i just filed 4 divorce & 2 day found out that i'm pregnant.the problem is the reason i filed 4 divorce is because i wsn't happy & have already found someone else.i will not cheat on my husband until my divorce is final,therefore i know the baby is his.the new guy says he will stand by me no matter what decision i make,but prefers me have an abortion.i don't know if i can do that.somebody please give me some input no matter what it is.thanx.
2007-11-13 12:01:14 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Seriously, do not abort your baby. See that?...not a thing, a BABY! Just because you were not happy with your husband does not mean that your child together does not deserve to live. And do you really want to become another statistic? If you were still having sex with him, he couldn't be that bad, right? You vowed to stay together through bad times and good. I'm sure you have had your good, and maybe you are going through your bad. And maybe this is a sign that you and your husband are meant to stay together? It sounds like you have morals. You haven't cheated and you are hesitant to have an abortion. If this new guy is wanting you to get an abortion, he may not necessarily be a step up from your hubby. And if you have conscience at all, you won't let yourself abort someones baby without their consent and knowledge. And even though I don't agree with it, you need to tell your husband and he may agree that an abortion may be for the best? Good Luck and don't do something that will come back to haunt you!
2007-11-13 12:27:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
This is a very big deal, and you must talk to your soon to be ex about the entire situation, you cant deprive him of knowing whats going on, for the child is just as much his. You can always raise a healthy, happy child in a divorced family, it might feel like a very weird situation at first, but actually having the child will make it all seem worth it and make you feel like you can get through anything.
2007-11-13 12:11:42 · answer #2 · answered by Jamie 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow! sorry to hear that. Did you leave your husband because you just weren't happy or was there something seriously wrong with the relationship? Were they things that could not be fixed? is there any chance that you would ever want to go back to your ex?
If you prefer not to abort the baby, why not consider giving it up for adoption. Because there are PLENTY of couples (myself included) who would love to adopt a healthy, happy baby. You could have your conscience clear of any guilt and the baby could get the best care.
Best of luck on your decision!
2007-11-13 12:28:04 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
If this new guy loved you he wouldn't want you to get an abortion. You don't have to reconsile with your soon to be ex husband but just give this baby a happy life. It will be some kind of drama when the baby is born but this new guy should accept you and the baby.
2007-11-13 12:11:34 · answer #4 · answered by SiCnGaged 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't have the abortion just for this guy. He said he'll stand by you if you have the baby so have the baby if it's what YOU want. And if you and your husband are going to be amicable have joint custody that way no matter what your baby will be protected.
2007-11-15 05:46:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's your body....if you want this child then you and your ex make this choice. I know in some states to terminate a child without telling the father and them later finding out can be damaging in whatever means of action he chooses to take. Abortion is never easy for someone and I don't agree with it but that is your choice. Talk with your ex and find a solution to the pregnancy and see how to live a life around this new child. You can be friends with an ex.....Best of Luck.
2007-11-13 12:07:56 · answer #6 · answered by Military Mama due 03/09 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
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2016-10-02 07:32:49 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I get that you weren't happy and want to be with this other guy, however, there is now a pregnancy, so, the real question here is:
What do YOU want to do?
Run all the scenario's in your head, but if you're not ready to be a mother, then by all means, decide.
2007-11-15 05:44:49 · answer #8 · answered by Yankee Micmac 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You were not happy but evidently still happy enough to sleep with your husband and get pregnant. Well, If it's not the other guy's I give you credit for that, but I am totally against abortion. The child did nothing wrong, why kill it?
Keep the baby, set up custody with the ex husband, and make him pay child support. Don't KILL an innocent baby please.
2007-11-13 12:06:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
dont abort this child for a boyfriend!!!!!!!!!!!
tell ur husband u are pregnant this is a sign that u 2 should give this another try
would this be the first child??
if so thats even more of a sign...plus the relationship couldnt have been so bad if u were still having sex with him.....
call him now and tell him im sure whatever problems u had would get better once he finds out ur carrying a baby for him
2007-11-13 12:05:30 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 2⤋