Which is more important in a sustainable relationship and why: physical or inner beauty?

Answer 1

Inner beauty, of course. You might love the way someone looks, but over time a man might bald, get a pot belly. A woman will get wrinkles, lose her youthfulness. I think it's truly beautiful to see couples that have been married for 20 or 30 years and see their partners as they once were. Looks fade, but genuine love, caring, and the need for the other does not.

Answer 2

I think this is a slightly loaded question. I think initially most people are attracted to the outer beauty, but it's inner beauty that determines whether the 2 are compatible.
I personally don't think beauty has anything to do with relationships. After going through several relationships that were based on looks and then later on, emotions, I later discovered it's RESPECT that is important in a sustainable relationship. If you respect each other in what they say or do and WANT to do things for them, the more I think the relationship lasts. Now that doesn't mean you should EXPECT to be respected, it's something that both of you EARN. If you find yourself constantly disappointed, then you need to ask yourself, if this person is right for you.

Answer 3

Inner beauty because the physical part is actually intensified when you are attracted to someone in a more deeper level.

To the girl who called us all double-faced (see below), while you are right about outter beauty being something that initiates a relationship, if you read the question it says what is more important in sustaining a relationship. You even make this point in your answer, so why you gotta hate on everyone else?

Answer 4

Inner beauty. Physical beauty will fade with time but the person will always be the same inside.
Course - you have to be able to look at the person so a certain degree of physical beauty is important.

Answer 5

Well in a way both are in some ways. I know what your probably thinking, but hear me out. I mean obviously inner beauty is more important but , being attracted to someone is also quite important too. I mean of course the first thing you should be concerned about in someone is personality but being attracted to someone is key. because when your in a relationship you dont want to be with someone who makes you feel sick lol! But remeber everyone is beautiful in their own way, and what one person may see as a flaw someone may see a beauty. Everyone is different and everyone has different thoughts and opinions, so dont let anybody but yourself influence you in anyway. Be with someone for LOVE!!! :]
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Answer 6

My first reaction is to rule out physical beauty taking into account the attractiveness (in my view, at least, of many older women). Jane Fonda is an example, and John Collins although her cosmetics are beginning to look over the top.
Inner Beauty can last a lifetime. It's made up of things like attitudes, kindness and personality. Companionship and understanding is also part of this.
So I say marginally inner beauty, although in some lucky people physical beauty stays and stays....
DB

Answer 7

Physical may help bring the two together but it is the inner that keeps them together. Physical may diminish with age or whatever tragic thing that could happen but if you have the inner beauty, the loss of physical beauty will not matter. Looks shouldn't be the glue of a relationship. Looks are the magnet that pull you together...inner is the super glue that binds you forever. lol

Answer 8

Let me be frank with you, People here who right away answer inner beauty are double faced. They would say inner beauty but when looking they'll be the first ones to look for outer beauty, plus who would not want a moral, honest and a true partner(characteristics of inner beauty)? here what i mean to say is that no matter what people look for both, atleast initially. outer beauty then fades away in due course of time but by that time you've ended up loving that person anyway, so , it doesnt matter. it will then matter how that person is on the inside. well some people might, very few who give consideration to just inner beauty may not pay attention to how a person looks from the outside, but such people are very few, then again let us not classify people into the black or white category meaning that there are not just 2 sides only.there are people who might like having someone beautiful but might be more concerned about them having inner beauty, then there are some who purely go for looks.well just as there are no ugly and beautiful people out there(internally as well as externally)....its usually a mixture...some having more of one thing than the other...others having both but in varying proportions. To make it simpler it just means that in general many people look forward to some form of outer beauty but wouldnt wanna forgo inner beauty at all.

Answer 9

I say a bit of both, you need inner beauty, but physical beauty can also help in sustaining a relationship, not on its own, but along side inner beauty.

Answer 10

Physical beauty is a depreciating asset while inner beauty is a nebulous concept. As time goes on physical beauty will likely decrease due to its status as a depreciating asset. However, since humanity as a whole is unable to agree on what 'inner beauty' is, we don't know what happens to it as time goes on.

Therefore we can determine only that physical beauty is not a valid standard to use determining the sustainability of a relationship.