Abortion and Adoption ?

Question

Now please before reading this please note i am not for abortion, my question is why do couples who cant have children condem the young women who get abortions as its a waste of life, yet wont go out and adopt a 10 year old child thats life is being wasted in the foster care system rather they wait for a shiny new baby its seems hyporcritical and i think its wrong , i know that they also dont like it because of the murder of a unborn child which is fair enough but i think if there feelings are that strong against it then they should go out and adopt the kids that are desperate for a place to live. not only that why dont people focus on helping the natural mother raise her child rather then push for the child to be adopted out as there are alreayd to many children in the system

to the man below you have misread the question im not asking anybody to give up trying i am saying if they do give up trying or know for sure they cant have kids then they should adopt any child not just the brand new babies ,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,, and i dont agree with abortion so that answers your other part please read the question before answering it

Answer 1

Most pro-lifers I know practice what they preach, i.e. if they can't have children of their own, they adopt or do foster care.

Also, when a pro-life helps a woman choose life for her baby, she is helped and supported through the entire process so that the baby gets to a good home.

What's sad is that so many pro-choice organizations like Planned Parenthood that claim to be "pro woman and pro child" are doing nothing to encourage adoptions of unwanted children. If you look at their annual reports you will see that they have close to zero adoption referrals.

Answer 2

I think that most people want a baby to adopt because then the baby will be able to grow up as they want them to. I know that in my area it is difficult to find a child to adopt that doesn't have problems. I personally would love to adopt but can't afford the fees of it and then raising a child. I have two boys that are mine and have always wanted a little girl, I don't care how old she is only I can't afford to adopt. I think the system is messed up that a great couple can't adopt without paying thousands of dollars! I think people get abortions for this reason as well. No one wants their child growing up in a foster home, and everyone knows there are so many children in the system not being adopted!

Answer 3

I agree with you about the adoption part of it all, but I don't agree on calling abortion murder. For some it's the only option for them for others it's a choice. I personally wouldn't have an abortion but if another woman decided to have one I wouldn't call her a murderer or killer I would want to try and understand her situation first before judging.

And you are right there are couples out there who can afford to adopt a child, they just prefer that little newborn so they can feel like parents and be called mom and dad when it's older also it can be raised the way they want it to be raised. An older child to them may seem more difficult since they are already set into their own ways, they probably already knew who their real mother was and they don't want to compete with that also there are children out there who have physical and mental issues that couples don't want to deal with.

Answer 4

this is true but a lot of people the adopt are new parents and don't have the experience to raise an older child. When you adopt an older child it's not like they're regular kids. they have been through a lot and some who hasn't deal with kids before or know how to deal with special problems would be qualified to raise them. I was adopted at 5 months and haven't been through a lot when I got my loving parents, but my brother we adopted about when he was 3yrs old. Not very old but he had been through a bunch and was very hard to raise and deal with. Both my parents minored in psychology and still had a hard time with my brother. I also had a co-worker (15) that had been in and out of homes for 11 years until she was adopted but she hated her new parents and did everything in her power to get rid of them. last thing I heard was that they sent her away. They couldn't handle her. Adopting an older child isn't like getting an older dog there is a lot more involved.

Answer 5

i agree and many of those wanting a shiny new baby many times will pass on babies of a different race as well. it's quite sad. but as for the helping the mother raise her child i'm not so much in favor for some people shouldn't have kids and if we took the approach of keeping the child with the parent it might not be in the child's best interest. i raised a baby boy from the time he was 3 weeks til a month after his 1st birthday when his mother decided she wanted him back. during the time i kept him the few occasions she would want him he was not properly cared for and we eventually stopped letting him stay the night after he was almost 6 mths old she brought him back in the middle of winter nothing but a diaper on not strapped in his carrier no blankets and a dirty diaper. since she's taken him back there have been a few times that he's had to live in a place with no food or heat and i've had to go and get him and keep him for a few weeks to make sure he's fed and taken care of, and she pawns him off on every boyfriend she gets so he had 4 different daddies in a matter of 6 months. people like that we shouldn't help and now she's had a second child a few weeks ago, her new boyfriend wants her to have is his child now and is living off the taxes i and everyone that works pays. people like that don't need kids and people like myself shouldn't have to pay to raise kids because girls like herself dont use birth control.

Answer 6

Just because people are against abortion doesn't mean they should be held responsible for all the children waiting to be adopted. That's kind of silly.

But honestly, people don't care that much about the unwanted children as they do about being morally superior to other people, judging their choices, etc. Being right, and being on God's side in the abortion debate is more important to these people than solving the problem of what to do with children born into homes where they cannot or will not be taken care of properly. You're right about that part.

Answer 7

Honestly you have to be VERY careful nowadays when adopting a child that old because they could have ALOT of mental and physical problems. I knew a family that gave all their love to their adopted son (12 i think) and he ended up killing both of them in his sleep. And the boy had no feelings for it he was mentally sick and thought his "actions" were normal. NOW when it comes to them just wanting babies so they can have them grow up thinking they adopted parents are their real parents IS hypocritical and SAD.. A child should be loved in EVERY case no matter what age, race, or size, and for all the women that abort.. we sadly cant save those babies because it was the mothers choice so in my opinion we should concentrate on the children that are already in this world!! After all THEY ARE OUR FUTURE!

Answer 8

I don't know, if they want a kid then it really shouldn't matter how old or what race the child is that could be adoptable.

I think that they all want a baby so they will feel more like parents and that the child will be thinking they are their parents more so than adopting a kid older but to me if they want a kid , it should not matter how old they are.

Answer 9

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Answer 10

it does seem hipocritical.
if they want a child so badly, why not take in one that's already around, instead of trying to force women into being incubators for them, basically as "punishment" for being sexually active & accidentally conceiving (or conceiveing via rape or incest) [btw, what "punishment" does the accidental father get while the woman's body & actions are consumed by another being? NOTHING] not to mention, if the mother cannot care well enough for herself, it could lead to severe birth defects (which will have to be treated, which will be paid for by taxpayers; and which will make the baby harder to adopt out)