Why can't I stop thinking about her?

Question

I am in love with my best friend. I can't get her out of my mind, I just want her so bad. It feels like I need her. I have tried to spend time away to let my feelings fade. I have tried spending lots of time with her and our other friends to just soak in the "we are friends" atmosphere. I have tried to find others to take my mind off of her. I have tried telling her how I feel, and getting together with her. I have tried ignoring how I feel hoping it will go away. I have even tried prayers and freakin spells for cripes sake. Nothing I do seems to work. My thoughts keep inevitably returning to her, and I can't stop thinking about her. Why? why is it no matter what I do, I can't get her off my mind? Why do I want her so bad? Why is it even when I'm with another woman, all I can think of is her? Why is it that every day that passes, I feel more and more like she is the one?

please help. I don't know what to do anymore.
What else can I do?

Answer 1

" I have even tried prayers and freakin spells for cripes sake"

Herein lies the heart of your problem. Prayers to the God of the Universe are not equal to spells trying to break curses.

It does sound like you may actually be under a "love" curse.

This is a type of bondage and torment...obviously this is what you are experiencing. Since, this is against your will--and you have done your best to fight it in your own strength--you need to examine your state of mind and what you are willing to do to get rid of this hideous experience.

Did you know that every single person on earth has sinned?
That we all need forgiveness of these sins in order to be able to come before God as his child and have his protection, guidance and wisdom?

I ask that you accept Jesus as your Savior and dedicate your life to seeking after God.

In the scriptures there is something called a SOUL TIE.
There are good soul ties and bad ones. The bad ones--the one you are experiencing can only be truly broken by the power of God, Jesus and the Holy Spirit.

This is my prayer for you:

Father in Heaven,
I just lift this person up to you and ask that you help him to accept Jesus as his savior and Lord and repent of all his sins. Cleanse him of all unrighteousness that he may call upon the name of the Lord and be saved.

Lord, I just ask that you break all evil and ungodly soul ties between these two people that every hex, vex, spell, incantation, love potion, hoodoo, voodoo and ALL types of CURSES that has been placed upon him--(his mind, will, emotions, appetites, desires, body and spirit) WILL BE BROKEN in the name of Jesus.

Lord, help him to walk in freedom to serve you and learn of you and your grace.

I just ask all of these things for God's glory alone,
In Jesus Name.
Amen.

† Deliverance Prayer Warrior †

Answer 2

To start with WHAT KIND OF SPELL DID YOU DO? If you did it wrong or with selfish intentions it will backfire! You will become obsessed! How do you know? Ask yourself if what your doing is what is best for her well being? Then make the right decision for HER if you truly love her! Lust is a feeling. Love is NOT just a feeling! Its a CHOICE to love another before yourself every day. Its a commitment and it takes work and sacrifice! Even if that means your feelings and pride. If you dont except what is in her best interest your just being manipulative. True love developes naturally. If she is the one then wait for her to be ready for you. When its time she will see you have been there all along. In the mean time just be grateful you have the experience of being in her life. Enjoy being friends. No matter what may develope in the future friendship will always be the foundation (along with trust -so quit the spells!) Just remember love can be real without being right for both people. If you can do what is right for her instead of yourself then congratulations! Its real love! Now you just opened the "door" to finding the one you will spend your life with.

Answer 3

Try to write your feelings some where (Maybe through poetry or a journal?) so you have the satisfaction of knowing that the feelings are off your chest if you fear telling a friend about it or someone else.

I have had the same feeling and I know once you finally feel like you have gotten rid of the feelings for her suddenly the feelings will come right back just twice as powerful. Unfortunatley the ONLY way to get rid of the seemingly immovable feelings is to get some closure by telling her otherwise you are going to have to wait for a summer or something so you can sulk in your depression till she is off your mind.

Good Luck

Answer 4

"I have tried telling her how I feel, and getting together with her."

Well, my advice would have been to do just that... Trust me, James, I've been in your exact situation. I didn't use spells, per se, but I did call upon the Native American spirit, Owl, to guide me in my problems.... Well, any way, what finally happened was that I told her that I liked her, and she said, "I'm sorry, I've only ever liked you as a friend, now please go kill yourself" Now, that was COMPLETELY unlike her, but the point is that she said no, and I got on with my life. I'm not saying it's easy; I'm just saying that it happens, and it'll eventually go away.... Unless, of course, you do get together, and have a wonderful life. But I still don't know what you meant by that quote. If you've gotten together, then...what's the problem.... But if what you meant was that you tried talking to her, but you just couldn't, because you're like me and have no spine (that was a joke, people), then just try. Do it, for your mind! You'll be much happier.

Answer 5

once upon a time there was this guy who was so amazing to me, he might as well have been an angel who fell straight from the sky - an angel with a five inch tall mohawk and a great smile sent to make me laugh, teach me to loosen up, and let me know that i am loved....i was only able to be with him for a short time, then he joined the army and i never even got to say goodbye :( i think about him every day and hope that he's okay but i know he probably is okay, because after all he is an angel...

Answer 6

I wish i had an answer.I missed out on a girl 30 years ago because of the military.Still haven't gotten over her. How ever we still have long distance relationship.If you really love this girl do not give up on her,you will only be sorry. Let her know how you really love her.GOOD LUCK

Answer 7

Decide what you want. You wnat her as a friend or girlfriend ? Best way is to take her to a decent coffee shop n talk to her. Remember she is your friend & be patient to let her speak too. Tell her your feelings, if she is a " Friend" she would surely listen & discuss with you & if she does not, you get your anwers.
Your mind would settle down once it comes to a decision.

Answer 8

you fall in love my friends, take a step, i know this is hard but if you keeping yourself this way, it won't give you any good.
i surely when you fall in love, you a bit blind-in-time so open up your eyes, see thing through ..
you a men, she the girl, you want her so bad, she think you a friends, myself always tells me "THEY CAN'T READ YOUR MIND" sometimes a proper talk would help.

1. she can't read your mind
2. she can read you action
3. she is loveable why don't give her a impression by saying
"hai, you see me handsome today? i gotta impress my friends" while you doing with you fixing your colar
the she ask "who friends"
then you say my daddy .. then she laugh...
4. she feeling comfortable around you now, give more shot try to telling her she cool on that hair and put a proper joke with it
5. if you have her HP number then, every weekend give her a message a-different "i cook a rice today and it goes black? crap still it eatable i wish i can send you one piece of it but i'm very hungry so i eat all of them, sorry"
6. when she feeling OK with you then you know what to do, impress her with you might can but take it slow.
7. sometimes you need her best friends to follow up, asking her BF (best friend) what your girl likes, what type your girl are and any essential infomation you might want to know.

conclusion, if u failed to plan, u plan to fail. you not making illegal plan just a something you want to archive..

good luck

Answer 9

we cant help who we fall in love with.
and that's the truth.
she's constantly in your mind cause you're in love with her. don't let that feeling get away. tell her so. its hard if she says she likes you as a friend but hey, that's life. what' meant to be will find its way so if she likes you and you like her...you can go out...if not...you'll find a cool chick to be with. just hang in there. luck =]

Answer 10

my dear friend, i know where you coming from... arrange a private conversation with her, and her alone tell her how you really feel for her... grab her by the shoulder and kiss her already... if she slaps you, then its not meant to be... but she saids nothing then there's hope...i guess...