Does your family.....?????

Question

Ever talk about you and the things they think you are doing?
Ok my family just last night made a chain that reached from California to New Mexico, My mom decied that it would be ok to start a big nasty thing and say I was cheating on my husband! Then my sister calls my husband and tells him all this and the messed up thing is that he belives her! He and my sister both told me I should just kill myself and do everyone a favor! My husband and I have been married for 4 years and together for 8, I have never given him any reason to belive that I would ever cheat or lie to him! My mom is not all there mentally and no one but me and my old brother can see it they all refuse to open their eyes and take a good look!Well needless to say I told them all to go away and stay there! Question I guess is what do I do about my Husband? do keep trying or give up? He is always out of town and god knows what he does when hes gone 3 or 4 months at a time! I do love him but I cant take this thing....

Thanks everyone for your answers! Some of you asked if we have kids....We do, we have 2 great little boys!

Answer 1

It sounds like you have a pretty dysfuntional family. I would definitely distance my relationship with them as it sounds very toxic. I don't think that your relationship with your husband has a lot of trust if he would believe your sis over you. I would ponder whether the relationship is worth saving and fighting for. If it is I suggest you go to joint counseling to deal with your issues. Best of luck.

Answer 2

How did this turn on your husband.? Sounds like you two need to talk. I work with Mental people and they say and believe a LOT of things that are NOT true, I would guess your husband knows your mom and has to be told she is the source of the news. I wish you all the best, but you don't GIVE UP because of what other people say. Stay strong and talk to your husband.

Answer 3

im sry that youre going through this. i couldnt image..
but if you husband cant believe you and tells you things like this then you need to get out. you need someone that is there for you at all times..physically and mentally. you dont need someone that treats you like crap and hurts you!! you should be happy, and if he is telling you things like that, then i cant see how you can be happy. you only have one life..why should you waste it on someone that cant appreciate you.

and as far as you waco sister, and mom...you need to stay away from them..bc they are hurting you! but forgive them (all of them) bc you are better then that. maybe you can also try to talk to them and ask them why they are saying all of this. and if that doesnt work, then just stay away..until they understand what they are doing to you and your family.

oh and you said "god knows what he does when hes gone 3 or 4 months at a time!" well that answers you question. if you do not trust your husband there is no way your marriage is going to last much longer. without trust you cannot have respect, love..etc...Good luck sry again!

Answer 4

I am sorry for you.
If my mother ever said something that nasty I would probably forget everything God has ever told us about honouring are mother and father.

If your husband believes it than there's really nothing you can do. Tell him the truth and if he still doesn't want to believe you than I am sorry to say that he was looking for a way out already and took the first one he could.
You can do better anyways. It sucks though cause you have committed 8 years to this man who was suppose to love you and honor you.
Do you have kids with him?

Answer 5

well first of all your husband should be on your side about all this. if he is not then it just shows how guilty he may be about things he is doing when he is out of town for 3 or 4 mths at a time.
and 2nd if he loves his family (you) then he wouldn't be out for 3 or 4 mths at a time. i don't care what profession he is in....no man that loves and misses his family is gonna stay gone for that long. i would figure out a plan..
do you have any where to go? are there kids involved? if you can figure those things out and they not conflict with anyone in your family then you should go for it. you deserve to be happy and not treated like crap from mental people who have their own issues they cant handle.
take care and god bless!

Answer 6

what a terrible sister to rat you out (even though you didn't do anything) to your husband before talking to you about it! I'd try to explain to him the whole situation and that it's not true. if he keeps up with not believing you take a lie detector test! Otherwise move on, if there's no trust in a relationship then theres nothing.

Answer 7

If he believes others rather than you its not worth the effort. Trust takes dedication to develop but if a liar can destroy it then it wasn't worth it.
Don't bother to try to explain to your husband, move into another room and let him know that you don't want any part of someone who doesn't trust you. He will work out if he wants to do something about it. You can love him as much as you like but don't let his doubt destroy both his own and your happiness. Its trust or nothing.

Answer 8

I think we may be related..do you live in the farmington, Aztec area?? Just kidding.. my family is the same way, they have been spreading lies to my hubby about me from the day we met and to me about him. My husband has learned that my family is totally f**ed up....anyway. I think if you and your husband have trust in each other then what other people say including family shouldn't matter! I wish you and yours the best of luck!

Answer 9

He is having sex with your sister. They are trying to break up the marriage so they can be together. Check phone bills and see when he is calling her.

Answer 10

If your husband has no other reason to believe this other than your sister telling him that it's true...then why would he believe her over you if you haven't given him any reason to suspect in the first place?