when i make love to my wife she do not open her legs. therefore i open my legs and insert my penis while her legs are closed. for me i am uncofortable, when i ask her to open her legs she shouts and says if you do not like it this way leave. please help me i did a lot to persuade her but when it comes to sex she is agressive with me, she treats me as an enemy, but when it comes to other house activities she is ok with me. why do she acts this way. who can save my marriage.???????"
2007-11-13 15:40:01 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It may be that she feels a lot more in that position. If she opens her legs, she may not feel as much and doesn't think you do either. I know for myself, I much rather it like that than any other way, it's much more pleasurable. My husband doesn't mind though, because he is pleasing me and himself. Although I am not limited to ONLY that position. If she is laying on her back, try having her lay on her stomach instead, it may be more comfortable to you.
2007-11-13 15:46:37 · answer #1 · answered by Angel 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I already answered this question but I just want to know that from reading your question and answers she is from a different culture than you. Does she feel homesick? Do you make sex a pleasant experience? She may be regretting the marriage or she may be having an affair or she may be having a physical problem or you may be overweight and not sanitary. Too many things that I can not help because I am not a family therapist.
2007-11-13 15:45:43 · answer #2 · answered by livewire 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i would say the reason shes doing it is due to its hard for women to get off with a penis in them and even harder if legs are apart. the penis wont touch the area that has to be stimulated for a orgasm.. if her legs are together and yours apart then you would be stimulating that area that she needs to have a orgasm.. my question is to you. have you ever asked her if that's the reason for it.. she should be open to you and tell you that but lots of people are not. so if you ask her first it might open the door for a discussion.. i know i dont do it that way very often but it does work that way.. maybe you could talk to her about using toys also. you and her both.. get her to her point then her take care of your point lol no pun intended lol. we do that. good luck
2007-11-13 16:08:38 · answer #3 · answered by Kat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you might need to really set down and talk to her about why she feels this way.It could be something happened to her a long time ago or something but it really maybe she just doesnt feel comfortble with doing it like that. You should tell her things have to change they cant stay like this any longer. Sex is a huge part of marriage, both partners need to enjoy it. Also ask her to just try it like that and if she really hates it you can stop..
2007-11-13 15:55:03 · answer #4 · answered by Ash 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's ,many ways of pleasing a woman even with her legs closed.... Even with that type of situation a man can get total satisfaction of this woman.....All it takes is a know how of pleasing her in this position I am sure if you figure it out she will be very happy as well as you to....
2007-11-13 16:07:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I occasionally have sex with my wife in that position. I strive very hard to make sure my wife is satisfied when we make love (every time) This position gives her a lot of clitoral stimulation and thus is very pleasurable for her. Maybe this is the most pleasurable position for your wife.
2007-11-13 22:55:56 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well she could be having sex that way because it would be a tighter fight u will feel fuller inside her..LOL
but yeah having sex that way all the time could become selfish of her...so try and get her in situations where it would be impossible for her to do that...like the car?? or um against the wall?? the tumble dryer??
if she doesn't want to assist u then u have to talk to her
2007-11-13 16:04:44 · answer #7 · answered by Phoenix21 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried to sit down with her and get her to discuss the issue with you openly and honestly without anger or without attacking each other verbally. I did this with my wife when we were still dating, because we had issues in bed similar to yours, and now after 10 years of marriage, our sex life is still strong as ever.
2007-11-13 15:46:56 · answer #8 · answered by biggman100 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some women keep there legs tight because it helps them have orgasam, so maybe you should just out and out ask her what she likes and why??
2007-11-13 23:48:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You win!
This is the first question I have no answer for!
I hate divorce, but... sometimes in life we have to admit defeat.
Oops. That was an answer. Sorry man. I take back your winner status.
Good luck.
2007-11-13 15:45:59 · answer #10 · answered by box of rain 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋