my mother moved out of the house with my sister so its usually jsut me and my dad so ive had to learn to be more independent which im doing pretty well at, and theres a possiblilty that my parents may get back together. My mother was seeing someone but realized he was an alcoholic. My father was seeing a women that was great for him but he realized that he wasnt over my mother.
2007-11-13 12:47:48 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Apparently they have lost the trust in a structured relationship. Your parents have moved on but they still love you. The only thing I can suggest is to support and love them both.
2007-11-13 12:51:16 · answer #1 · answered by Los 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you could help by supporting the both of them equally and help show them the values and reasons why they got married in the beginning. An outsiders perspective on relationships is always helpful. Coming from their son to it will mean a lot to them and they might sit back and have a think about things form a different aspect. Don't try to push them into arguing about it, just help them talk about the issues that are causing them to feel this way. Try to limit the issues by finding a healthy resolution. I never believed in councelling but when i lost my brother to suicide, it messed me up. I only had to visit a counsellor twice and i was back to my old self again!! The main thing is to keep strong for them both and they will get there eventually!
2007-11-13 12:59:14 · answer #2 · answered by ..*jexic*.. 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Root causes must be addressed, or whatever drove them apart will do it again.
They didn't break up when your older sister turned 14 did they? That can mean that they will likely be able to get back together, and make it. The toughest years of marriage are when your oldest turns 14. With a little maturing on the kids part, and a little lower stress on the parents, they can get back together, and stay together. The root cause in that case was parent-kid conflict and has likely to some degree resolved itself.
2007-11-13 12:51:46 · answer #3 · answered by Curly 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The split wasn't your fault, nor can you do anything to get them back together. They have to work through their problems with eachother. Let them know how you feel about them and be supportive of their decision, whatever it is. I know how hard it hurts you for them to be apart but if they are unhappy together, it will eventually hurt you and them more. I hope they do get back together because nothing is more impertant than family but they will be your family and they will love you no matter what happens. Give it some time and pray, see what happens. Good luck!
2007-11-13 12:59:06 · answer #4 · answered by shelly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just don't play one against the other and stay out of the way! If they can patch things up, that would be great! Even so, it could be a rough ride down the road, so hold on tight.
If they can't, you should try to be as neutral as possible. After all, they are both your parents!
2007-11-13 12:53:24 · answer #5 · answered by Chuck 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It can be very confusing helping in that area. I know is more serious when you have kids, but I think couples are in fact just couples... and sometimes... they need a break from each other. Maybe you get lucky and they get back together. If that's what you really want.
Meanwhile just be suportive, because If they are putting things on perspective I don't think they need any more presure.
2007-11-13 12:58:48 · answer #6 · answered by Yoyawan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you and your sister are caught in the middle.
Call with any problem, Anytime:
Girls and Boys Town National Hotline
Phone: 1-800-448-3000
Email: Hotline@girlsandboystown.org
2007-11-13 12:56:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The problems that your parents have, they will have to work on by themselves. I think that it is wonderful that you love both of them enough to want to help. But they are suppose to adults, and if they are meant to get back together, they will see it and do it.
I wish you and your family all the best wishes in the world
2007-11-13 12:53:32 · answer #8 · answered by mrs_endless 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing to do is to not get involved if you do that will usually interfere badly. Just be nice to both parents and act like you like it more when both of them are together.
2007-11-13 12:52:23 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell both parent that you would like a whole family again. That you miss both of them.
2007-11-13 13:01:20 · answer #10 · answered by Goodhead 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋