Ok so I am a baton twirler, and a possible cheerleader and I want to play soccer. Thing is, that most people think those people are preppy, popular, and super-pretty. For me, WRONG-O!!! My favorite bands are Led Zeppelin, Green Day, and My Chemical Romance. I love punk clothing and skater clothes, and I play guitar. I have no clue, If I dress edgy or punk and I am a cheerleader, I no people will laugh at me and call me a poser. And the preps will call me goth or emo, or some other crappy label. I don't really care what people think, but this is what keeps me up at night, amongst school work and self-image issues. I am 13 and usually get 5 hours of sleep, and I lay awake in bed for hours pondering my thoughts in depth as my mind is trying to shut down. I am really stressed, what to do?
2007-11-13 11:26:51 · 11 answers · asked by Carey 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Once a preppy cheerleader said I looked dead and ugly, for an example.
2007-11-13 11:27:30 · update #1
Be who you are. That is the problem with the world today. Everyone tries to fit into the typical stereotypical modes. Who is to say that cheerleaders are only supposed to listen to Britney Spears? Like whatever you like, and do whatever you do, even if the world thinks its weird.
I am one of the most conservative people you will ever meet. I am happily married and a mother of two. And I listen to the most extreme music you will ever hear. I have four tattoos and want many more...I love them! I wear Timberland boots one day, and stiletto heels the next. I am a walking contradiction through the worlds eyes, but guess what? This is who I am, and I wouldn't change for NOTHING.
2007-11-13 11:38:04 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
woah woah woah HOLD IT right there!!!!! you said : "Thing is, that most people think those people are preppy, popular, and super-pretty. For me, WRONG-O!!! "
so YOU'RE complaining that people might label you?????
look at what you just did!!!
you also said: And the preps will call me goth or emo, or some other crappy label.
ummm.... just just labeled the "preps"
you just ASSUMED that a "prep" would call you "goth" or "emo"
and you also said that a "preppy" cheerleader called you dead and ugly.
Ok. so i am a cheerleader and a figure skater. I am what labelers would call "preppy"
I wear hollister, like pop music and pink. I have NEVER EVER hated a "goth" or an "emo"
I am best friends with a "goth"
And my favorite bands and MY Chemical Romance, Fergie, and Hannah Montana.
You are afraid that the "preps" will call you "goth" or "Emo"
But really the "preps" should be afraid of you because you're labeling them.
Anyway, besides those facts, be yourself. Ignore the people that want to label you. and while your doing that, stop labeling and assuming things about people who just so happen to like the brand Hollister.
Anyway, good luck on making cheerleading.
2007-11-13 21:51:20 · answer #2 · answered by skataa63 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
the most punk thing u can do is walk around looking liek u dont give a f*** what others think about u. then everyone's gonna be like "oooh that girl doesn't give a care what i think.. so she must be some punk and not a poser" b/c you'll see posers really caring too much about what others think about htem.
uhhg. basically.........this whole 13 yr old phase will be over in like 2 years and by the time ur like 16... u REALLY don't give a care what everyone else think about u./
2007-11-13 20:22:40 · answer #3 · answered by ur cute 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please, just forget all those labels. They're for soup cans.
Do you like cheerleading?
Then be a cheerleader.
Who cares what someone says about that, they're either jealous or they have self-image issues of their own. I used to tease people because I had a majorly bad case of acne and I was afraid to go out in public.
It's not as easy as it sounds, but if you ignore them, even try to be friendly, they'll quit it and apologize eventually.
If people laugh at you, well, that's their problem. Schools have so much drama that they'll probably talk about it for a week then forget about it.
2007-11-13 19:32:58 · answer #4 · answered by charlotte 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget about all those silly stereotypes and the people who go around making others feel bad about themselves. Forget about "preppy," "popular," and "super pretty." BE YOURSELF. You shouldn't care about those judgmental people who you won't even remember 10 years from now. Forget about the label makers and be the unique you that's just waiting to show herself off to the world!
2007-11-13 20:19:06 · answer #5 · answered by LOLs @ Everything 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be yourself. You might as well have fun doing the things you want than trying to conform to some stereotype. Once you get over that, it gets a lot better.
2007-11-13 19:31:45 · answer #6 · answered by <3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I go through the same things. People think I'm goth/emo because of the music I like (like wtf lol :P ) but I dress rather normally. It's best to dress and act how you like to, don't listen to people use your brain's ignore lise (haha I'm a WoW nerd, also, :P so lots of terms from there :P )
You like how you look! Who cares if other people don't?!
rock on :-)
2007-11-13 19:37:28 · answer #7 · answered by peanut909 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
so it does bother you.....
labels are gay
i know cheerleaders who are no where neer preppy!
when i met them i had no idea they cheered! so screw people and dont lose sleep over idiots~
btw great music taste x]
2007-11-13 19:40:32 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
simple enough just be you an if anyone calls you a poser or anything just say hey this is me
2007-11-13 23:50:30 · answer #9 · answered by panthor001 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be YOU.
and do whatever you like.
You get NOWHERE in life if you try to please everyone. It just doesn't work. Just get more self esteem and be happy with yourself.
2007-11-13 19:32:37 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋