My husband wants me to have another threesome with a friend of ours. How do I control my jeaolusy side without showing it?
2007-11-13 13:36:47 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
don't ever do anything against your will that u don't agree with just to keep a man. u don't control your jealousy u just refuse to do it. if your not enough for him than he will end up cheating on u anyway behind your back at some point. why open up yourself to this, tell him no way and basically what he is saying is your not enough, and he doesn't value u or the marriage. we all have a sense of what is right and wrong for ourselves, and what he might think is good for him can have devastating effects on u emotionally. don't allow him to treat u like this.
2007-11-13 23:06:05 · answer #1 · answered by jude 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You don't honey. This is not a win/win situation. If you feel anything like jealousy then this will destroy your marriage. For me it was my wife who wanted a threesome. I said OK and hoped for my own in return (never happened) Afterwards she was not satisfied with just one man anymore and had several loves before she met a guy on line and left to be with him. This after 25 years together. Truthfully, and I asked hundreds on line years ago. But only a handful have ever had a good threesome that didn't end up in divorce or some perverted marriage. Sorry honey, not sure how to Tell your hubby that it is a no no for you. Hopefully he will love you enough to stay with only you and let his fantasy threesome be only that a fantasy.
2007-11-13 13:45:47 · answer #2 · answered by D. Scott 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Some things are better left as a fantasy. Would your hubby be OK watching you get turned on and made love to by another male? If not, and you are not OK with this, stop and talk about it. If you do this again, it might kill your relationship. If he's a decent man, he will still love and respect you for expressing your fear and jealousy. If he is men about it, you may have to rethink the whole thing... good luck!
2007-11-13 13:52:12 · answer #3 · answered by Gatubella 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Obviously if you are jealous then you don't need to have a threesome. If you are not comfortable then there isn't anything you can do to control the feelings you are having. Just don't do it and explain to him why if he isn't okay with it then he will have to find a way to get over it.
2007-11-13 13:41:22 · answer #4 · answered by Shavon 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
if you should ever do a threesome, YOU have to be in control of the ENTIRE situation. let him know that will be the only way for that situation to even possibly be considered.
and YOU pick the girl. someone who you're comfortable with. and you set the rules. "no kissing on the mouth....etc...."
if he doesn't agree to any of these terms. no dice. end of story.
2007-11-13 18:22:48 · answer #5 · answered by dropdeadcherry 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Another? If you are jealous than tell him no. You do not have to do this. Tell him that you want the next threesome to be with another man. Most of them will not go for this so why should you?
2007-11-13 13:42:56 · answer #6 · answered by kim h 7 · 6⤊ 0⤋
I'm old school. Threesomes a marriage dose not make a marriage. remove your jealousy along with your mate. A husband who loves you will not "share".
2007-11-13 13:45:20 · answer #7 · answered by charlie e 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your husband just wants to "DO" someone else.. Not very nice, if you don't want to do it just as much. Tell him NO, that you don't want to, if that is the way you feel. It's not a good thing, if you are supposedly in a committed relationship. (ie Married) How would he feel if you wanted to do someone else? Probably a little jealous... And this is not the first time you have done this.. so if you didn't like this sort of thing once, why should you do it again. Don't let him force you to do something you don't like!
2007-11-13 13:51:52 · answer #8 · answered by MrJohnh 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Assuming he wants the threesome to be with another woman, and if you're considering doing it, do it under ONE condition ONLY: You get to have another threesome, only this time it's with another man.
2007-11-13 13:47:18 · answer #9 · answered by jeff b 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
ok to all of you who have ancered this any of you ever think that maybe she is bi and wants to be with the other woman. Here is what I have to say about it, If she is bi and wanting to be with other woman than she has no right to tell her husband that he cant be with them woman at all. I mean what is the deal it is ok for her but not him????
Now if she is not bi and her husband is just wanting a 3some with another woman than no she dosent have to go through with it and have anouther one, Even if she did have one before. Altough if she dosent have another one she needs to sit and talk with her husband and explane why she dont want to and will not have anouther one and let him know that it is not an opption.
2007-11-13 13:59:03 · answer #10 · answered by mr1of2 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋