i have a wife that does not care about my appearace in my house and she ignore me and when i try to set with her in the room she leaves the room and when i leave the room she come back. In spite of negative assumptions is there a way i can attract her or make her love me, it seems that she has a psychological problem but she refuses to see a doctor. what can i do?
she does not like sex
she is alway sad with me and happy when she meet my family
she does not sleep with me in the same room
i tried to be romantic by giving flowers etc
she refuses me and has some pride
please help me my email is
2007-11-13 15:30:21 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Try a marriage counselor.
2007-11-13 15:33:20 · answer #1 · answered by redunicorn 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Has she always been this way? If not, is there a reason she may be bitter? Bitterness can grow over time until one day it just becomes a part of you and you may not even realize it. Sometimes it is hard to look at ourselves to see if the answer lies with us. Fits of jealousy or verbal abuse can cause bitterness in a partner who is receiving this, (not saying this is the reason for her behavior or that you are doing any of these things). However, it may be a good idea to explore this area. If you do think of something that may have started this then try to approach her with communication. If you're right then be the better person and seek help. By seeing you making an extreme effort to save your relationship she may jump on board and seek marriage counseling with you. If this is not the case and she still refuses to work with you then it's time for you to decide how much longer you can hang in there. This has to be hurting your self esteem. I hope only the very best for you both.
2007-11-13 15:59:01 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to get to the root of the problem. There has to be a reason other than psychological that you can try to work on. I have had depression and I'm not ruling that out but I think when I give my husband that kind of treatment it's for a reason. This is somewhat typical to me of what I do when my husband does something over and over and doesn't seem to get it or he dosen't seem willing to change. I think a women lose their sex drive completely for her husband if she thinks he's being a jerk. How long has she been like this? I think you need to loving tell her you love her so much and that you miss her and need her to be back in your life. This may take a few tries:) but I think she'll eventually talk to you. If this doesn't work do she have a sister, friend or mother you can maybe voice your concerns with in a way that doesn't overly involve them in your business. Good Luck!! Marriage is so important and it's alot of work, I've been with my husband for 14 years.
2007-11-13 15:42:09 · answer #3 · answered by LISA 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you are in a very difficult situation. There could many of things going on. So many different ways to tip the scale. Not much to go by either sorry to say.
Things that could be going on: She is depressed, her feelings have changed, maybe she has someone else, perhaps she has personal space issues or she has lost "that loving feeling" the spunk.
Things to try: counselor, sitting and talking to her, making sure your hygiene is up to par, giving her space, getting out to a hotel away from the every day stress, go to a couples massage spa.
Has she always been like this? Did she grow up with her parents not sleeping in the same room? Issues with you? Besides the flowers, are you treating her right? Speaking to her with respect, helping with the house, if you have children...are you helping with them?
Many of things could be going on, I wish you the best of luck. If nothing is working, perhaps it is time to move on so you can be happy! You can't maker her love you.
2007-11-13 15:49:57 · answer #4 · answered by Ro 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't make someone love you. It just doesn't happen. I'm not into the blame game. It takes 2 to make a marriage work. Regardless of everything else you've tried and will try I strongly suggest asking her to go to marriage couselling with you. If she refuses then go alone. If you don;t like the situation you're in it's up to you to take the steps to change it. Without knowing the history between both of you it's hard to make any sort of suggestion to improve what's going on, but a trained professional can lead you in the right direction. Good luck.
2007-11-13 16:53:47 · answer #5 · answered by shellsub70 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Did you think about the fact that you might be just a little too clingy to her? Maybe she just needs some space? It's hard to say not knowing all of your history together. Start acting like this doesn't bother you at all, take up a hobby to occupy your mind, or start doing things you have always wanted to do... ex. learn to play guitar, learn how to box, start working out. Let her see that you don't need her to validate your self worth, she might take notice and find it a turn on. Some women dont' like men to try so hard, it makes them look vulnerable, and unattractive.
2007-11-13 16:13:27 · answer #6 · answered by Angel 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not being interested in you doesn't mean she is interested in something/someone else. It could mean that, but not necessarily.
You and your wife need to communicate. Talk about the problem. Find out why she is walking away from you. It sounds to me like she is either mad at you, or you are doing something that annoys her a lot.
One thing of importance - don't get angry and yell at her or belittle her or start a fight. And don't be a sissy and start crying when you start to talk to her. Get close to her and really try to get her to open up.
2007-11-13 15:43:30 · answer #7 · answered by mj69catz 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate it when men act like they are the victim. Do you make sex a pleasant experience? Do you listen to her? I suggest a weekly night out with her alone and trying to bring back the spark. Women love it when a man participates in what interests them. Take a dance lesson together, dress nicely at all times , brush your teeth before getting romantic and help her with children so SHE can find the time to feel romantic!
2007-11-13 15:33:37 · answer #8 · answered by livewire 4 · 5⤊ 0⤋
I would think you need to talk to your family Dr. explain how you feel, what you've tried, he will give you guidence, or you yourself go to a marriage counselor, you need not have her there ....You do need to brainstorm here and make an effort to get help, for yourself too, this is hard on you, your have needs and feelings also. She may have emotional problems, hormone problems, but start with yourself to get an understanding of what is going on and what YOU can do to help. Good luck.
2007-11-13 15:36:32 · answer #9 · answered by do.drop 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All I can suggest is talk to her. Tell her just what you said here and ask her how she feels about you and about your marriage. Tell her that you want things to work. Then give it some time. It took time for her to feel the way she does and it will take time for her to change. Be patient. Continue to show her kindness. Good luck.
2007-11-13 15:34:35 · answer #10 · answered by Sword Lily 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is she stressed about something? Did y'all have a fight before the change? Is she pregnant? Are the kids behaving? Is there something going on at work? Are her parents ill? Did your parents move in or are they coming to visit soon? Have you two grown apart?
Try to evaluate whats going on and go from there.
Good luck!
2007-11-13 15:36:12 · answer #11 · answered by antswife 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋