How does someone who is insecure about themselves become secure in themselves?

Answer 1

I was once very insecure, in fact, I was extremely insecure. How did I get over it? By believing in myself that I had something to offer others. I did not always feel this way. I took the first step and actually answered someone's question in a group setting. People really listened to me, because I rarely said anything. They told me afterwards that what I said was very profound. It gave me confidence. Then I started reasoning to myself that perhaps my mother wasn't wrong when she told me that i could do anything and how smart I was. Then, I remembered that a teacher once said how smart I was. I then realized that perhaps maybe I was the only one who thought I wasn't smart. I started believing in myself. Little by little, I gained confidence by speaking up when I felt I had something to say. It worked and I gained confidence slowly but surely. Try and read the book, "Born to Win." It changed my life. It's a small paperback. Good luck!

Answer 2

Make a list of your good qualities ... after listing them all, I'm sure you have more than you originally thought you did. Begin doing things for yourself that you enjoy, such as taking a class or course they've always wanted to take or do volunteer work so that you feel good about yourself. Go out to eat alone ... after a while, you'll find that it's really not bad to be by yourself. Say something positive about yourself while you're looking in the bathroom mirror every morning. When you experience negative "self talk" coming into your thoughts ... recognize it and stop it ... replace it with a positive thought. Most of the time, it's not yours anyway ... it came from someone else and it is now hurting you. Learn to recognize your self-abusing behaviors if you have any, and replace them with positive behaviors, such as journaling or meditation.

Answer 3

Hearing positive encouragement from others helps. But, when this is not possible, you have to tell yourself that you are a good person. Maybe even make a written list of all your good qualities. Focus on the positive rather than the negative.

Answer 4

Find the inner peace in you!. That place inside you know is where inner peace and happiness are suppose to be. But you just feel emptiness. And no clue what will fill the emptiness.
You find inner peace and happiness where they have always been had you but tried to find them. Inside yourself.
Once you find your inner peace and happiness, no one can take them from you, no one can make you unhappy if you choose not to be.
there is a program to teach you how to find that place inside yourself where happiness has always been, if you are interested, email me. I will provide a web site.

Answer 5

face your insecurities and what your insecure about. Everyone have inferior feelings and a good way to subdue it is to compensate for it and making it more positive.

ex. if you feel that your fat, do exercises or focus on studying.

Answer 6

sex drugs and rock-n-roll helps everything