i really really need some help here.....my boyfriend left me b/c of my bitching...i was a stay at home mom so i just lost all my income.....he's a really good guy and we discussed visitation and child support and came to an agreement but my question is how do i cope w/ this loss w/out putting my baby in the middle........i cant stay calm around him b.c everytime i look at him i see his dad....he looks just like him.........how do i get through this and work it out.....
2007-11-13 13:36:19 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I had the same problem for awhile. Thank god he looks just like me now! lol All little kids look like the dads. It is security to Dad that it is his. Just try and remember you are everything to that little guy and he needs you. You have the chance to make him into a great man. I made it my mission in life to raise a great man. Try and remain calm, you are really going to be happier at the end of the day. I have a great husband now and I am one of those rare people with a perfect life. You will be fine. Don't be angry, just take care of you and what is important to you.
2007-11-13 13:59:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to be mature enough to realize that your baby is not his dad and has no control over what his dad does. If you cannot do this you need to let his father have him. Call the county services where you live so that you can get assistance for right now. There is help out there for you. I also would get a court order for child support. What he tells you and what he does might be two different things. I think that him leaving over your bitching is an excuse for him to leave.
2007-11-13 21:50:05 · answer #2 · answered by kim h 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Slow down and try to really see your baby. I mean really see how amazing and what a gift he is--a totally unique person who will do crazy stuff you can't even imagine yet. Take him somewhere fun like the zoo or a museum--a lot of museums have free days each month, and watch his reaction to things--try to see the world through his eyes. He is exactly what it sounds like you need-- a completely fresh start.
Also, try to get a good sitter. If family's not an option, then a college student. Even if it's only for 2-3 hours a week. It will be good for both of you--and you deserve the break. Do something nice for yourself during it!
2007-11-13 22:35:50 · answer #3 · answered by angelfire 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whatever you do don't take it out on your son. To quell your nagginess you need to pray and go to church and start reading the Bible. That will change you and maybe in time your ex will come around once you have done all these things. Pray so that God can change you and give you the patience you need on a daily basis. The power of God can do anything.
2007-11-13 21:43:22 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try to remember some of the good day's with 'daddy' and be thankful for the things you admired about him in the first place. But yes, it's time to move on to more exciting and better things. And along with it, comes the unconditional love (your child) he promised you.
2007-11-13 22:02:39 · answer #5 · answered by Lynda G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont use your baby to get back at your x. Thats really immature and you will pay for it in the long run. Be nice to him when he comes around. It will make him wonder what your up to... LOL (kill 'em with kindness)
2007-11-13 22:09:44 · answer #6 · answered by beanodom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋