What's happening to me? Am I having a nervous breakdown?

Question

What exactly is a nervous breakdown? I am apathetic about work. Luckily, I am financially independent after years of really hard slog.got highly qualified..even to executive level. I'm a woman in her mid forties, single but not by choice. I never met the right guy. I still get asked out quite often usually by much younger guys as many people tell me I look in my early 30s. I'm physically healthy and in good condition . The problem is I get obsesses with things. At the moment it is a guy I'm crazy about who isn't returning the same feelings & I can't get over him even though I try. I'm supposed to go to an interview for a job today but can't motivate myself. I'm thinking of cancelling a night with an old friend tomorrow. I feel I've been a failure in my life as I don't have a

Answer 1

I know how you are feeling. I think it's depression and not really a "break down".

You sound very smart and articulate. And you can analyze well too. I would hope you would see a counselor to get the tools to help your set the priorities in your life.

Sometimes we are too busy living our lives to be objective and see they WAY we are living. Write down what things are most important to you in your life. Counseling is very helpful and if you choose not to get it, you might find your depression gets worse, and that could be dangerous.

Feeling a failure is common to us all at some time in our lives. But if the failure feelings stack up, they can overwhelm you and cause severe depression.

I really hope you see a counselor, as you seem very nice and bright.
After that, things will start to fall into order. Then maybe you can address the feeling of obcession for the man who doesn't care.

Take care of you.
Best wishes.


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Answer 2

Maybe you should take some time out? You say you're financially independent - so why not profit on that and go on a long trip, or rent a place somewhere else for some months? If you're not motivated for your job it might be the job's fault - maybe it's not the right thing for you?
It's ok to get obsessed - that's how we can achieve great goals. But maybe when it comes to relationship you are sending out the wrong signals? Try not to focus on this particular man, but on what qualities you appreciate and how your ideal relationship would be. Write it down, or make a scrap book or visualization board with images that helps you focus on this positively (as opposite to negative affirmations like "I never meet the right guy").

Answer 3

hi friend..don't worry be happy!!! becoz he doesnt deserve u..
don't express ur feelings toooo much towards him...just be a good friend to him n don't show that ur crazy abt him!!! all the best buddy....