer #3 · answered by Bye for now... 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you and your husband are separated and not having any kind of intimate relationship then i don't see how it can be cheating. If you like this guy and want to see him more then do it. I think i would maybe tell the guy that i wanted to see him more but would like to take it slowly as your going through a separation.
Your husband obviously doesn't have a problem engaging in other activities so why should you not think about yourself. Enjoy and get used to life pleasing yourself.
2007-11-14 11:31:27 · answer #4 · answered by Cinderella 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're separated from your husband, going through the motions of getting a divorce. Personally, I don't think you're cheating on him. Yes, this co-worker is moving fast. I would be worried that he is trying to take advantage of your situation. If you desire a relationship with this guy; then talk with him about going slow. If the relationship was meant to be, then it will happen. Good Luck!
2007-11-14 10:58:12 · answer #5 · answered by Rebecca K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
always b the better person. if the co-worker is still interested when ur divorce is final and there isn't a clause at ur job about dating, i say go 4 it. u don't want 2 give ur soon 2 b x any ammunition 2 use against u in the divorce. good luck.
2007-11-14 11:08:04 · answer #6 · answered by Misty D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get a divorce first--then do whatever your little heart desires! Don't be a cheater-it's ok to talk the man at work--but if you get involved with him--he is a co-worker--are you sure that you can handle it? If things fall apart--it could mean another job for you someplace else-lots of talk at work about the two of you and gossip--be sure.
2007-11-14 11:03:21 · answer #7 · answered by smeezleme 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait!! revenge sex is not all that and if you are getting out of a not go great marriage don't cloud your judgment with a roll in the hay.
Hey but after you feel that you are "free" to be with someone have fun and enjoy single life.
2007-11-14 11:03:43 · answer #8 · answered by karebear 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're separated then seeing another person isn't cheating. Unless you feel that there might be a chance for you and your husband to reconcile I wouldn't worry about the idea of cheating.
2007-11-14 10:56:53 · answer #9 · answered by njagalamalaya 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
naw, your doing the right thing, wait it out, dont be in a hurry to "get even" with yourt husband. just because he's being an azz, does not mean you should be one. that guy from work.....leave him alone. he's only after your pants, and you'll end up having the whole office gossipping about you.
2007-11-14 10:56:46 · answer #10 · answered by kimmy3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋