Is it normal to be scared, worried, and a little depressed when it is your first pregnancy?

Question

Anyone with any personal experience with this, please respond, I feel like I am the only woman out there like this. I have gone to dozens of pregnance sites and all the other moms to be seem to be in a state of bliss....

Answer 1

It's totally 100% ccompletely normal, so don't beat yourself up. Anyone who says they didn't have any worrisome thoughts is lying. And pregnancy is a little scary, especially your first one! You're doing great, hang in there!

Answer 2

It is totally normal and you are NOT alone!! There are so many hormones going crazy in your body right now that make your emotions go up and down. Pregnancy & giving birth are scary especially when it's your first time, just remember that women have been doing this forever and you CAN do it.

I was always worried that something would go wrong, or the birth would hurt, or worried about symptoms I was having. I was scared to death to give birth, when we arrived at the hospital on the morning I was to be induced I started back peddling telling my husband I wasn't ready and begging him to take me home. It's normal and you will get through it. Find at least one person that you can rely on and call when you are feeling this way, it will help you out a lot!

I also felt a little depressed at first because I was afraid i wouldn't do something right or I wouldn't be a good mommy. (It also didn't help that when we told my grandfather I was pregnant he responded by saying "Well, you've ruined your body now" and "I can't believe you are going to have a kid now and let someone else raise it for you!" - I was like okay, WHEN am I ever going to be able to stay home & not work??? People can be so mean!) You will start to feel more "normal" once you get used to the idea of being pregnant and becoming a mommy, your instincts really do kick in.

SO, congratulations & good luck to you :)

Answer 3

Trust me , you are so not the only one! I am 35 weeks pregnant at the moment and it's my second pregnancy and I am scared, worried and depressed ALL the time! Same with my first. It's normal to worry.. you want to be the best mom EVER for your little baby. I can totally understand that.
I was scared of labor last time.. and still am this time, especially now that I know what is going to happen. I just keep telling myself 'I CAN do it!' and the end result is SO worth it! Finally getting to see that beautiful baby!!
I think the depression is more from your hormones acting up than anything else though... just think happy thoughts, holding your baby when he/she born. playing with them, getting to show off the most beautiful baby EVER! =)
All that nonsense about other moms being in a state of bliss is just that: NONSENSE.
Yes it is an amazing thing to have a life growing inside you, only women can experience... but it's not all fun and games I can agree with that. It is hard work.
Try to stay calm, not stress and think about the end result(that little bundle of joy you get to hold in your arms) :)
Good luck Hun, everything will go well for you. Once again.. your feelings are normal!
Congratulations on your pregnancy!

Answer 4

oh no. I have a now 4 3/4 month old baby. I was never so glad as to be done pregnancy. I was moody. I was depressed. I was paranoid I would lose the baby (in fact I had this 'intution' that I would), I had rage attacks, I even kicked the dog!!!! I am NOT that person. Blissful... yeah right, I told a doctor that the next blissful 'I've never been happier' pregnant woman comes by, that i would slap her across the face and give her something to complain about. I was not a nice person! Good news is that my baby is almost 5 months old and I am back:)

Answer 5

No you are definitely not alone I was scared and depressed with all three at first. I am on my third child now and I am 5 months now prior to finding out that it was a boy I was more depressed than ever before! My second daughter was very depressing and scary because there are 6 years between her and my first daughter, so it was like starting all over again.

My first daughter though was definitely the scariest I was 18 and what do you do when your so young with a baby you know.? It's tough but it will get better especially when you feel it. You'll never feel anything the rest of your life so amazing!

Answer 6

I am experiencing all of that too! I promise you that you are not alone, it seems like everyone says how glamourous pregnancy is, and really it isn't. Pregnancy is a beautiful thing (dont get me wrong) but it can make you feel anything but beautiful. I have been depressed as well, but that should be natural and expected too, after all you can't do alot of what your peers are doing, and your hormones are completely out of whack....it is natural to be sad in those situations. Chick flicks or listening to a sad country song help me cry and get it all out!

I think that a good mother needs to be scared and worried, without either of those, you have no room for improvement! I am terrified, excited, but absolutely terrified....I have a life coming out of me that will rely on me to survive....for the next 18 years, and after March I will always be a mommy to someone....that scares the crap out of me. So much responsiblity with little understanding is natural for any first time parent. Keep your chin up....e-mail me, I am always hear to talk and help you through anything you need!

Good luck and Congrats!

Answer 7

When i found out i was pregnant i was a little scared and worried about being a good parent and making it through the pregnancy. (i have a few close friends and family members who have miscarried) there are days i feel a little depressed but i heard of others going through a lot worse. I'm still waiting for the "bliss" stage to start but it's hard when your back hurts, your foot swells, and your constantly getting larger. but it's all going to be worth it when the baby arrives.

Answer 8

Speaking as a father of 5 daughters, 3 of whom have had children, and the husband of a wife who had 5 children, I'd say you're perfectly normal. Your body is changing to adapt to your condition. This means certain hormonal changes occur which, if you went through puberty, you remember your emotions went wild occasionally. Worry? Of course you will; you've taken on a big responsibility, and want to do your best. Scared? You are doing something you've never done before, AND it's changing you in ways you never knew before. Depressed? You may feel you're fat, out of shape, clumsy, etc--but you're not!! You're doing something no guy could ever do, and afterward, you'll cope with your new shape, your new child, and a whole new way of life. Hopefully, you'll have help, but even if you don't, at least one of us thinks you'll be beautiful and admirable. Looks come and go, but kids and spirit last forever, or so it seems. Go treat yourself to something special, it'll cheer you up and you deserve it. Good luck and God bless.

Answer 9

when I was pregnant, I would be happy one minute and the next be like "what have we done? Im not ready for this? " and I would get depressed and scared. It si normal. It is a HUGE life change. all I can say is with all my scareness and depression and worries, I wouldnt change it for anything! She is the apple of my eye. the first months with baby after birth can also be stressful and depressing and scarey, so be prepared. I felt so alone seeing all these happy go lucky pregnany ladies and newborn moms while inside I was scared. Let me know if you ever want to talk.

Answer 10

Your hormones go into a hyper mess when you get pregnant. With my twins I cried all the time. I was happy about it but I felt depressed all the time for no reason. In all I have had 4 pregnancies and they have all affected me differently but all of them were not perfect bliss. It is totally normal. Best wishes to you. And congratulations!!

Answer 11

Absolutely. I had the same feeling with both of my pregnancies. I think it is normal to have all of those feelings. I even had alot of self doubt about being able to be a good mother. Both of my pregnancies were well thought out and planned, but it can still be scary. Hang in there it will get better!!