We've been living together 5 yrs. i would prefer 3-5x a week.. but it's more like 3x a month at the most! i love him, but this is driving me crazy. He's not that affectionate anymore, but is loving/caring/fun. And yes, i'm positive he's not cheating. What should i do? Did i mention this is driving me crazy??!!
2007-11-13 16:26:51 · 12 answers · asked by just asking 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
spike his food with Viagra!!!
2007-11-13 16:32:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
His drive should be higher than 2 or 3 times a month at 35. Something is up, investigate further..
2007-11-14 00:37:43 · answer #2 · answered by I tell it like it is 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, hon, I'm a woman in my 50's and I will tell you that this is NOT normal behavior for a guy his age. How long has he been this way? It's important to identify if this is a recent development or if it has always been this way.
If he used to be more interested, ask him to please have a physical. There may be a medical explanation. He could also have some depression going on (mid-30's confusion....it's normal for most guys).
That's my recommendation for a first step. If he won't go to the doctor, you have to decide if you're willing to accept your sex life "as is", or move on (so you'll have to figure out if you are seeking marriage, children, etc.)
Peace.
2007-11-14 00:41:03 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He had his sexual peak in his late teens and early twenties, and you are just getting to yours (usually 35-45). What you are experiencing is very normal. Just buy yourself a Water Pik shower massager, and take care of the urges when necessary. They work wonders!!
2007-11-14 00:33:21 · answer #4 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look into some medications like goat weed or anything that might lift his libido. its good that neither of you are cheating and looking for a good solution. More people should have such values rather than looking for a bit on the side
2007-11-14 00:31:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should talk to him about it. I am 41 and am positive have still not hit my peak. Its interesting, 'cause most of my male friends have the opposite problem (they are more int. than their wives).
2007-11-14 00:37:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Come on over! I have the problem with my wife, maybe two wrongs could make a right;)
2007-11-14 00:30:55 · answer #7 · answered by Brad K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont realy know what to do but you should know your not alone!!! people always asume that its the women who dont want to have sex. my huband and i do it maybe once or twice a month. it sucks but i always think things could be worse, he could be cheating or beat you or somthing
2007-11-14 00:35:14 · answer #8 · answered by Andrea B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let's see, you are hitting your sexual peak, and he is far, far away from the good ole days of his sexual peak. that's the first problem.
if he's not "up" to perform, think of other creative ways of getting yourself "off" with his help. toys, oral, fingers, etc.
better yet talk to him about it and reach a compromise.
2007-11-14 00:39:18 · answer #9 · answered by celticbuddha 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Compromise. He needs to give you more and you need to expect less. Those other days do it yourself.
2007-11-14 00:34:48 · answer #10 · answered by kim h 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋