For gay people.......Have you ever.....?

Question

Gay people have you ever been with anyone who says and lives a straigh life and pretends as if he is not gay? and they dont come out of the closet because they are scared of what people might think of them so they rather marry and have kids... and what do they tell their wifes when they go out with you....and do they say they get more satisfaction with you than with your wife? What are the signs of a men doing all this things??? Is it true that if us women would touch around the anal part that is how we know if they like men???im confused

Answer 1

Yes, I have known a man who did all those things.

If the wife does not know, it is very unfair to her, I believe, because she is being used as a cover for the man's real feelings, and not loved for herself. The man may have a lot of affection for his wife, and care about her, but still be unable to give 100 per cent to the relationship if he is hiding out in the marriage.

If the couple are aware of the truth and still share a marriage (this is not uncommon), then it can be reasonably successful, although living a lie is never as easy as people think it will be.

If you suspect your husband is doing this, you need to speak to someone who can talk with you in a sound, non judgemental way, and provide accurate and sensible information.

I have put a link below to an organisation that may be able to assist you. They have seen the situation you are talking about many times, and you can speak confidentially and anonymously.

Regarding the anal touching, most men will find that sexually stimulating, because that area has a lot of nerve endings. If a man becomes excited from touching in that area, it does NOT prove he is gay, just that he has nerve endings where they should be!

Good luck with this situation, and remember, you are not alone! :-)

Answer 2

I think that marrying someone to hide that one is gay is harming to everyone involved. I want a wife that loves me, not one that married me because she wanted to deny her tendencies. It will end up with both being frustrated and hurt.

Maybe today's society does not tolerate gays, or probably some gays just feel that it doesn't (I really don't know, but I think it's very dependent on the geographical and socioeconomical situations that really affects why some people don't come out of the closet, deside to marry someone they don't love, or accept themselves), but they shouldn't try to hide and hurt other people feelings.

About the anal stuff, your question is very naive and has nothing to do with a sexual preference, but in how open one is with his or her body and willing to try new sensations. Interpreting that because a guy enjoys when his wife stimulates his anal region might be gay might be the same as interpreting that if a girl enjoys when her man goes down on her is gay.

Also, I don't know why most peoply just likes to stereotype other groups. When someone is open about being gay does not mean he crossdresses or wishes he were a she or be effeminate or different. i don't mean disrespect to anyone, and I hope I don't come as that.

good luck.

Answer 3

My husband adores my skills around all areas.
Anal as everyone else has posted is just high powered nerve endings. Men have thier own g spot about 1/2 an inch to 2 inchs inside thier bum, pressed right it's unbelieveable powerhouse of sexual energy!
encouraged by kama sutra texts involving heterosexual matings, buddhist texts, taoist texts, and oh yeah...sufi's too. China, India, and most of Europe thinks it's a pleasure thing for both genders why does america have so many bubble headed people who have issues with sex in general I do not know! Basically, it's silly that you could think a man might be gay because of this. I mean I do not feel gay or even mildly gay by like my bum touched! I might feel attracted to the same gender if they were good to me, cared for me, and were able to just ...well light my fire. Butt hahah sorry had to, I'm pretty happy with one man so thats that. Not because of society though, we are like this of our own chioces, I suspect we were monogamous in other lives where it was frowned upon and thought of as deivient and strange.

Answer 4

Being in the closet and being on the down-low are two completely different things. I've been with a closeted fellow or two, but would NEVER associate with someone deceitful enough to be on the down-low.

Answer 5

I'm assuming you mean gay men when you say gay people, from the rest of your question. So I can't answer any of those specifics,

but no I have never been with a closeted lesbian or bi.

Answer 6

What kind of nonsence you wrote about the "anal part". being gay has to do with LOVING a person of the same sex, not with anything anal!