My husband called a co worker as a "joke" and said I saw your name on the bathroom wall and it said for a good time call..., mind you this is someone he could barely stand , next thing I know she is bringing him breakfast and cookies and he is helping her with her job and is concerned how she will look to the company. When I confronted him . he laughed and said it was stupid and that it was just work. Need another perspective on this. Am I over reacting when I say this hurt my feelings?
2007-11-13 23:36:20 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
WARNING Can't stand her- means he has a crush
Laughing at you and joking with her- flirting
sweet treats- more flirting
watch him close lady! I smell a dog! and a wet one at that!
2007-11-13 23:46:09 · answer #1 · answered by greenrose1922 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
No your not overacting. Your husband should be taking your feelings into considering before any other womens. if he's lying about whats going on between them I would say go investigating, but having been a similar situation I know you might not like what you find b/c if he is cheating with her then the question is where do you go from there. If you been in a long marriage it's hard to just up and leave especially with kids but you have your pride and won't stand to be cheated on. The other things what if after investigating you find he isn't cheating , you've done showed your husband that you don't trust him . I say do what you think is best for you.
2007-11-13 23:54:57 · answer #2 · answered by ♥MoxiePink♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just so you know: it is illegal to marry a 2 year old! And why are your feelings so easily hurt? Your husband is behaving like a child. You need to tell him that, instead of internalizing his bull$hit! The very fact that he would tell you some crap like this shows his immaturity. Instead of being hurt, you should be furious; because he's jeopardizing his reputation at work. And once his reputation is ruined, he may be out of a job! The only perspective you need is to tell this clown to grow the **** up; so stop pouting like a little girl and deal with your husband!
2007-11-14 00:54:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no.. youre not over reacting..it would bother me as well...in fact i can sort of relate.. mine always receives "gifts" from his clients.. like candy and food and cookies and dvds ect.. he is a personal trainer... well anyway.. this one woman was brining him things every day!! i was getting soo mad and then one day on his daughters b-day. she brings in an entire cake and balloons.. im mean honestly that is going a bit too far..and i work at the gym with him..these women never talk to me or say hello or anything but they shower him in gifts!! believe me it hurts my feelings..sooo.. this was how i ended it..
i told him either he needs to put an end to it or i will... as well, (this is the clincher) i said my feelings are being hurt, and shouldnt my feelings be more important than their feelings? so that made him feel bad and well.. its stopped, to my knowledge..
but i totally understand how you feel.. any personal relationship with any other woman hurts your feelings..its like he has a work wife and a home wife.. it takes away from the special "wife" things you do for him..if someone brings him in food and you've prepared a beautiful meal, when he gets home now, he's not hungry, it hurts and pisses us off!
tell him to end it and even if he dosent understand why it hurts you, just understand that it dose hurt you and that should be enough... good luck!
2007-11-13 23:56:20 · answer #4 · answered by e.kess 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You`re not overreacting.. he says he can`t stand her, he`s lying to you. No other woman should be bringing him breakfast , and he shouldn`t be calling numbers on the bathroom wall. Keep a close watch , something`s in the air......
2007-11-13 23:41:38 · answer #5 · answered by I tell it like it is 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like there is something going on, I thought when you couldn't stand someone you kept as far away as possible from them. So he must actually like this woman quit alot if he is calling her and accepting gifts from her. Just keep a eye out, if they haven't already started doing something it sounds like it will happen soon. Good luck!
2007-11-14 00:55:07 · answer #6 · answered by Jenniferann88 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not ovrer reacting. Women have intuition on this kind of thing. Just let your husband know that you don't like her giving him gifts and him accepting them. If they're not into a relationship yet, I'm sure they are heading into one.
2007-11-14 00:28:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
any mature man wouldnt even make a call like that, i thought thats funny for middle schoolers (if anything).
that alone would bother me enough to know i have a husband who does such embarrassing things. what else followed after that is even more disturbing, but not shocking due to the fact of the call.
2007-11-13 23:50:53 · answer #8 · answered by not this way 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
something fishy is going on there. If he couldn't stand her he would'nt have let her know it was him calling. He's definitely cheating or about to so keep a close eye on him.
2007-11-14 00:24:28 · answer #9 · answered by Shifty_Pink 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is you husband in the 5th grade or just imature. He's got the hots for this gal.
2007-11-14 00:07:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋