How can U love human but when u see their selfish side?

Question

how come most ppl r self center? how can I love human in general and when I see how selfish they are? thanx

Answer 1

Selfishness has nothing do with it at all. Do you truly want to love people? If so, then love them. Love them as they are.

True love is unconditional, which means it has no terms, no requirements, and no boundaries. Love does not need anything. It does not need to cling to something. It does not need companionship. It doesn't need anything in return, even love.

If you wish for people to be less selfish and show true love, then you must start with yourself. I think it was Ghandi who said this, but I'm willing to be wrong: "YOU must be the change you wish to see in the world." If you want people to 'see through the darkness', who better than -you- to be their light?

Answer 2

True Self-ishness always leads to joy, because it
is motivated always by the desire to feel as good
as possible. It is only when we are Self-ish
enough to be, do and act in accordance with our
desires (not someone else’s) that it is possible
to stay balanced. Energetically speaking, a desire
is a rush of life force energy, a connection to
the divine inner self, which can never result in
actions that are harmful. It is only when true
desires are blocked that they become twisted and
ugly. This statement goes against the common
wisdom that human nature is greedy, violent and
primitive. Human nature is precisely the opposite:
we are born knowing ourselves as powerful,
eternal, spiritual beings. Petty, competitive,
churlish and violent behavior must be overcome
with suitable practice. Observe your family,
friends and coworkers. Almost all of them are good
people, trying to do the best they can. It would
simply not be possible to build a sophisticated
society if human nature was so base. All
successful societies are based upon cooperation,
not competition. Competition works not because it
is adversarial, but because it inspires teamwork.
Ask two angry guys to get something constructive
done, it is not going to happen. All success is
based upon cooperation. That is because we live in
an attraction based universe.

These natural impulses are supposed to be
dangerous because they stem from a primitive
survival instinct. But human being has a better
mind than animals. Just look around at the mess
the world is in! But that is a delusional
assertion, a denial of the basic nature of
consciousness itself. The natural impulses of
human nature stem from a connection to life force,
and it is resistance to this divine impulse which
causes the selfish behavior people object to.

If you observe people you will quickly see that
those persons who are most alive are full of
desire, and those who look lifeless have little or
no desire. Desire = life force. Shut off desire =
selfish behavior. It's ironic that selfish
behavior actually results from self-denial.

Human nature is not a primitive, biological
instinct based on survival of the fittest, it’s a
pure connection to source energy. It is divine.
It's only when that connection is closed off that
selfish behavior is demonstrated. Every one of
your desires is, in its non-resisted state, joyful
and balanced, because that is an inherent property
of consciousness itself. True selfishness is
allowance of desire, without resistance, and
results in the impulse to give freely to others.
But it is first necessary to allow that impulse
within yourself.

http://kjmaclean.com/Selfishness.html


True selfishness comes from the inner voice. It is
deeper than ideas generated by conscious mind.
It reflects the higher consciousness in us.
It raises the psyche and Self to a nobler level.

True selfishness transcends the limitations of
sub-conscious instincts. It speaks of what you
are as soul.

http://www.search.com/search?q=Psychology+Inner+Voice

Answer 3

Try not to generalize and judge everyone by the selfish behavior of the minority. There are plenty of great people on this planet doing wonderful things for others, but it sometimes seems difficult to believe that, when the media is full of bad news.

On a more personal level, when you love someone, and then they show a selfish side, it makes us see them in a different light, and can tarnish what we previously thought of them.

Answer 4

We all do things for selfish reasons. The trick is to have a relationship with someone where both people are better off at no ones expense.

Answer 5

When people are selfish they are acting from the Ego (or false self) - you must learn to see their Authentic Self (or divine spirit) inside. We all are selfish at times.....but that doesn't mean we are not worthy of being loved.

Answer 6

This raises serious questions on the perception of yourself. If you do not love your species than it word be hypocritical and self centered to love yourself.
We are humans. We are imperfect, but we learn, and adapt and because of that imperfection we are on our way to finding perfection as a species.
Forgive yourself, forgive us, and you will be able to see past the faults of today, and see the hopes of tomorrow.

Answer 7

Because everyone is different.

Not all humans are nice, I must admit but not all humans are mean or selfish eithe.

:)
Humankind is cruel.

Answer 8

Are you not being a little selfish yourself right now? Ask yourself this.

Let he who has not sinned cast the first stone.