I have been with the same man for 8.5 years without using protection. I never thought twice about the fact I haven't had any children. Recently we have decided to go our seperate way and that means thinking about new relationship. Due to this I have started to wonder if may I have a problem in this department. The doctors have never stated that I have any problems with my female organs but because of the fact that it never happened I have to wonder if maybe something was wrong. I want children but now I'm scared that maybe I wouldn't be able to. Any advice on this?
2007-11-13 20:34:44 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
Honestly, I'm not sure you if have a problem or not. With testing a doctor will be able to help you.
Now just because after 8 1/2 years and you did not have a baby, does not mean that you were never pregnant. Alot of women become pregnant and have what they think a late cycle, which is actually a miscarriage. Think about, how many times have your cycle been late in 8 1/2 years with this man. How many times has your cycle been short and then next time around it was totally different. You could've been pregnant and just thought you were late. You never now. Even if you tested and got a negative, does not mean you were not pregnant. It could have been to early to test. You may be perfectly fine. Just think positive. Did he have kids from a previous relationship? If no, it doesn't mean that it was you, it could've been you. Maybe he has a low sperm count or low sperm mobility. There are alot of questions to ask. Don't automatically think that there is something wrong with you. If you've have womens health issues in the past, then maybe, but not necessarily.
If you are really concerned, consult your doctor first. Have them run test to check you out physically and then ask to them to run a test to see if you are fit enough to have kids. Just tell your doctor that you are thinking about have kids soon and want to check to see if you are ok. Every doctor should be able to perfrom this check or refer you to someone who can.
I wish you all the luck and don't think negative thoughts. Negativity can bring negative energy (yes this is very true) and you want positive. I hope I've helped. Take care hun.
2007-11-13 20:59:51 · answer #1 · answered by Mom to a MicroPreemie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl, I have female problem ever since I started dating. Go to a doctor and have it check out. The earliest is the better because we are not getting younger, as we grow older our eggs gets older too! at least this way you have lots of option once you find out what's going on get some action. Take me for example, I have been married couple times. My last relationship lasted 17 yrs. We went through a fertility doctor spent $20,000 for invetro still no luck. We end up getting a divorce because of my fertility problem. "Even though from the begging he knows (I told him) that I couldn't have any children" It is hard to find out YOU as a woman couldn't bare a child but It is not the end of our femininities world. Look at me, when my last husband and I got divorse I end up adopting a child, now she is turning 3 yrs old. Good luck..
2007-11-14 18:29:41 · answer #2 · answered by Hanna 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It might be worth discussing it with your doctor and finding out if there is anything wrong like blocked tubes or something.
It might have nothing to do with you and could be that your ex-partner was shooting blanks so to speak! I hope that it was his problem and not your for your sake. Just make an appointment and speak with your Gyno about it.
Its best to get it sorted now so you know what you are up for going into any new relationship (IE - needing or not needing birth control, except obviously condoms for health reasons)
Best of luck
2007-11-13 21:15:09 · answer #3 · answered by Cindy; mum to 3 monkeys! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you havent conceeived in 8 and a half years then obviously there is a problem somewhere along the line!
it might not necesarilly be with you though . .
go to your g.p. and explain . have an m.o.t and some tests before its too late ..if you do have problems then better to get them resolved before you find a partner suitable enough to father your children..this in itself is hard enough !!
good luck ..
2007-11-13 20:51:37 · answer #4 · answered by happybabies123 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are really worried then talk to your Dr about it.
You would think after 8.5 years of unprotected sex something would have happened.
Maybe the problem was with your partner.
2007-11-13 21:34:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are really worried go and see a doctor to get some tests done.. good luck
2007-11-13 20:39:54 · answer #6 · answered by Bel! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After 12 months of trying w/o success, there's a problem. You should get checked but it could have been him, not you.
2007-11-13 20:39:02 · answer #7 · answered by BR 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you just got lucky or unlucky if you wanted 1, i never got anyone pregnant and most of the time i used nothing either and i love babies-children
2007-11-13 20:48:36 · answer #8 · answered by greg s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
consult a doctor.
2007-11-13 20:52:22 · answer #9 · answered by umm lutfia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋