My husband was with a prostitute recently and he knows he has a problem. He is getting help.
How do I deal with this? It comes to my mind all the time and makes we question How could he? and it makes me sick.
Please help in ways I can get past this.....
2007-11-13 14:46:42 · 29 answers · asked by K_A_mom 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He is getting help and we are going to a counselor.
I just have times when it comes to my mind and I can't get it out.
2007-11-13 15:13:24 · update #1
It was not sex, it was a Bj....
2007-11-13 15:15:27 · update #2
We both have been tested for stds and hiv.
2007-11-13 15:38:01 · update #3
Bottom line, your justifying his dumb *** behavior...If you are silly enough to think that he has only received a bj from a prostitute, than you deserve every disease he "will" bring home to you. You stated that you are getting counseling, which implies that this is a reoccurring problem that your having. Seriously, wake up!!!
Only a bj, get real.
2007-11-13 17:50:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
How'd you find out? What were other circumstances? Were you fighting at the time? Depriving him in some way? Was he on a business trip and a little tipsy? I know all the young women on here are saying get a divorce, but in essence going with a hooker is the same as masturbation and just one step further than going to a strip club. Why? Because there's no emotional attachment -- it's just physical. If he was protected, he's probably clean. Get him tested and address the issues that had him go to a hooker, but it's not the end of the world.
2007-11-13 15:08:18 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is a major difference between cheating with another woman and hiring a prostitute.
Cheating involves emotions. Cheating takes an investment in time and emotion. It usually doesn't happen overnight and by the time you become aware of it, it could have been happening for years. It stays hidden for as long as possible.
Men hire prostitutes for two reasons...
1) Curiosity... Is there more to this sex thing that I don't understand... Can I learn something from a pro?
2) He is not satisfied with sex at home... He hasn't emotionally strayed, just physically strayed.
2007-11-13 15:01:03 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like u are a very supportive wife, that must be very hard to deal with....I can only suggest seeing a counsellor together...I think that would be a good start & then u can progress from there...it's just good to have a third party involved to mediate...I think if he won't go & is not willing to work on his problem, that u may have to consider moving on as it is not fair for u to suffer & to invest time in something where he is the only one that can make that actual decision & work on it...He is luck to have u, u obviously love him...Good Luck...I hope it works out...
2007-11-13 14:56:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you can deal with it just fine bc you are still there , I think the problem is getting past it. And honestly I don't know how to help you. I mean if there is such a thing is the good part- the good part about it is that its not an affair , it seems to hurt worse when its on going.
But good luck!
2007-11-13 14:51:33 · answer #5 · answered by Mrs.G-unit 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I haven't had to deal with this, so I don't know how you feel. ONe positive thing is that he's getting help. If you really love each other, and he's getting help, there may be a way out of this. Try and find out why he did it. It is usually a symptom of some deeper underlying problem. Perhaps the help he's getting (I assume counseling?) will bring out this cause and deal with it.
2007-11-13 14:53:24 · answer #6 · answered by Linni 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That nobody can answer! I'm Sorry!
The fact is that he needs help and until he has gotten it, you are not going to be able to get past it.You are going to see that deception every time you look in his eyes. And IF he is truly sorry for what he has done than you will make that decision.
But you and only you will have to make that decision all on your own and when you do it will be the right one for you!
2007-11-13 14:55:52 · answer #7 · answered by CrazyH 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you can get by this without "real professional help"
I still have issue now with current wife even though the issue deals back to ex who was out exploring others. My trust was broke and still wary of others even though years later. I do seek help but not sure it will ever move out of thoughts completely. you know in heart what will be best for you.
2007-11-13 14:55:08 · answer #8 · answered by H C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Angela i had the best answer to me. i haven't went threw nothing like that but i have been threw something with my boyfriend and another woman. First go to the doctor then to a counselor. Hope everything works out.
2007-11-13 15:04:05 · answer #9 · answered by sexxy213 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you'll ever get past this. Honestly, once trust is gone...it's just gone. Work on it...blah,blah,blah, but it's gone.
He's right in that he has a problem and I think it's great he's getting help but why put your life on the line for any man who's been with a hooker.
I'd suggest to get gone before he gives you some nasty bug you don't deserve. Think about it. You deserve so much more!!!
2007-11-13 15:00:34 · answer #10 · answered by butterflylover 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋