I AM SOOOOOOO SCARED!!! mums please help?

Question

i am planning to get pregnant but i am SOOOOOO SCARED!!! my bf's cousin broke her pelvis while giving birth and is now on cruches....is this common?? plus is my belly gonna get huge? i am scared of being in pain..or that i will be in labour for ages....4 women that had their babies: can u please tell ur experiences to a frightened mum to be???

xx thanx in advance xx

i am 20......i dnt know if i pregnant yet, i am 1 week late.....i want to be u know what i mean? but still i am scared

Answer 1

Every pregnancy is different. Some have it easy, some hard. Being all stressed out isn't going to help anything. If all you can think about is you, then maybe it isn't time to have a baby yet.

Answer 2

I don't think the pelvis breaking is a very common thing. She is either very tiny and/or she had a very large baby. Yes, your belly will get big, that is what happens as the baby grows. Giving birth does hurt, but if you are lucky (unlike me) you will have enough time once you get to the hospital that they can give you meds to help with that and make it more bearable. I didn't get that, my labor started and my daughter was born in under an hour and a half so I was to far along to get drugs once I was at the hospital. The good news is, as soon as the baby is born, the pain stops and you will forget how bad it was and know it was worth it once you look into that little face for the first time. Women have been giving birth since the beginning of time and they had to do it with out the wonders of medical science for most of that time. If it was such a horrible experience, none of us would be here, or at least we would all be only children.

Answer 3

Most women get a bit apprehensive about getting pregnant and worry how it will affect their body and how painful the birth will be. Some women do have complications like your cousin but that one is extremely rare. Obviously your tummy will get bigger as the months go by but the more you look after yourself, gentle exercise and don't overeat but eat healthily during pregnancy the less weight you'll put on and your figure will return much quicker. Women also worry how they'll be down below after having a baby, well as long as you do your pelvic floor exercises then you pelvic floor will regain its strength afterwards no problem and sex will be as good as ever.
I've had four children and all my pregnancies and deliveries were different. Although of course it is painful and uncomfortable you shouldn't always listen to the horror stories some women like to tell about labour as there are many, many more women who have had normal labours that you don't hear about. After all if it was that bad women like myself would never go on to have more than one child. Every woman's experience is different and your midwife will give you invaluable advice about all aspects of it of course and the support is there if you need it. Just try to think that birth is the most natural thing in the world and and if you need a little help whether it's advice during pregnancy or pain relief during labour then that's fine. If you try and plan ahead for the birth and everyone knows your wishes regarding your birth plan then you'll feel much more confident and in control when the time comes. Of course sometimes things don't always go to plan as with everything else in life but there are always experts at hand to help you through any problem.
It's natural for you to feel a little frightened now as it's a big step deciding to get pregnant as you have time to dwell on things that may or may not happen. I'm sure everything will be fine for you after all women give birth everyday and come through it with no problems and a healthy baby at the end. All the best to you and don't worry!!

Answer 4

Do a home pregnancy test.

Delivery does not have to be pain full.

It can be planned and you can have baby without pain, since you are worried about it talk to the doctor and plan a C-Section ahead of the time, this is in order if you are very small frame person, it may be a must. Do not risk your pelvic. Have a doctor(gynaecologist) explain it to you.

Read my articles. I do not know all about you but read it for information only.
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Conceiving

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minootoo.

See a gynecologist with your husband. The doctor may ask your husband to see an urologist with you.

This way you will eliminate any health problem that might be keeping you from conceiving, by medicating them or correcting it with procedures.

Gynecologist will give a kit, it is a natural method to conceive, it will have instructions some blank charts for record keeping and it will have a thermometer to check temperature, under the breast of the female partner.

Make sure you read the instruction in the office and ask the doctor whatever you do not understand; doctor or nurse on duty will explain it to you and the partner.

Conceiving is a perfect science.
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General Advice to Young People
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Minootoo


This is my general advice to all.

You sound very young and if you are under 25, then study hard if in school or college, stay and finish it. Or join a school or college, acquire higher education.

Avoid distraction while studying at home or at school, just concentrate on the thing that you do at the time you are doing.

Build a carrier, youth comes but once take full advantage of it. Study hard, play some enjoy friendship. Pland ahead and work the plan.

Answer 5

Relax, people have been having babies since the start of humanity. It was real scary for me all 3 times I went to the actual push part. It is not common to break your pelvis, she must be really tiny. Your belly will grow alot, more than you expect it ever could, and it does hurt, but in the end you will have the most beautiful person in the world staring straight back at you, and everything you went through doesn't seem that bad anymore, almost like you instantly forget the pain and the pushing, and the bright lights in your face. Just holding your baby the first time is the most wonderful feeling in the world, and I'm almost positive that after it's all over you will say, "that wasn't that bad, I could do it again". Keep in mind there are all sorts of pain relief available now too for the hard part.

Answer 6

Broken pelvis is very rare! She must be a tiny little thing or have brittle bones.

Yes, your belly and sometimes the rest of you gets huge. Just make sure you use a lot of creams to keep your skin supple. I did, and did not get one single stretch mark! Besides, it's really the most wondrous feeling having this child growing inside of you and that makes up for the fat part.

I got lucky and had a very short labor. My water broke at 11:00 am, I took my time getting to the hospital, and my son was here at 4:30 pm. But, ask your mother how her labor was. Usually you will be on the same time line.

Yes, it hurts. Do the epidural. It blocks all the pain once you get it, but you will be in labor for a while before they give it to you. You never forget the pain, but it does go away. And yes, it's worth it!!

One more thing - breastfeeding not only is good for the baby, it's great for you too! You get your figure back so much faster when you breastfeed - plus your boobs stay huge!!!

Answer 7

Hi!
I am 26 wks pregnant with my first child and I understand what you mean. But pregnancy is the scariest but also most wonderful experience ever!!!! Especially if your partner is keen on it too! It is very scary and Labour more than likely hurts but if it were so bad, women wouldn't have 2 or 3 children, would they? Especially nowadays when you can avoid to get pregnant if you want to so it can't be THAT bad Every women I know told me that the moment you hold your newborn in your arms, you forget everything about the labour!
As for breaking your pelvis, it is very rare!
Best of luck and enjo it as , even in the life of a woman,pregnancy doesn't last THAT long so make the most of it.

Answer 8

If your pregnant just look up info online and realize that you need to gain some weight to be healthy and you may get stretch marks and stuff but it's not that big of a deal and the baby at the end is the real prize.
If you are not pregnant then I recommend you wait til you feel you can handle a baby. You shouldn't be so concerned with yourself and the way you would look after a baby when you try to conceive. And no it isn't common to get a broken pelvis during labor. And yes it can be painful but there are things you can do to help with the pain.

Answer 9

Braking your pelvis is very rare. So I wouldn't worry about that at all. As for getting a big belly it all depends on how you eat. Don't eat with the idea you are eat ting for 2. You do need to eat more but you do not have to gain 50 pounds. My first I listened to everyone else and gained 75 pounds I am still sorry for that as I still have not gotten it all off. The second I only gained 13 pounds and my doctor was very happy. Third I gained 15. With my last, the twins I gained 35. You don't have to gain a ton to have healthy babies. If you are worried just ask your doctor. The pain isn't the greatest but when it is all over it is the last thing you remember. Ask for an epidural that makes it so easy.

Answer 10

Being pregnant is the most amazing experience in the world. However, sometimes things can go wrong, so make sure that you have a support network, i.e. financial and emotional support. I couldn't have got through my pregnancy without my husband as i was scared throughout that something would go wrong. As for the broken pelvis, that is not common, and although giving birth is really hard, as soon as the baby is in your arms you forget it all.

Answer 11

Halfway through the pregnancy we had an ultrasound done (to determine the sex of the baby). At that point they told me the baby was already weighing in big for that age so, they scheduled me for another ultrasound near the end of the pregnancy to check the weight. Dr's will do this if you voice your concern. Since he was already 8lbs at that point they induced because I wanted to try a vaginal delivery, but he didn't want to come out so I got a C-section. The doctor will work with you up until the very end. I think what happened to your friend is extremely uncommon. You have nothing to worry about. Your belly gets pretty big the last few months of pregnancy, but I loved being pregnant. :) I can't wait to have another little one. Don't worry!