child support?? my mom thinks i am nuts??

Question

i have custody of our child.. who is 15.. we divorce when she was 12 at that time she wanted to live with me.. now she wants to live with her dad.. because her sister live there.. so i agree to give him his child support back.. plus the same admount of money that he would be paying me..I think it is fair..by doing this i save the both of us the cost of a lawyer to change everything over.. plus the cost of court.. she may change her mind next year.. and if he had to pay me when i had her .. why should'n t i pay the same.. i gave him a 40% reduction in child support and we make the same admount of money so i am getting the same deal.. what do you think

mom thinks i sue him for child support .. thruth is the judge would not sign papers until a support was order so he came up with the admount.. not much 50 bucks a week..

ask m.. she just moved back this past week end

marine girl.. neigher of us wants to go back to court. he don' t have the mnoey for it .. and i dont either.. he just wants his money back..plus the admount that we agreed apon.. and in the beging .. he was suppose to pay 87 dollars aweek. he makes more now.. that was 3 yrs ago.. he make like 2 dollars more than i do.. but it about the same for me because i make what he made then

Answer 1

you dont give back the money hes already paid you~ that would be nuts, however, if shes going to be living with her dad, then yes you should be paying him child support~ after all the money isnt for the parents~ its for your kids. for instance~ if a father is givin custody to begin with the mother is responsible to pay child support~ its not just a man thing~ its a parent thing


i didnt say anything about going back to court~ i was merely making an example, that being said, you never stated in your question that the money you were giving back was for the past 3 years or just the current month- in cased you missed it i was agreeing with you as far as paying him child support- you just made it sound like you were going to give him back all the support he has giving you over the years

Answer 2

all you do is switch. you pay him the support and he takes your child full time with visitation for you.

go to the court and get a stipulated motion. it just has to be filed, the judge will sign off on anything that you agree to. there is only a filing fee, no attorney necessary. you sign it, he signs it and whala! all done.

look, anytime parents can amicably come to an agreement, then by all means go with it. and if your daughter decides to switch back, change the paperwork again. btw, you can mail it in, you don't actually have to be at the courthouse in the long lines if you know the exact amount for the filing fee. normal filing fee is only $40.00. it's always best to get everything in writing once it's started out that way. just cover everyone's butts.

Answer 3

Your mom needs to keep out of it. I salute you both for being so understanding and willing to support this. It is your lives and what you are saying sounds quite fair to me and most sane people. Besides by showing the kids that you two can still act sane even though you are apart will more healthy then fighting over things and putting the kids against one parent or the other.

Answer 4

doesnt really matter what we think. If you both agree to a new arrangement then get all the details on paper and get it notorized in case something happens. You can signify it as temporary or long term, but spellout every little detail involved including any monetary amounts. You can alsoregister this with the courts if needbe but its up to you

Answer 5

sounds like a plan, although you really ought to get something legally done, perhaps in writing, about the child support over all. since if the legal system catches wind of anything being done between the two of you that is not going as planned in the paperwork, it could come back and bite both of you on your asses.

Answer 6

Actually I think that's pretty awesome of you. There are not many women who feel like they have to pay child support if the child lives with the father. Which is completely unfair. I think any mother would think that was kinda crazy...but we are not our mothers!
Kudos to you for doing what's right!!

Answer 7

I would call off all the child support and just let the child live with whoever she wants to, she is old enough to decide. She needs her daddy. Lucky you at least your kid's want their dad and he is willing to TAKE CARE OF THEM...

My ex hasn't seen my kids in 1 month. Now, think about that.
He also owes 19,000.00 in ORDERED child support.

Answer 8

you don't give him the money back that he has given you,
because he didn't give it to you, he gave it to support
your daughter for 3 years, she was nice to call you nuts.

You just start paying him what he was paying you providing
you can afford it, if not the Court makes you pay depending
on what you make (which could be less than what he was
paying you)

Answer 9

Your not nuts...you are being fair..you should support the child..it has nothing to do with money to the father or to you..its about taking care of your child. Good for you, I SAY!!

Answer 10

provided that many women human beings additionally get a great deal of emotional convenience from having a infant, getting loose money ON appropriate of it quite is a Win/Win deal. If women human beings are as much as the job of elevating a infant on their very own, enable them to pay for it on their very own, besides. -Her physique, her decision... HER *accountability*.-