im with a man whose already married. advice pls...?

Question

im with a man whose already married BUT, he told me not anymore. coz they are already separated. only physically but not in papers. coz where leaving in the philippines very expensive when it comes in divorce. so, he told me that hes not living w/ hs wife anymore. he has 2 kids with her. and 1 to me. so were actually living in together. but is this 1 point that i heard from his frend that they got back together and the wife has a newborn baby. i talk to him but he told me that its not his kid.. but i got the info to a very reliable source.. i dont know anymore what to think or whatever. coz where living together for 1 yr. and the new born baby is i heard 2months. can somebody explain what just happend???

Answer 1

He is STILL married. A separation is NOT a disillusionment of marriage and if they're not separated legally then I wouldn't believe he actually IS separated, What happened? You made yourself a whore for a married man and your adultery produced what would be considered a bastard child a stigma that poor child will have to live with for life. What just happened is that this married man had no intentions of every leaving his wife and you were stupid enough to fall for his bullshit and be his whore.

Answer 2

it sounds as though he has had his cake and eaten it too.
I have learnt from very recent events that just because they are separated it does not make them available.
Listen to your instincts if you believe this 2 month old is his you need to make a choice 1st if you want this man in your life where he obviously can not be trusted.
2nd if it does turn out this new baby is his your child has a right to get to know its sibling. and what involvement will everyone have with each other
It is not a pleasant situation for anyone and unfortunately you may find that he has been playing the both of you.
If you do get on with the wife which is very rare perhaps you could ask her. If they both deny being his child that fine otherwise you could ask him to participate in a d.n.a to put your mind at easy. As he can request one to be done.

Answer 3

first OFF I'm IN THAT SAME SIT. i DON'T KNOW HOW IT IS IN THE PHILIPPINE BUT HERE IN THE U.S. IT IS AND WELL MY SITUATION IS LIKE THIS MY LIVING IN GIRL FEEL i SHOULD GET A DIVORCE i GUESS SHE RIGHT TO A POINT SHE ALWAYS TELLING ME IF I DIE OR SOMETHING LIKE THAT SHE WON'T GET ANYTHING AND IT MAKE ME FEEL THAT THAT ALL SHE'S WITH ME FOR, SHE JUST RECENTLY QUIT HER JOB AND I'm CARRYING THE FULL WEIGH OF OUR BILL AND SHE MESSING UP MONEY, i KNOW YOU DIDN'T ASK FOR ALL THIS i THINK THAT BEFORE YOU MAKE A BIG DEAL OUT OF HIM BEING MARRIED BUT LIVING WITH YOU, YOU SHOULD TAKE INTO ACCOUNT ALL THE STUFF HE HAS TO DEAL WITH FROM YOU IN ORDER TO MAKE THE RELATIONSHIP WORK ON HIS PART, ALSO TAKE INTO CONSIDERATION ( I TOOK FOR GRANTED THAT HE'S HELPING WITH THE BILLS) OR IF YOU ARE PAYING THE FULL BLUNT OF THE BILL YOU HAVE TO WEIGHT THE PROS AND CON AND ULTIMATELY MAKE YOUR ON DECISION, MAKE A LIST ONE SIDE HIS GOOD POINT ONE THE OTHER HIS BAD THEN YOU SEE WHAT YOU NEED TO DO. AS FAR AS THE FRIEND GOES TRUST YOUR OWN JUDGMENT BECAUSE THE FRIEND MAY JUST WANT TO SLEEP WITH YOU THIS FROM A STRANGER A HALF WORLD AWAY WHO HAS NEVER SEEN YOU OR KNOW YOU

Answer 4

The moral of this story is---Never get involved with a married man.

Answer 5

Unless you want to spend your whole life wondering about this guy, i would suggest you get out of it. Focus completely on your independence- a good job/career/home life for yourself and your baby.

Answer 6

u just got cheated...thats why u should of never of got involved like tat with a married man.....ur screwed and he think he has two mates now....

Answer 7

Hes a cheater and so are you , He's screwing both of you ...Duhhhh