How would you deal with the fact that your love in life deserves better than you??

Question

you love him/her, but you realize that you are not really qualified to make him/her completely happy.

He/She requires more.

more of what everyone is looking for in a partner.
"Intelligence", "Beauty", " Witt", etc, etc.

Answer 1

Just be the best you can be. If they love you then they want you and they do think you are good enough for them.

If they don't think you are good enough for them, then move on because you deserve better than someone who doesn't think you're perfect for them.

Answer 2

The question that you must ask yourself is does she love you. Friend,Do not sell yourself short. I am sure that you have alot to offer to this woman than you believe. I've come to that crossroad way too many times. And let me tell you,It does not get any better. Each and every time you put yourself down and let your loved one leave you. It feels like a dagger being struck right into your heart. And it isn't the woman with her hand on the handle. You're a wonderful person and I am sure that you have plenty of friends. You can love this woman,My friend. You can give this woman such love if only you can muster the courage to believe in yourself. Intelligence? Beauty? Wit? Brother,These are fine,But what a woman needs is someone to love them. You can do it,I know you can.

Answer 3

I don't know! I was taught not to judge a book by its cover (beauty) It’s not everything. I strongly believe that the personality tells all. When I met my boyfriend, 5 years ago. I went with that "spark" I felt inside. The bounce is that he is handsome, charming, hard working, gentle, Romantic, a great father to our kids! I think If he got his GED its something we have to work with. At lease I know he loves me, When we had our son we sat almost 2 weeks in the hospital (I had preeclampcia) And he moved from hospital to hospital, From a nice couch for 3 days, to a small hard chair to sleep in 8 days! Then laying in bed with me. I think its devotion that dominates everything. He didn't go back home a 1 1/2 away until I was out of the woods after having our baby. No bath, same cloths, nothing. I think sometimes now, that God blessed me. He deserves better. But, he told me lol Its not what you think, its what I think about you that counts. lol He's wonderful.... I think If I felt that way I would talk to him about it. (REALLY), it’s like an answer unsolved and why not ask them. He might feel the same way. I would work hard at our relationship to make is feel even to make that feeling go away. I wouldn't give him up without a fight. I am sure that’s how our relationship is. But, it’s probably jealousy too! His families are close and they have money like no other. He has a dad, I don't. I don't care about it. I would go out of my way to make my son and him happy. I really don't think about that stuff there is too much stress from day to day to even bother with a simple thought that would only taunt me and tease me until I would go crazy and need Help! Honestly it would be a very unhealthy answer.

Answer 4

Try to improve myself.
But be sure that you are not just short -changing yourself. Some people have really low self-esteem and think they are never good enough, when in fact they are some of the best, most kind people you could ever meet.

Answer 5

If the person I am with thinks there is someone out there better than me, then I would let them go because it is clear that I am to good for him and that I deserve better than that. I say this because been there done that, and I ended up with the better deal, a man that doesn't drink, do drugs, and quit smoking with me who loves spending time with our family and is VERY mature. My ex, still wants to party, doesn't spend much time from my understanding with his child, but goes out partying and drinking and doing drugs. So like I said, he found someone better for him, I found someone perfect for me.

Answer 6

I really fell for this very smart, young, cute, and very outgoing guy. He is like the "perfect" catch. Any girl that gets him is so lucky. But, I think he will never love someone, that is older and not much to offer for him, and his big career. He can have about any girl that he wanted. So, I guess we have to let go of that person, and hope there is someone else for us, later.

Answer 7

interesting question, but in truth if he/she is with you, then you are what he/she wants, nothing more or less. more to the point you want he/she to have the best in life and are feeling like you are not enough, so change it. "if it is meant to be then it is up to me" mentality or how about "i am the master of my own destiny". in truth you want more of yourself and need to try to be the best man/woman you can be for yourself first and your love interest second. ambition is not one of the 7 deadly sins and can be a good thing if you are trying to better yourself with out hurting others. in truth, if you continue to grow and involve your partner with you, then you will have a very busy, but good life together. best of luck to you.

Answer 8

A pint short in the self confidence department, are we? If s/he made this point, s/he is not worthy of you. If you feel this way, then ask him/her. You might find that s/he finds you very lovable for reasons you haven't thought of yet. Besides, s/he might know how to spell "wit" and become your post editor.

Answer 9

OMG !! Go have yourself a good old fashioned Pitty Party! that should be refreshing for you.

Answer 10

Change. If you truly love that person and he/she truly loves you then that should be enough to make you want to better yourself to be worthy of such love.